My girlfriend has become more and more distant in the past few weeks. Every time I try to kiss her she turns away. Every time I try to get her to tell me what's wrong she ignores me or gives me the silent treatment. It's really causing me a lot of stress but we've been together for 3 years.
Should I dump her and get this **** over with or is there something I haven't thought of?
2007-09-28 05:43:13 · 8 answers · asked by Jason C 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Cooking & Recipes
I know I screwed up the categories so don't bother telling me.
2007-09-28 05:46:30 · update #1
how ever you are approaching her to open up is obviously not working, try a new and different approach. Ask her what it is that she wants now and what does she see for and want for the future.
comunnication is a must. tell her you accept that something appears to be bothering or upsetting her and you would like to be there for her but you dont know how to or what to do because you dont understand what is going on.
tell her you want her to feel comfortable enough to talk with you.
tell her you are getting stressed and you dont like to feel like that..ask her if she can help you get over the stress.
3 yrs is a long time, and if it is ending she should be mature enough to end it with you maturly
explain that you cant live like this and you dont like jumping to conclusions but if you can have open communication then you can't foresee a future with her and the behaviours she is displaying lately.
i say dont just dump her without ant least trying again to get her to open up.
i mean worst case senario....maybe something bad happened to her and she feels dirty or like it was her fault or that you will be upset.
give her a chance..if she dont say bye bye
2007-09-28 09:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by tj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres obviously something wrong, but its not necessarily something you have done/the fact she doesnt want to be with you. Something at work/at home/within family may be upsetting her and making her react to you in this way, but if shes refusing to open up to you, you need to let her know she can trust you and you wont get upset if shes going to say something you wont like.
If this was only a short term relationship I would say just get rid, but as you've been together for a while I'm inclined to think it might be a different problem. However, have you changed your attitude towards her recently? Do have a hobby she doesnt approve of?!!
If you have been together 3 years you should be able to talk, so sit her down and tell her bluntly her attitude is upsetting you and you want to know where you stand. I know how you feel, and its better to know whats wrong then to keep guessing.
Good luck!!!!
2007-09-28 12:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by misskitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh when i saw the category thing; i thought you wanted to dump her cause of her cooking; but i guess not. Okay now on the serious note; i think she has grown sick of you; & talk to her for one last time; if it still doesn't produce any results then show her the way out. good luck.
2007-09-28 12:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by crazykiaray23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the lump.She is sometimey.Hey then go bake some cookies...Need a recipe?Ask for one..Thanks for 2.
2007-09-28 13:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having an open-minded talk with her
ask her to split every truth& whether or not is she feeling sick of you
i mean who knows- you guys have been together for 3 years and it's like WOW maybe she is kinda feeling sick of you
2007-09-28 12:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by crazy_rina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried writing her a letter, asking her what's wrong? Maybe she's having difficulty expressing what she's feeling. She might open up to you by responding to your letter. I wish you good luck....the last thing we lose is hope. 8:)
2007-09-28 15:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Talia Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No marriage?
No legal problems?
she has something else going on..
protect your winky before you get a STD.!!
unless you have contracts - - -
Your only bound by your guilt.
Time to find some honesty & cooperation.
WHAT does this have to do with cooking..!!!!
2007-09-28 12:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her you're looking to move on...
2007-09-28 13:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by sirbobby98121 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋