the bible says'honour thy father and thy mother'well i never knew my father,and my mother is cold unloving and cruel 2 me,and continues too be,and im 36 now,and no matter what i do,she deliberately hurts me,puts me down and hates me.i on the other hand spent most of my life in homes,and my whole ambition in life was to get her too love me.never happened,never will.HOW am i sposed to honour her?
2007-09-28 09:13:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why do you keep addressing questions to mormons? If you would like more answers about the LDS religion why don't you try www.mormon.org or www.lds.org
2007-09-28 09:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by gumby 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can honour you mother by moving on with your life and once you get to the point where you can stop blaming her for your childhood. Tehn you will be able to show her some honour and respect. I understand that she is your mother and she should love you, but obviously she wasn't ready to be a loving mother and thats not your fault so you have to move on and let it go. You should go to lds.org and find some missionaries in your area and have them come talk to you about our church and maybe finding something to live for and to have faith in would help you be able to forgive your mother for her way of treating you for all of these years. Also find a Desert Book in your are and go buy the book The Mircle Of Forgivness. Good luck to you.
2007-09-28 16:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Erica M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can "honour" her by honouring yourself first. No one is supposed to put up with any kind of abuse but at the same time no one is supposed to condemn and hate. I would suggest that you cut ties to your mother altogether, and find a way to give to the world the kind of love and treatment you would have liked her to give you.
I belive, for myself, that we are born into certain families because there are lessons that we can learn. i.e. forgiviness, compassion, love, understanding and acceptance. Not acceptance of bad treatment, but acceptance that this lady is, who she is (very unhappy by the way) and there is nothing you can do for her by suffering through her abuse. You can do something for her, from afar by sending her love and forgiveness. Because you have dealt with this your whole life, should not mean that you, yourself cannot go out into the world a better person, who because of the experience you have, can assist others who are going through the same thing. Join a group, there are many, that want men and women to assist them in their work helping others. Be stronger than her, be more loving than her, be what she never was to you and you will come out of this experience better for it. You are here for a reason, and it looks like to me that you are here to be of assistance to others who have been, or are in, the same abusive relationship with their mother, as you were.
Remember, forgiviness of her treatment, and forgiveness of yourself if you feel you need it for thoughts of anger and hate.
I send you love, because you are loved you know. Do you think that God in that quote, means suffer all your life or does he mean put up with it. I don't think so, because you could so much more for the world if you were away from her. When you read something like that quote in the bible, think about it, study it and realize what it is NOT saying. If you know that God when stating that quote, was a loving, kind, gentle, forgiving prophet, you will see the other side of the coin.
Peace and love
2007-09-28 16:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We Mormons call what your mother is doing "unrighteous dominion."
One of the basics of the ten commandments is to "honor thy father and thy mother" and no one is exempt from this. Those two people gave you life. Sometimes the appreciation stops there due to the extremely inappropriate, not to mention illegal, behavior of some parents. Honor does not mean to succumb to abuse. In other words, "Dad, Mom, I respect you for giving me life but I will not continue to be abused."
And there's your answer.
2007-09-28 16:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lacey 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe honoring your parents means much more than being respectful, kind and obedient (if they are asking you to do righteous things). It is also loving and honoring yourself and others. If my children are out doing good things and living a productive happy life and fullfilling their dreams and aspirations, that would bring me great honor.
2007-09-28 20:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Beau 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you want to be found accountable for treating her nice and not the other way around, for it pleases the LORD if you did as he asked you to do, and not what you wanted to do right! I ADMIRE YOU, every one shall get a reward no matter if it is GOOD or BAD one, we all have a reward coming, let it be the GOOD one though
2007-09-28 16:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by trinity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make something of yourself. Improve yourself. Become a better person. You cannot make someone love you. You can only change yourself. Until you realize that, you will probably be disappointed.
2007-09-28 16:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Someone who cares 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just show her respect and leave it at that and then just move on with your life and if need be just release her from your life. Sounds like she will never change
2007-09-28 16:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mormon....I told you before.
There is a difference between liking someone, loving them, etc. and honoring them. As an example, I may not like you, but I honor you for asking...
Understand? Honor is not an emotion, it's a verb.
2007-09-28 16:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Love Yahoo!!! is a prince 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The verse is in the bible so Mormons cant answer. they don't believe the bible. But you honor her by being nice in what ever contact you have. You can limit it but if she initiates it be gracious.
2007-09-28 16:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by jesussaves 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋