My parents are always up my butt about evreything and they blame stupid stuff that they did on ME what do i do about it?
2007-09-28 11:08:11 · 8 answers · asked by A-Chill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you politely and respectfully talked to them about it yet. As a teenager it is part of your role in development to "test the the waters", but in doing so you still have to be aware of the many responsibilities they carry towards your safety and future. I am sure what seems like butt riding to you comes out of love and concern from them. They possibly have some fears of you making similar mistakes they made in the past and want to protect you from that.
If you calmly talk to them about your concerns and frustractions at a time when they are not riding your case, and present your argument in a mature way they are likely to listen to you and think again before they do. They might also explain why they feel they need to be on you like that in a way you have not thought about yet.
Be sure to do this as an adult and not in the heat of an argument or it will just make things worse.
2007-09-28 11:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Scott M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and stop accepting things that your parents give you, like money, cell phone and bills, rides to your friends houses. If you start saving now you can move out soon. Start becoming more independant and don't rely on them. Get your driver's license and your own car (you can always live in it, it's cheaper than rent). WALK if you have to. Just stop asking your parents for things. Spend as much time out of the house as possible so you aren't around when they f**k things up. Do your own dishes before you leave the house, though. And start doing your own laundry. You've got to grow up sometime, if your parents are incompetant, start now.
2007-09-28 12:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by Drydofoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW!! im 14 and mine used to be like that too. It rly sucks and its so annoying. and if your parents are anything like mine they dont listen when you try to tlak to them and then they say you are being disrespectful. But try to talk to them more. Now the "up the butt thing" thats normal for parents cause they are concerned and everything but when they blame you for their problems thats wrong. The last time my parents did it to me I left, i went to my friends house and told them im not taking it anymore. and this isnt always smart because the police can be called and if you dont have proof you can get in trouble. Honestly, if you want to get out a the situation get proof. Tape record them blaming you for stuff they did obivously more then once and date it before every recording. MAKE SURE YOUR VOICE IS ON THERE TOO!! my dad told me that the person you are tape recording doesnt need to know you are recording them and its not illeagal as long as you voice is on it. Anyway that way if you decide to leave for the night and the cops do get called, you have proof that you needed to leave. i dont suggest doing that but do it if you are desperate. and dont let ur parents find the tape.
good luck
2007-09-28 12:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ohhemmgee_its_Angie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do what you are told the first time, be respectful and show your maturity by taking care of your own things (do your own laundry for instance)and do things for other family members without having to be asked (feed the dog, wash the car, fix a meal). Be an example for your younger siblings if you have them, and spend your time studying instead of playing video games or watching tv. Read books, get to bed on time and don't eat junk food.
Essentially take the wind out of their sails by thinking ahead and don't give them anything to complain about.
2007-09-28 11:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, parents "up your butt"-- that must hurt.
Look, if you want to have a rant about your parents you're going to have to be specific. If they are really blaming you for things they did (which sounds pretty odd), you're going to have to give details so we can give you a proper answer.
2007-09-28 11:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them point blank, "You did that, why are you blaming me?" If you are right, a public relations mechanism is to stick with your point. When they come back without a logical answer ask again, "You did that, why are you blaming me?" Then walk away and leave them with their mouths wide open.
2007-09-28 11:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what kind of stuff do they blame you of??
i have parent issues too..so i kinda know how you feel but i need more info.
2007-09-28 11:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by TRANSMETALERA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you move out.
2007-09-28 11:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kristina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋