We broke up not that long ago but he still calls...i've told him many times that i dont want to talk to him....we moved in together and lived together for a couple months but right after i did that i found out that it was a big mistake all we did was fight and he would get mad because i wouldnt want to have sex with him, so i moved out....and we broke up but he still calls me and textes me ....i feel so bad for him....i dont know what to do : (
2007-09-28 07:51:18 · 22 answers · asked by new mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) Tell him to stop calling, texting, e-mailing, coming by etc in the witness of a third person.
2) Document every time he contacts. DO NOT return ANY of his contacts or answer the phone, etc. Make him leave a message, then document the call and save the message. Save all text messages. Keep a log of every time he tries to contact
3) If he persists, call the police.
2007-09-28 07:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i had that problem a while back ago i was seeing this guy for a couple of months thank god that i didnt move in with him when he asked but anyways i broke up with him cause he would always try to tell me what to do so weeks later i had started dating this guy that i had met before i was with that ex bf of mine then months later my ex started calling and texting me so i told him i cant talk to you because i'm with someone new.. but he kept on calling wanting to see me and not once did i ever go see him then finally i had told my bf that my ex was calling me so my bf got pissed off then i land up breaking my cell phone into pieces then my bf brought me a new cellphone and put me under his plan now he's happy that my ex doesnt call me anymore i know you probably dont want to change your # because you had the # for a long time and you just wish that your ex bf would stop calling but it looks to me that he cant get over you ... you could also tell him that you moved on and that if he could stop calling you cause your new bf is getting mad.. good luck
2007-09-28 15:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by valrietorres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to him that I needed some time because right now its too soon for you two to be in contact. It sounds like he still has feelings, you can try and tell him in that context so you dont hurt him, but if he persists then maybe the only way will be to be truthfull that you want nothing to do with him right now or ever whichever the case may be.
2007-09-28 14:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Queen of the Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as you may feel for him, you broke up and you are trying to move on with your life and so should he. Just quit answering or change your numbers. I know this may sound cruel but what is really cruel is to drag out a relationship that is over. You've told him how you feel and he hasn't respected it and you have no choice but to take some other action.
2007-09-28 14:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that it would be easier for you if you guys didnt talk for a while, just let him know that you had a good thing but it ended badly and you cant just keep talking to him because its hard. Tell him you want to be friends eventually, but for now you guys have to give it a rest to cool off, because hes pushing you away even more and you need time to yourself to fully get things straight. Dont worry everything will work out, just do whats right for you. Good luck!:]
2007-09-28 15:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him I don't ever want to talk . Don't call me hm or wk ,text me, or call me, or come by my work or house got it over, finito. Be direct and blunt. Then change you cell #. As for house phone if you don't want to change if he calls put the phone down in linen clost on towels and walk away. He'll get the message. Me personal favorite. It takes a strong woman but it will work if you are serious.
Good luck
2007-09-28 14:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One dont feel sorry for him cause that is what he wants. Two tell him that he is your ex for a reason and that you dont want to speak to him, get emails from him or received texts from him. If that doesnt work get a new number
2007-09-28 14:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
new Mel, Hon quit feeling sorry for him. It is over, you are now just two strangers ! If that doesn"t work get a restraining order or a new guy !
2007-09-28 15:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad for him. He was pressuring you to do something that you didn't want to do, and you stood up for yourself-GOOD ON YA!
Keep standing up for yourself, you are obviously good at it! Tell him simply, "Please don't contact me again. We don't get along very well, and I don't really want to get into another confrontation. Ignore his calls and texts until he gets the picture.
I really admire you for knowing what you want, and acting on it!
2007-09-28 14:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, what you really need to do is talk to him face to face and let him know that you are serious and that if he still doesn't stop, i suggest that you get a restraining order from him because if he is still trying to talk to you and you don't want him to, that is harrassment. but the best way is to confront him face to face to show him that you are seriuos.
2007-09-28 15:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by LilBri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋