I'm so inlove with this guy ...he's the love of my life and he means everything to me. I never loved anyone as much as i loved him.I would give him my soul if he asked for it. And he loves me back the same way..And we both want to spend the rest of our lives together but there's one problem :(
our religions are different he's christian and i'm muslim and in my religion we aren't allowed to marry someone from a different religion and i think he also cant marry someone from a different religion but he didnt tell me that but i know.and i told him about that problem and he's like don't worry about that and that he loves me and wants to be with me and marry me
but my relgion doesnt allow me to marry someone from a different religion plus my parents if they knew they would get so mad at me and im so sure they won't aprove of him marrying me. im so sad i love him more than anything and he means the world to me :(
what should i do?
2007-09-28 10:03:32 · 23 answers · asked by . 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i'm 19 years old
2007-09-28 10:08:55 · update #1
It is a choice between HIM, HIS Religion and His family and YOUR religion, and family.
Either you walk away from your family and faith to be with him or you walk away from him to be with your family and faith.
Its a question of what you want for the rest of your life!
It is better for you to test your own love for him than to have him test his love for you by asking him to convert to being a Muslim. Not because being a Muslim is wrong but because you are the one with the issue!
2007-09-28 10:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by DrMichael 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Sigh.
I'm just this 50 year old woman on Y! Answers - so you can take this for what it's worth (to you) - but here's my opinion.
I believe it's WRONG for parents to push their religions on their children. I know they believe with all their hearts that they are involved in the RIGHT religion. But I don't think there is one RIGHT religion. Religion is a tool that humans use (or don't) to be better people - and it helps us live good lives.
My religion - Religious Science - celebrates all of the religions - and is pretty much just about love. Unitarians are much the same. If you and your boyfriendstay together and need a religion that will serve both of you - there would be options to you like that.
LOVE is the answer to almost everything. I don't understand why in the world religions descriminate against each other. You and your boyfriend both happen to be in religions that practice descriminiation. There are many that don't.
I don't know how old you are. But - once you are 18 - you can choose to live on your own and do whatever you want. Many times - parents will tell you that they won't pay for your education or support you - or even love you - if you don't do as they say. Yours may do that. You'll have to weigh things up. What's more important to you? Peace with your parents or a relationship with your boyfriend?
Falling in love with a Muslim is NOT immoral. Are you harming anybody? No. Some might twist the Bible to prove that you are a "bad person" if you are in love with a Muslim. I think they are wrong.
Blessings to you!!!
2007-09-28 17:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really very simple. You need to decide which is more important, this man or your religion. You will be sad if you let this guy go, but you will get over it, believe it or not, probably within a year. But if you go against your religion, you may regret it for the rest of your life, or even for eternity.
I'm a Christian, so I would like you to change to his religion, obviously. Yet I can still tell you that your religion should take precedence over romantic feelings. This is the objective truth of the matter. If you would give up your religion just to be with a man, you would not make a good Christian anyway.
On the other hand, if you don't really, truly believe in your religion, then dump it and be with the guy.
2007-09-28 18:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Agellius CM 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...taking into consideration a story that I heard recently about that poor Yezidi girl who was stoned to death for loving a Sunni Muslim boy (same religion-different SECT) I would first say that if you are willing to be with this man, you need to be ready to be cleaved to HIM..and by that I mean that you are willing to face losing your parents. That girl apparently was fooled back home by her own family, thinking that they accepted her relationship and they ambushed her in the road to stone her. If you are in another country...safety may require that you leave...and not say anything until you are completely OUT of harms way.
If you are in the United States...what is more than likely troubling the guy is that the bible says to not be unequally yoked. So if he's hesitant and he's a devout Christian..thats probably why- it wont stop him from marrying you though.
You sound kind of young to be worried about what your parents will say or do. If you arent strong enough to face life with your husband alone...and leave behind disapproving family members and/or your religion..then I'd say to re-evaluate the feelings you are having.
2007-09-28 17:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's something you need to think about: If you were to get married and have children, how would you raise your children? Would he allow you to raise them as Christian? or would he insist that they be raised muslem, and how would you feel about that?
Go see the movie "Not Without My Children" - it's based on a true story starring Sally Field as a woman who marries a muslem then is pretty much enslaved by him!
The question I have to ask you is this: Since Jesus said you have to love Him more than anybody else ("If you love father or mother or brother or sister or husband or wife or even your own life more than you love me, you can not follow me") (paraphrased), with this in mind, DO you love this guy more than you love Jesus? Or do you love Jesus enough to set aside your own feelings and do the right thing based on the Scripture that says not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever?
Just some thoughts and questions for you to seriously consider before you make any further decisions.
2007-09-28 17:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by no1home2day 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My situation is similar. I follow shamanism and my girlfriend follows christianity. There are a lot of issues that come up when people of such different ideologies cohabitate, but even more concerning are issues that would come up if you want to raise children together. Your love is just one part of the picture. Try talking to him about all aspects of marriage: children, finances, chores, etc. Even if you love each other, if the differences will bring dysfunction into the other aspects then you may have to make a difficult decision to seek another.
If you explore all of these aspects and understand how you will handle them, then you are more ready to discuss it with your parents. There is no way you will be able to maintain a relationship with them and have a secret marriage!
2007-09-28 17:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Tommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is hard, especially when dealing with two religions that express absolute truth. I am a Christian myself, my husband is more of a fallen away Catholic. Even with that, it is hard for us sometimes. I dont advocate segregating due to religious belief, however between these two particular ones, it might be quite difficult. Both religions ask for believers not to yolk with those of differing beliefs. I really want to say love conquers all! But in all reality, it will be very hard if you both are hardlined religous folks. Also, childrearing in the future might prove to be quite tedious.
2007-09-28 17:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by Loosid 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your Faith is getting in the way,you have some some searching to do.closely held beliefs between couples will ether tear the couple apart or make them closer together but two very different religious faiths will normally teat couples apart.Islam and Christianity have very different morals and beliefs. Why don't you both find a good rabbi and convert to Judaism?it will solve your religious problems and you can still worship g_d
2007-09-28 17:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what religion does to people, i mean i find it so ironical how the abrahamic religions who basically believe in the same god are so rigid because of the thirst of power. Religion is all about control of the masses, as long as you believe you do what *they* say even if, like in your situation, it is totally illogical. Remember that you have one life and this life is always too short, don`t let religion take your life away from you, you are alive to live and be happy....so choose wisely
2007-09-28 17:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Alex 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't impossible to make it work, but you are starting off with something of a burden. Also, consider that some relationships are intense because of the differences you have between each other, and sometimes it later becomes unstable because of it.
Just a few cautious words. Follow your conscience.
2007-09-28 17:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋