Are they okay, I really like someone, but they live far away, is it okay to have a relaitionship? Im 16 if that helps...
2007-09-28 09:21:26 · 11 answers · asked by Elise. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have nothing aganst it but dont tell them where u live they may be a sex offender or a rapeist or sumthing like that dont have cyber sex either DONT GIVE THEM UR NUMBER
2007-09-28 09:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With you being 16 y.o. it's nice that you have a friend online. Someone you can relate to and enjoy. In a sense it is a fantasy till you meet the person and spend time with them. Keep in mind that you cannot verify what the person tells you. So keep it as friends, being 16 you are finding your way through your emotions. And it is great that you have found someone special. You are still learning about yourself and your feelings. So, take your time.
I am 53 y.o. and have met a number of ladies online, some close to home and now a number of them 7000 miles away. I found good communication and trust are most important. When I say communication specifically, listening with understanding that makes sense to you and empathy, and letting the other person know how you feel and what you are thinking and if possible why. Trusting the person is very important. Yet, you want to. But, how can you totally if you don't know who the person is in "reality" or in person.
So, until you meet the person even if it is on an online camera. It's not real till you have the person in front of you. I would treat it more like a friend or acquaintance till you do spend time with the other person.
Now, that is not to say, you have to go right out and meet the person. If you have the opportunity to do so, with your parents permission and maybe a chaperon sure. Don't go running off like you hear so often. You are young and have so much to experience and this is just part of your whole life. And it is not your whole life.
The media, movies, television, magazines, internet, puts so much pressure on people your age, about looking good, and dressing this way or that way to be cool. Not true. It's all a sales pitch.
Usually, I don't answer these kind of questions for a teen but, your question seem honest and real.
You did not say, how old the other person was. If he's within 2-3 years of your age. Great, you are both young and have a lot to experience. A growing love is one of them.
The bottom line truthfully. Is how do you feel about a long distance, internet relationship? Do you think it will work? Do you think in your heart that it can work? Based on what you know and what you have read and how you feel about it.
Good luck
2007-09-28 16:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few problems here.
First off at 16 you are not in a position to pursue a long distance relationship.
It is also likely that the person you seem interested in is not the person you think he is. I'm not saying he's a pervert pretending to be a young person. I am only saying that he is being the person he thinks it takes to gain your interest.
Long Distance relations rarely work out even amongst adults..... so your odds are even lower.
2007-09-28 16:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met Steve in a rpg (game) We met over 2 years ago. We got married on July 14th, 2007. We are presently waiting on Immigration to approve his permanent residence.
I have never been happier =)
Good luck & hang in there...it isn't easy but can prove to be very worthwhile.
Words of advice: Be careful.
2007-09-28 16:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by myth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a serious relationship, then no. But if you want someone to talk to and someone to call your boyfriend, then by all means go for it. Long distance relationship never last because there is a trust issue and someone is bound to stray. And don't say that it wouldn't happen to you, because it happened to me.
2007-09-28 16:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its okay but just be careful becuz u never know if the person is real.lol.but online dating is cool i guess it would just be annoying not being able to see someones face ya know
2007-09-28 16:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by crazigrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 16...omg girl being freinds is one thing and even to have fun flirting as LONG AS YOU DONT take it further.. be wary of long distance....this guy could be a psycho!!!
2007-09-28 16:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by happyslysmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not completely understand
the internet is a comunication tool so technicly it would be a long distants relationship so i think u have to as yourself if a long distancts relationship is ok
2007-10-01 08:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by Davis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if your lonely have fun with it. Don't get yourself all emotional over it. Don't expect anything from it Just have fun with it. Good luck
2007-09-28 16:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to have a online friendhsip is ok. to meet this person in person- BAD IDEA. way to many creepy people out there
2007-09-28 16:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by jen mcg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋