Sexual hang-ups?

Question

Could it be that all sexual hang-ups come from the fact that they teach us, It's wrong, don't do it! Don't do it!. Then we find out they were doing it all along?

I'm not saying its wrong, It's the ideas we develop from what we are lead to believe.

Answer 1

Sex is not wrong. Irresponsibility is wrong. This notion that sex is wrong has done more damage to people than many other of our cultural beliefs. Sex is a natural function and therefore can not be - in of itself - wrong. Whether you are Str, gay or bi, if this is your sexuality then you should feel ok about engaging in responsible, loving sexual relationships.

Answer 2

Question: Should one know what teachings tell us sex is wrong? Should one listen to others and accept, or should one read the scripture for one's self and form knowledge based opinions? Does society dictate that sex is just wrong, and does one assume that source is some religious passages? Is that what we all want to accept, that the truth comes from religious dogma, and that is inspired by the scriptures that we don't read?

This brain we use to think, this body we use to act: These objects in our reality we use to create things out of....
Do they control us or do we control them? Do we balance ourselves, or do they disbalance us?

The real issue is not the sex or the gluttany, or the slothfullness. This issue is whether one really chooses gluttany for an evening pastime, or whether one's body desired the taste, and one's mind acted without the conciousness thinking it over and forming consequences. Do we do things for ourselves, or do we do things because the body orders us to do things?

Do the masses believe dogma because they are told too, or do they get down and dirty with the scriptures of many religions and work it out for themselves? Who is wrong, one who follows his bodies orders without question, or one who is in control of the body? All this hinges on the mind!! Control the mind, and the body will follow.

Answer 3

Here's my odd theory: If we teach kids that sex is bad, but they feel good when they experiment with it and yet guilty at the same time, we are setting them up to later cheat on their significant other because they learn to associate the excitement of sex with the fear/thrill of doing something bad or getting caught.

Answer 4

Or from being abused.

I feel sorry for the people who would thumbs-down this. I know we are all more interested in slamming Victorian chastity, but sexual hang-ups occur for many reasons. Many relationships are complicated because of prior sexual abuse. I suppose you have never dealt with this or known someone sho has. Well, good for you.

Answer 5

Such "hangups" come mostly from giving in to one's sinful inhibitions, for there's nothing wrong with sex itself insdie the range of God's law. Every other conceivable instance (premarital sex and etc.) are the things that help create our "hangups"

Answer 6

We must not let bronze age middle eastern goat herders fairy tales interfere with our life dear...

Answer 7

I was never taught not to do it. I was just taught not to do it until I was married.

Once married though, I was taught to have all the fun you want! (with your spouse)