My son's father has not seen him in 8 years. He came back into the picture for a couple of months this year, and has stopped. My husband thinks that I should invite him to my sons baptism and I am just tired of seeing my son hurt over this situation. I don't know what to do, I don't want my son to blame me in the future. What's your advice?
2007-09-28 08:42:14 · 8 answers · asked by TC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old is your son? I am assuming at least 8 by your question. Ask him if he wants his father there or not. Let him decide. He may be old enough to understand the stuff his father is pulling (the coming in and out of his life) and might not want him there at all.
2007-09-28 08:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son?
He's at least 8, right?
Ask him whether he wants his biological father invited. Let him talk about it, including the possibility that he'll flake, and how he might feel about it.
It may be that he doesn't want him invited for that reason, or that he does, but isn't considering the possibility that he'll flake.
I say discuss it with him.
Especially if he's older than 8, but even 8 is, I think, old enough for his wishes to be respected.
2007-09-28 20:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite him just so that he can share the experience but I would not tell your son that you invited him just in case he doesn't show up then your son wont get hurt.
2007-09-28 16:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Alesha P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who said ask your son. He is over 8 years old, and has a brain. Let him use it.
take care too!
2007-09-28 15:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk with your son. ask him if he would like to have his dad there or if he just wants to forget about asking him ? tell him you dont know if he will show up, but its his choice on what to do since its his special day.
2007-09-28 20:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the ones saying...not to tell your son, just let him be surprised.
2007-09-28 16:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by yer_specialty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite his father but don't tell him that he might come. If he does let it be a surprise. that way if he doesn't come he will not be disappointed.
2007-09-28 15:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by jennajade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask your son. Let it be his decision.
2007-09-28 15:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋