can anyone suggest any thoughts i could convey to my daughter who seems to be losing her confience. She never used to worry about walking up and down our street or going to the local shop, but for the past 6 mths she is getting more and more anxios about being left on her own or someone coming to take her away.
I just want to be able to reassure her but find myself wordless when he tells me this. I always act gently towards her and comfort her with cuddles and tlc and listen to her, but its like I lose all of my communication skills. I usually manage to pick my friends up when they need it and my job relies on my communication skills so what can i do? do any other parents have any tips or advice on this ?
2007-09-28 11:07:49 · 7 answers · asked by caramel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no not bullying as she loves school and is really popular, always with her friends. we do talk frankly about her fears and we are very close, she cofides in me as i do her. she tells me there is no underlying reason for this fear which is why I worry about this.
2007-09-28 11:25:23 · update #1
I too have a 12year old who went through a stage of lacking in confidence. Unfortunatley the world we live in keeps going on about all these perverts on the loose its no wonder that she is worried. My daughter told me that she was worried about being taken away and hated going out alone. So we went out with her just for a while to boost her confidence again. We also make sure she has her mobile phone with her and tell her to ring us if she feels frightened or even if she wants to just hear our voice. It has boosted her confidence back again. And with regards for helping others ok, I find its always easy to give advice to others but its normally harder when its your own problems.
2007-09-28 21:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think anything you SAY to her is going to help her, she needs to somehow gain confidence and that generally isn't going to come from talking. The Army has soldiers go through a CONFIDENCE course, not for the purpose of actually knowing how to go down a rope from 40 feet up, but for the outcome of doing something somewhat scary and difficult to build up the soldier. Too many young people today don't have to do anything difficult. See if she can get into a karate class or some other activity that is unusually challenging.
2007-09-28 18:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things that kids might see on tv, like shows about kids being abducted, sexually abused, things like that which she see's that puts fear into her. Actually, her having that fear is good. There are a lot of kids that don't worry about it, not till it happens, and then it is to late. Being only 12 yrs. old, I think I would be glad that she has that fear. The weird people out there picking up kids might keep away from 12 yr. olds like her, fearing they would give them away.
2007-09-28 18:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by Joe S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know a good answer for you not knowing your daughter but i told my daughter that you should never find yourself alone especially at night on the street also always be aware of your surroundings and the going ons. now in your own neighbourhood during the day is something. does she hear a
lot bad things going on in the neighbourhood? she sound fragile and scared. maybe if you take her for walks to encourage her that its OK. but you always need to be careful
that everyone needs to be careful of where they are and what they do its part of life.
2007-09-28 18:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by KAT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good evening.sorry to hear your about your daughter. not sure what to say, apart from being there , talking to her ,cuddling her go with her to shops let her see that there is good in word,maybe she is worried because she sees so much depressing news on tv.. being a mother you will be ok
2007-09-28 18:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by fatman5xl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep on prayson her up and keep her focused on things the child likes too do,take her out with you and get her attention distracted on something ,i hope she isnt getting bullied as it sounds thats why she doesnt want to go out ,i hate bullies there scum,i was the same age as her and same symtoms for getting bullied,talk to her as a friend as well as a mother good luck
2007-09-28 18:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by mark g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she being bullied at school or something maybe you should make an appointment to see her teacher she if she can shed some light on the matter or even your gp it can't hurt to try good luck.
2007-09-28 18:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by lynsey m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋