My daughter is a very curious crawler and constantly goes for things she cannot have. I tell her "no" in a firm tone and remove her hands or her from the situation, and she either cries and tries to go for the object again, or she laughs and thinks it's a game, and still tries to get at the not-allowed item again. She also wiggles and squirms uncontrollably on the changing table and in my arms sometimes, and no amount of "no" or positive reinforcement when she stays still has made any difference so far. I fear she'll only get harder to manage if we don't do something soon to get her to listen to us. Any advice? Thanks!
2007-09-28 08:30:10 · 12 answers · asked by Kelly S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Removed the object that she cannot have. She is too young for time outs. When babies are crawling around they don't know the difference between a toy and an object that is forbidden. You should NEVER keep something at eye level that they cannot touch until they are old enough to know better, or old enough for time outs.
2007-09-28 08:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, at 10 months, she won't be able to carry much. Maybe, just one flower? If she drops it, she drops it. I'd be more concerned with how you're getting her down the aisle. I would have someone carry her down the aisle. I would pick a grandparent, I think it's more special than someone pushing her down the aisle. Plus, I'm not too crazy about pushing a baby down the aisle (especially in a church) in a wagon or a decorated stroller. I don't know, everytime I see it, I see an overdecorated poofy thing on wheels! But, I'm not a big fan of tulle and draped white fabric and all that, so maybe that's why I don't like it Also, it's simple! Plus, she'll be higher up if someone carries her and everyone will get to see her better. Also, babies like to look around and she'll have a better view of everything going on when she's being held in someone's arms vs. being pushed in a low wagon or stroller.
2016-05-21 00:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her something else interesting to inspect to distract her. All kinds of things will do in that situation, it doesn't have to be a toy necessarily.
Anything that you don't want her to get a hold of (esp. dangerous stuff) just take out of the room or if you can, move it up around your eye level, not hers. She will respond eventually to the word no, just maybe not right now 'cause she is only 10 months old. Kids mature at different rates so be as patient as you can with her and if all else fails after about 14 months or so you can try time outs.........
.Constancy is key here.
Do Keep telling her no to the things that you don't want her to do. Even if the "No's!" don't seem to be working. Give her some time, eventually she will get it.
By the way, try being consistent in the tone that you use when you are reprimanding her and try to present YOUR outward mood as being somewhat neutral to her crying . Its not easy....
2007-09-28 09:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by sbluta2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to redirect. Don't just say no and stop the behavior, redirect her behavior to another activity and get her engaged. No need to have a battle of the wills at 10 months. Save that for year number 2.
Also, never play "no" games. Example, she tugs on your ear and you say no no no in a playful way and then wait for her to do it again. It can confuse a child that young.
The wiggling is just part of this very curious age. She has been staring at the world for a long time, and now she can finally get her little hands on it. Try keeping a special toy on the changing table, maybe something she wouldn't be allowed to have otherwise. Also, engaging her attention while you change her by counting the buttons on her outfit or singing a song would help. I always fake a surprised soft scream when I open up my son's diaper, and he waits with great anticipation for it, then belly laughs about it. For the rest of the diaper change we squeal back and forth. Sounds crazy, but that kept him from crawling off the table. Now he counts buttons with me as I redress him.
Sounds like you have a squirmy worm on your hands. Good luck!
2007-09-28 08:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by HD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's still a baby. My 16 month old doesn't respond that good to no either but I still tell her and move her out the way or take stuff away from her. Just be firm, and be patient.
2007-09-28 10:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by ღStarzzღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't say no. I have a 2 year old, trust me, it doesn't get any better. Instead of saying no, say "why don't we play with something else, this isn't a toy" and give her an appropriate substitute. Do it over and over and over and eventually you'll be able to just say "That's not a toy" and she'll back off.
2007-09-28 10:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a 10 month old that does the same exact things you described. I guess most 10 month olds act this way I have to agree with re directing her that's what I do. I am not sure if at this age they understand "no" very well. You will have to find other things to distract her with.
2007-09-28 08:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jewel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course she doesn't "respond well" to no...she doesn't KNOW what "no" is. Yes she is going to throw a fit in an attempt to get her way...that's part of parenting a baby. It will take quite awhile before she will be listening to you, because babies/toddlers don't understand adult concepts and their attention span is extremely short, what you told her 5 minutes ago is already forgotten. You will find you have to repeat yourself a lot...
2007-09-28 18:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to re-direct her. Instead of saying "no" and leaving it at that, try offering her something she CAN have. Remove her from the situation entirely, or involve her in a game.
2007-09-28 08:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by January Love 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
remove her from the room or farther then 5 ft. away and keep doing this as well as saying no, with more space to get back to the item she wanted she will give up or forget what she was doing altogether, good luck.
2007-09-28 08:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋