my sister has just got married and her husband dosent like me and is stopping her from seeing me ehat do i do?

Question

Me and my sister were really close and i feel i have lost her forever. i dont no what to do Should i put it all behind me or tell her how i feel

Answer 1

Why would he stop her from seeing you if he doesn't like you? Does he feel somehow threatened by you? Why would he care if you just see her one-on-one if he's at work or something, or call her on the phone? Doesn't make sense. Unless he's just that controlling. Your relationship with your sister is very important. I would try to maintain a relationship anyway and don't pay attention to this jerk. Unless you feel your sister doesn't WANT to talk to you and is using her husband as an excuse. But either way, you should talk to her about it and find out. This is too important a relationship to just let go without at least trying.

Answer 2

Has he said you can't see her, or is it coz they just got married and want some honeymoon time? Give them both some space,but make a point of seeing your sister when he is not around. He can't stop that,and hopefully he is not trying to. See what happens when you see her alone,plus you can have a better chat etc when there are just you and your sister. Then after you've seen her, see if anything changes between you and her relationship. He might feel left out by you being there just after they got married. And could it be that you were there too often?
If it turns out that he is trying to keep you apart, then make a point of not letting him. By keeping in touch with your sister when he is not around. He will have trouble stopping that. But give him the benefit of the doubt first. Coz hopefully you were mistaken. But some people do try to alienate their family from their friends/family. But your sister has a say in that too. Plus you can email her, ring her.
Best wishes:)

Answer 3

It's best not to allienate your sister, as a newlywed she will more than likely defend her husband. Have you considered the possibility that you've done or said something to make him not like you? There must be a reason because most people do not just choose to not like someone. Before you can resolve the conflict between you and your brother inlaw, you will need to find out exactly what the problem is from "his" viewpoint. Ask him in a non-threatening way and see if there is a way to resolve this with a positive outcome for everyone involved.

Answer 4

Is he actually keeping her from seeing you? She just got married and probably wants to spend some time with her husband. I am sure she loves you as much as ever, but she now has other responsibilities that she must attend to. Why don't you try to set up a day where just you and her can get together for some fun.

Answer 5

Tell her husband that you will confront your sister if you do not treat her better and if he does not act better than you have a reason to confront her and tell her how you feel and you have been so close she will understand. That is kind of what happened to me but I just started being nice to him and we both matured and we are not extremely close now, but we are close.

Answer 6

if he's stopping you, he can't. talk to your sister about it.
if your sister agrees, then she's not worth the relationship anymore. some girls get way too attached to their men and drop all else. and if this is true, then it's not a mature marriage either.
i would just talk to her about it, or confront both of them at lunch.

Answer 7

if your trying to see her all this time what is she doing? can't she speak up or something? can't she make some effort on her part?...& yes you should tell her how you feel...

Answer 8

Tell him and her both...