why is it so hard to find a quality man? it seems that most of then are as*holes, they cheat, or theyre just not my type. maybe im picky? idk? i just want a guy that doesnt get jealous if i have guy friends, isnt posssesive, doesnt treat me like crap, doesnt cheat and of course i have to find him attractrive.
ive tried going for the "nice" guys that i dont find totally attractive but i found them to get to clingy.
2007-09-28 05:33:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i dont care if you say im shallow for wanting him to be attractive too. personality can only go so far if your not attracted to the poerson to then the relationship wont totally work. dont get me wrong im not gonna date a sumone just for their looks, id want him to have a good personality etc. i wouldnt date a total hottie if he was a dick head.
2007-09-28 05:47:38 · update #1
Please ,,, There are guys out there . They aren't all DH's and maybe it's how you treat them that they treat you like crap . It takes two to make the relationship grow . A little give and take . sounds like you want to take rather than give . The remark about nice guys are clingy well , that shows what kind of person you are all about . You can look but don't touch . Once you have them you re tired and want to move on . Don't blame the guys . just grow up .
2007-10-05 23:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as the opposite side of that fustration its hard to do the same as a guy looking for a girl... you not the only one. Its understandable to want a "good guy" not a nice guy but not an a$$hole. I try to find a girl that wont cheat, easy to talk to and that just likes me for me and doesnt try to make me what she wants and not what i am. The point is, is that no one can be perfect but its not alot to ask for when you want certain things but you must be able to "settle" at the same time
2007-09-28 05:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Caynmarko23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I read the answers, and it seemed like none of them really answered your question. It is hard to find a "quality" man. Believe me, I understand. And wanting someone who has redeeming qualities and is physically attractive isn't a bad thing. I'm not expecting an Adonis, but I do expect them to take pride in their appearance, as I do.
What makes it hard to meet people you find interesting is that there are few social situations conducive to it. Fate doesn't seem to throw potential mates our way too often, and waiting for someone to just happen to cross your path seems like an effort in futility. Online match making makes me feel like I'm looking through a JCPenney catalog full of nothing but other women's rejects. I know that sounds ugly, but that how I feel. Believe it or not, one online dating site actually sent me a "match", and the guy was my ex! The opportunities to meet someone you could want to spend some serious time with just don't seem like they come along that often. I haven't given up hope, but I'm trying to do things I enjoy doing, and if I happen to meet someone, all the better.
Good luck in your search. I'm with ya.
2007-09-28 06:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by liebchen2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have your fellow women to blame about finding a man.
Most single men have been through the mill and have "coping techniques" that they use, which you obviously do not like. Keep looking, there are some out there.
Just to be fair, many of these women also have "coping techniques" that men do not like. It is a vicious cycle.
Besides, there is nothing wrong with being picky.
2007-09-28 05:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One thing you have to keep in mind is that you should be looking for what you are willing to be for someone else. If you don't want someone who gets jealous about you having guy friends and isn't possessive, don't be jealous about him having other girls for friends and don't be possessive of him.
About the clingy thing, what you might consider clingy someone else might consider treating well. The "nice" guys you refer to (funny how you put that word in quotes) just probably are happy to be with you and want the same of you. I am one of those kind of guys, and know what they are thinking.
So in my opinion, I think you should change your standards of what a "quality" guy is.
2007-09-28 05:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by sweaterhugger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"...or they're just not my type."
This could be part of the problem. It's seems your "type" turns out to be jerks. Try asking your friends to set you up on a blind date with people who aren't your type - you might be suprised!
On the topic of the nice, yet clingy, guy - look for a guy who has his own set of friends, his own hobbies, and his own life. There are guys like that out there, you just need to be more open to going out on dates with more people.
I know several great guy friends of mine who are of the same opinion about there not being many "quality girls" out there.
2007-09-28 06:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My girlfriend once thought I was jealous and possesive. She wanted someone who was caring and devoted. Caring and devoted can be interpereted as jealous and posessive, it depends how you look at it.
PS said girlfriend and I have been married now 6 happy years
2007-10-06 02:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Spooky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is how many man hav u gone out with? If its a handful den its unfair to label all men ar wat u say dey are, bliv in law of averages, the more no's u get, the closer you are to a yes ;) Create urself higher chances to meet da guy u want ;)
2007-09-28 05:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by M1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So.. attractive is still your main goal..
YOU want to be clingy, jealous,possessive, have guy friends, treat him like crap, but he can't...
The first rule of relationships, is what you put in, not what you get out.
Try treating guys better, and you'll do better with guys.
2007-09-28 05:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i'd say step away from what you usually go for, try someone who you see open a door for someone for no good reason or something like that just approach em and do your thing
2007-09-28 05:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by a s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋