What is the polite way of asking for YOUR recipes and not web sites?

Question

I know that a lot of people ask here and then go to the web. But often I ask because I know something about the recipe I'm asking about and want personal, tried and true, family recipes. My mother gave me some that I use over and over again and when I go to the web and look, hers are usually a little better because she actually fed a lot of people with them so they modified Darwinistically into darn fine ones.

So, sometimes I'm only interested in responses dealing with personal recipes. I've tried asking before and am often given a web site without so much as a comment. How can I get around this and not be a bully boy?

Mike L -- Not every one is a points whore like you.

Answer 1

When you ask for a recipe specify you would prefer homemade meals... personal recipes... no one should get offended I think that is why this is here for because it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know they can google whatever they are looking for... remember when you ask to specify you want their homemade personal recipe...

Answer 2

Just say, "I'm looking for tried and true recipes, by real people. If I can e-mail you for clarification, that's a plus."

If people ignore that polite distinction, just ignore it. Or if it makes you really mad, give 'em a thumbs down.

It makes me a little crazy, too, when people tell me to google it, like they think I'm stupid and can't figure out what a search engine is. But really, when you use a search engine, you get half a million hits, and have to wade through tons of crap. Some people have had the tactlessness to suggest I am a bad googler! Oh boy!

I take a deep breath, realize they have been lucky in their searches, and that they have a slight problem relating with other human beings (-:. Then I forgive, and move on to see if anyone has a real answer.

You are not a bully boy for making your desires clear. If you say, "No websites, you idiots, how am I supposed to find a recipe from a half a million hits????" , then you are being rude (-:.

Good luck! And I hope more people come around to our way of thinking.

Answer 3

Gene, directness should be a fine way to ask, perhaps mentioning you are looking for great family recipes. Tell the posters you are not looking for websites. Then just ignore those who haven't given you what you asked for. Some of us are up too late to read without crossing our eyes, and we miss a detail here and there.

Here's my mom's Macaroni and Cheese that everybody wants the recipe to once they've had it.

1 and 1/2 Cups dry semolina macaroni -cooked to about half done
2 C. Large Curd cottage cheese
1 C. Sour Cream
1 Jumbo, or 2 large, eggs, lightly beaten
3/4 teaspoon Kosher or coarse salt
1/4 tsp. finely ground Black Pepper
1 Tablespoon and 1 tsp. Dijon mustard
15 ounces Sharp Cheddar, shredded

Preheat oven to 400 degrees F
Butter (best flavor) an 8"X8"X2" pan
Bake for 30 minutes, until lightly browned

Answer 4

Start with, answers from peoples experience, not web sites please... then ask away. That won't make you a bully, just save time. You are probably still going to get web site answerers so they can get their 2 points in...
I agree, I've been cooking and baking since I was 8 years old, over 30 years, and I prefer experience answers for this forum. Good Luck on your next question!

Answer 5

I choose a internet site this is easy to browse and is not crowded with classified ads. A recipe website would desire to offer human beings the skill to seek by using components and likewise have foodstuff advice. i could like a recipe website that comes with all ethnics of ingredients, has pictures, or maybe explains the different varieties of ingredients (merely like Alton Brown does on his tutor stable Eats).

Answer 6

Be nicely direct. Sometimes questioned asked are not given enough information for a fully informed answer. You might request tried and true recipes. Heck who really knows if the answers given are from experience. I guess you have to take what you get and hope for the best.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I think the first answer is right on target. Ask for personal recipes. Basically explain what you just explained to us so that they know you aren't looking for a web site. Say "I love my mothers recipes for XXXXX, what is your recipe for it?" "What is your recipe for AAAAAAA??" OR "What is your favorite recipe for QQQQQQ???"

That way you can show that you want personal preference. I dont think any of those come off as rude.

Good luck!

Answer 8

You know the web recipes are usually fine. Especially from the food network site. They even have stars rating them.

Then you try them out on your family/friends and modify them yourself!!! You family/friends are different than ours. Whether you are from New Orleans, TX, NYC, Seattle, California.....different ways you were raised....spicy, salty, non-salty..... different religions..... you have to make then to your friend's, family's, and your own palate.

But the star ratings on the recipe sites really help. And the reviews often offer improvement suggestions.

Ultimately know who your audience is.

{{I am not trying to be rude}}

Answer 9

Try:

I am searching for Yahoo members best, most favorite, personal recipes that have been handed down in the family and are tried and true ones. No FOODTV here please, HA HA! No, but seriously I'd like to know your recipes for your Mom's Chicken Pot Pie, or whatever (you insert name).

Answer 10

your personal recipe no www sites please

but you'll still probably get those that do not read well or just out right will give you the www any way like they do not have a mind to understand

my mind oh wait it went some were i'm waiting for it to come back.....just dealing with PEOPLE