i broke up with my bf last saturday because of something stupid,
but then we stayed broken up after i found out from his best friend that he was cheating on me.
i did alot for him,
i saved up money for an apartment,
i got in trouble with my family,
i lost my virginity,
worked really hard in school,
risked my reputation..
i cried for an hour.
that was it.
then i just went about my life,
laughing, things like that, normal-like.
people keep asking why im not more upset.
im wondering too.
i mean he fricken cheated. and lied.
ive never cared about anyone the way i care about him.
but now i dont even care that he calls me crying,
or about that other girl,
or that he cheated,
or that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him,
and its not gonna happen now.
its my first serious relationship, but i feel like its ending the way i ended all my previous flings.
does that mean i never really cared?
i thought i did.
grrr will i ever care about someone...??
2007-09-28 10:17:29 · 13 answers · asked by aja 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're a girl. of course you're heartless.
2007-09-28 10:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by P 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is your heart's way of couping with the loss.
It is never easy to lose someone, especially your first love.
It could be multiple things, perhaps you have known for a while that things were not going to last.
My best guess is that it will hit you later on, and that is okay.
Right now your logic is ruling over your emotions, and your logic is right...he is a jerk...it sounds like you helped him out a lot and that your relationship was VERY one sided.
My first serious relationship lasted for two years, when I broke up with him I didn't really think that we'd stay apart. I had a new boyfriend two weeks later. It wasn't until THAT relationship ended that I was upset over losing my first boyfriend.
It'll hit you sooner or later, but just remember to stay strong.
Just remind yourself that you are better off on your own than with someone that will disrespect you and cheat on you.
2007-09-28 17:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by meloniebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time.
You're angry and hurt. You need some time to heal. If this boy was remotely worth it and ****ed it up, then he'll come back to you and apologize.
When he calls you crying, tell him maybe you need a break.
You've lost your trust for him because he cheated, and it might not be possible for him to earn it back.
Then watch if he tries. If he tries really really really hard to earn your trust back, then he might have learned not to cheat.
He also has to promise that he won't cheat on you again.
2007-09-28 17:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Petunia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he means that much to you, which it sounds like he does, my advice is that if he is truly sorry, which it sounds like he is, then why not give him another chance....let him redeem himself, be open to another try.....pretty simple and straight forward, it's your call, and no you're not heartless as the way you would describe it, a lot of girls would have this reaction....it's just do you want to forgive him and give him another try or not? I'm leaning toward give him another try and remember it's your call, don't let anyone else make the decision for you....best of luck!
2007-09-28 17:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by DN1503 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the part where he cheated and u dont seem too upset sounds like u did/do love him. but no u dont sound heartless but if it is meant to be itll work out u cant really trust him after he cheated. why did he cheat anywaythis situation sounds a lot like me thoughive had a crush on one guy for 5 years and hes cheated on a lot of his gfs me and him have never went out but we talk lot lol and i think i fell in love with him in 8th grade and all my friends tell me to get overr him but i just cant i get sooooo jealous of his friends and gfs but now he seems to be getting jealous of my guy freinds some but yea you dont seem jealous to me.
2007-09-28 17:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by lifes a pain drama's no game 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated. You will find someone better. You need to be upbeat, but I'm warning you it might catch up to you. You might be alone one night and you might miss him. You are too young to be wrapped up in a boy that means nothing. Just date, don't get serious.
2007-09-28 17:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by Cieeeee <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not being heartless. Your reacting the way someone really should act. Your moving on and thats great! Some people still kick themselves and want their ex's back, but he did you wrong, and your handling it perfectly.
2007-09-28 17:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by ~just.me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you were tied to him becuase you gave yourself away to him (virginity) its hard to let go of the person who has your virginity which is why i personally wish people would just wait. if he cheated that should be it, the relationship is down the drain, once a cheater always a cheater, its not harsh
2007-09-28 17:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aja, Bless you dear the lord has spared you the usual heartache ! Be happy you have been blessed. But one day you will meet the one !
2007-09-28 17:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't sound heartless to me at all...
He cheated on you... Why would you want to care about someone who does that to you?
2007-09-28 17:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by Charlie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl
2007-09-28 17:21:13 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋