I am 20 years old and live with my parents. I have other problems at home but my main problem is i don't have any relationship with my dad. I live home with him and he hasn't spoken to me for over 5 months. I tried to talk to him, but he just give me a straight answer and say no more after that. He doesn't say anything at all to me. I know one of his problems with me is that i have a boyfriend, and he does not approve of that. The main thing is that i can no longer take living home with my dad and their is no communication between us. He doesn't even look at me. I have being wanting to leave the house and go live with my boyfriend since he is the only men right now that i get love and support from. But i havent' left because of my mom. She is very sensitive, she doesn't believe on living with a man before marriage. I have one more year of college, i wanted to leave after graduation, but i just can't take living here with my dad. I just want to find peace in my heart. do i leave or stay
2007-09-28 05:40:00 · 5 answers · asked by nedjine05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are over 18 and you can date whomever you like!! Is there a reason he does not like your bf? If it is because he simply does not want you to date anyone then maybe you should leave. You are an adult. You will need to have money to pay your bills and support yourself!!!
2007-09-28 05:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tough situation at home. I really wouldn't move in with your boyfriend just to escape a tough family situation.
Here are some choices. If you really want to stay (for your mom, or financial reasons, for example), get some counseling. You'd be surprised how much that can help.
If you really want to go, find some other girls to share an apartment with. It will be more affordable, and you'll be building your independence skills. You can get counseling in either case.
I doubt your father's issues have to do with you. But it is time for you to be moving in to adulthood, and that means accepting your parents as less than perfect, and only allowing yourself to be impacted by that to a limited extent.
Good luck with your life, family and BF. :-)
2007-09-28 05:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at age 20 leaving the nest is a part of life. Sounds like your suffering out weighs your mom's sensitivity. Stop feeling guilty and move on. However, be sure to think out your plan before hand.
2007-09-28 05:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny you are 20 its time to grow up and move out and become your own person but i think you are better off not living with your bf and living on your own what happens if after a week of living together you brake up?
2007-09-28 05:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by iamhuntersmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds like your Dad is a deep thinker,and maybe a little sad.Try talking to him about things thst he likes,fishing,reading ,movies,ect.and see if you can pull him out of his shell try to make him feel good about hisself you cant move you have to much to do at home ,helping your Dad,You will be surprised how much things will change.By being unselfish,after your Father is more impt.than a fling,right?
2007-09-28 05:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋