I can't take it anymore. I know my adoptive mom is lying to me. All she and my Adopt.ive dad do is yell at me everyday. Now threatning to send me back from "Where I came from" some parents if you ask me. Pfft. Jerks. I wasnt to move in with my Bio brother but my mom says he's going to end up using me. I knew my bro and I know him now...He's not like that. Lastnight my adoptive parents yelled at me called, called me names, generally brought me down any way they could break me. I'm at a loss guys, i just wanna die....anyway gotta go im in school. laterz any advice would be seroiusly helpful....Thankz
2007-09-28 05:43:16 · 8 answers · asked by Ripsi W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't know what you may or may not have done to bring on their tirade, but it is WRONG of them to threaten to send you back to where you came from. They adopted you; they have assumed all legal responsibility for you. They need to think about how their words are hurting you.
Their claim that your bio bro will use you could simply stem from their fear of losing you to your bio family; or they may know something you don't, in which case they really should be upfront with you about what they know. In my case, my a-parents didn't want me to find my b-mom because my a-mom was PETRIFIED that I would like her better than them and leave them. I'm thinking that a lot of their behavior is fear-based; but that does NOT excuse it.
I can understand your sentiments, but please PLEASE do not do anything rash; you have to know that you are a person of worth, and you can do anything you want in life if you are determined enough. You need to find the strength within yourself to get through this. I know it is tough; I have been there, done that; but you need to just step back when they go off on you, and DO NOT RESPOND. Responding will only fuel the fire, and you don't want or need that extra stress.
I'm guessing you're in high school? That's about the age I was when I went through the same emotions. Please talk to somebody you trust; a school counselor, favorite teacher, sports coach, ANYBODY. Call a help line if you have to. You need to know that you are not alone in this; and you need to find an avenue to vent your frustrations, aside from on here of course. You know what? You CAN do this. I did. My a-mom and I would have TERRIBLE fights, and when I decided to just shut up and let her be, she would STILL keep yelling and hurling insults at me, sometimes all friggin' night on a school night (and she wondered why I never did well in school, LOL).
Don't just up and leave; seriously consider your options here. You have known your bio bro for some time; and you feel he will not use you. Are you SURE?? Can you possibly sit down with one of your a-parents and talk calmly with them about why they feel that way? If not, can you talk to him about your feelings and their concerns? This is another good reason to find a trusted adult in whom you can confide; they can offer you insight that neither you nor your a-parents may have. Good luck!
2007-09-28 05:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by purrfectpals5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just hang in there you have to have a case worker assigned to your case call her call her supervisor ask tell them you want a lawyer to help you live with a guardian. your brother will have to prove to the court that he has a suitable living environment for you to live at and that he is able to be your guardian till you are at age
keep that in mind they will do a home visit
but you do not have to put up with the verbal abuse and the emotional abuse that these so called "adoptive parents " are giving you so get help your not alone
and dieing is not the answer the lord will not give you any thing you can not handle and when you get older you will understand why you went through this now
2007-09-28 06:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by summerbliss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry to hear your story. I don't know of any advice for you though. Life as a teen does suck for lots though. If you will accept a big hug from an old woman--grandma--one is coming your way. Best of luck to you. Could you talk to a school councilor or favorite teacher or someone????
2007-09-28 05:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, I am so sorry. Its funny it sounds like you are with the real parents? Believe me if i had gotten back with my real parents i am sure it would be like what you are describing right now. its very bad. i realize it but not all adoptees got it bad. i did get raised by my great aunt and uncle and i had a good life. gosh, go with your borther if you are still too young. I am so sorry and i just dont' know what to say to you. just get to have your borther take you and good luck let me k now how you are suzy
2007-09-28 12:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking at your parents like they are your "adoptive" parents. They are your parents... that's it.
How have you been behaving to have them say these kind of things to you? Are you respectful and do you do what they tell you to (within reason, of course)?
I'm not entirely siding with them, but you only gave your side of the story here and from what I gather, the only reason they wouldn't let you stay with your brother is because they love you and don't want you to leave.
Behave well & help out around the house. If you aren't out of line then I'm sure they'll probably treat you much better.
2007-09-28 05:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jennield 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that your parents are treating you that way. I'm not sure how old you are but once you're 18 you can live wherever you want with whoever you want. Hang in there kiddo.
2007-09-28 05:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by geminimom79 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call social services or tell the school authorities. you are better off out of that house.
2007-09-28 05:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
that emotional abuse , you don't have to put up with that , if your bro wants u u take him up on the offer n trust ur instincts
2007-09-28 06:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋