Why do parents want to spend so much time with us teens???We aren`t interested!
We hate it when you drag us somewhere for a "family gathering".Or when you want to sit down and talk to us about things we don`t care about.
We would rather be on the phone talking to friends,or on the internet.So why do you torture us???
2007-09-28 08:12:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it's not that we want to torture you. i'm sure that your parents allow you to have time with your friends, and they just want their share.
my daughters are about to turn 7 and 4. my 7 year old has already started using the phone---but she calls ME. as you grow from that young age, you want more and more freedoms. it's only natural, but remember that it's also only natural for the parent to grasp for special time with you.
we love our daughters. i hate it when i can't see them for a whole day. it even felt weird the first time leaving my mother's house without them when they slept over. we parents get so used to you depending on us that when you're ready to let go, we're not yet....cuz we're just as dependent on you.
think about how you were in grade/elementary school and all you wanted to do was go home to mom & dad cuz you felt alone. how the other kids said they'd tattle. when you fell, broke something or just got scuffed up...........who was there to help? who was there to hug you and wipe the tears? mom & dad.
take time to be respectful and listen, make time for them. everything they do, they do for your family. i know we do......my husband and i would probably still be living in a trailer if i hadn't gotten pregnant. we pulled ourselves out the funk we were in for the good of our child, and it took a lot of sweat and time and tears and hurt before it was better. we're still working on it.
you're older than my children. your parents only want a small amount of your time to let you know how much they love you still and want time with you. that's all. you will have plenty of time for everything and everyone---let them know you want to make time for them too--keep them abreast of your schedule even if you have to put a calendar in the kitchen to let them know what's coming up so that no one interferes with ANYONE's plans.....
it's all out of concern and love. try to remember that the next time you want to brush them off.
2007-09-28 08:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy Gal 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl, trust when I say that when you get older you will understand. Also, if you didn't have parents that cared to stop and include you in family activities or stop to ask about your day, you be praying to have it. Try to appreciate the fact tha tyou have good parents that care about. Because these days most people don't have that and would kill for one night or one conversation with someone that cared.
And see how many of these friends you would rather be on the phone will still be around next year.
2007-09-28 08:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by karamell08 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I realize that teens would rather socialize with friends, talk on the phone and have all the privileges given -- like using their parents car, electricity, eating their food, keeping warm in the winter with heat, and using their home to entertain friends, having a cell phone, computer and video games, ipods.
yes with all the torture, why would you want to take one day out of your life sometimes to spend time with such selfish people as parents?
2007-09-28 09:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents want to spend so much time with you because they love you. I know thats probably always the answer you get but it's true. You grew up too fast for their liking and when you were a young you favorite thing to do was to be around them and they might want a little piece of that back. I am a young mom of 2 and they are already growing up way too fast. I would hate for them to think of me like you think of your parents.
If they are doing something you truly dislike you have to let them know. Don't let them know by yelling at them or giving them attitude though. Talk to them like your a grown up, keep your cool and you must explain to them why you don't want to do that particular activity with them. It might take them a few times but hopefully eventually they will understand how you feel and take your feelings into consideration. BUT... if you want your parents to take your feelings into consideration then you have to take theirs into consideration too. I used to be in your shoes not too long ago and I truly feel for how I treated my mom now that I have 2 kids of my own. Love your parents. Your family is the only true thing you can ever count on in life. Good Luck.
2007-09-28 08:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents do those things not to torture you but to take care of you and show you how much they love you. If you can not appreciate that now, maybe you will, when your parents are gone. Think about that.
2007-09-28 11:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love,
It's the parents last chance to polish the apple so to speak...put the finishing touches on you before you go into the real world. We just wanna make sure no one is trying to steer ya wrong just before you leave the starting gate.
One day you may be greatful ... if your a good kid ......
Or you'll hate them for trying to help you off to a good start.
Good Luck .... choose well.
2007-09-28 08:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your parents died you'd give anything to be able to have a family gathering with them or spend time with them. Appreciate them now while you have them. They love you, and it hurts when your kids start to grow and pull away from you. Just every now and then say " I love you " to them, thats all they need to know
2007-09-28 11:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by aussiechick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a mom~ i expect my children to participate in family activities because that is what we have always done since they were born... we do family vacations, outings, day trips, dinner out, movies etc... and have plenty of pictures to prove it.... you may not care about what we want or what we have to say but WE CARE enough to over look it... like i told my daughter a couple of weeks ago when she didn't want to go bike riding with us... there will come a day when you will wish that you had spent every moment possible enjoying family activities because one day i will be gone.... and all you will have is the memory of always trying to get out of spending time with me. now get on your bike and lets go!.... i realize you are your own person, but we had children to raise them and spend good quality time with them... you have the rest of your life to do what you want... give them what is left of your teenage years and please don't complain about someone loving you....
2007-09-28 08:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are a parent you will do the same to your kids.
Trust me when I say that kids without good parents would kill for what you have.
Friends come and go, parents love you forever!
2007-09-28 08:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the obvious difference. Your parents care about family. You do not. When you mature you'll understand.
2007-09-28 08:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋