We both want a threesome...i'm way into girls. But, he wants to have a threesome with well, any girl really, but mostly with an old friend of his. He recently told me that he kinda likes her...but has no intention of breaking up with me 'cause he loves me to pieces and I'm his best friend. He said he just wants to make sure that no matter what happens in our relationship that we'll always be friends. He said that if he meets someone and they kinda "click" he would never cheat on me, but if he does break up with me he still really wants to be friends. He said he never wants me to be out of his life. I just don't know how to feel...I asked was this conversation supposed to be a precursor to separating as a couple and he said "no". "I don't want to break up with you. I just want to make sure that you're making your own happiness and not completely relying on me b/c I don't know what the furture holds."
2007-09-28 05:31:22 · 32 answers · asked by marigoldkelly95 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's said that he doesn't want me to rely on him for happiness and all that other stuff from the very beginning of our relationship. And, I like girls sexually but can't stand relationships with them.
2007-09-28 06:02:53 · update #1
That is kind of a cryptic response. I'd keep an eye on him. As for the 3some, I would recommend you picking the girl. If he has feelings for this other girl, it might not be wise to bring her into the bed.
2007-09-28 05:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason for everything, and if he is bringing this up to you then there is something to back it. Even if he doesn't have intentions of cheating on you, breaking up with you, etc. there is something underlying on his mind.
And second of all, I'm not really sure a threesome would be your best bet right now. I honestly think it could do harm to an unstable relationship. And if you are going to do something like that, you should make sure that everything between the two of you is wonderful and that the threesome would be purely experimental.
Basically, if he likes this girl he wants to have a threesome with, he doesn't need to "cheat" on you, if you are there in the room and giving him the ok. I think that is dangerous, and could put your relationship in an even rockier state.
If he likes what he sees in the bedroom, you never know what it could lead to, don't put yourself in that position.
Good luck!
2007-09-28 05:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL no good can come out of a threesome. Especialy if he wants it with a "friend". Sounds like he has your replacement in mind. In my opinion the relationship is over for him, he is just tring to get you to break it off with him. Read your last line carefully.
"I just want to make sure that you're making your own happiness and not completely relying on me b/c I don't know what the furture holds."
in guy talk that's: i'll continue to have sex with you unitl something else better comes along.
2007-09-28 05:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From reading what you've said it doesn't seem like you 2 are mentally prepared to have a 3some. Aside from that the idea of having it with someone that he already has a pre-existing relationship with at the least a horrible idea. Because there is a very good possability that some feelings could come out of the 3some. See that's the thing about having a 3some, you don't want it to be with anyone that could later come back into the picture in a negative way. you have to be in control of more than just the situation when its happening, but later when its over.
2007-09-28 05:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I think he wants you as a friend but to have sex with OTHER girls who aren't you. That is what it sounds like to me, but it also sounds like he is a decent guy who is trying to care about your feelings. A threesome is definately something I think people should do at least once IF they are into it and don't have jealousy issues. I thinks its a bad sign that there is already a girl he wants, an old friend... obviously he fantasizes about her and I wouldn't want a guy who did that. If you do it I say that you get equal pick in the other girl because a threesome is about three people being turned on not just about a dude getting it on w/ two chicks at the same time. Do you see the difference there?
2007-09-28 05:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure, that's true, we don't. But what his words mean is that he's trolling for something better (or something that seems to be better). There's "I don't know what the future holds, but I see it with you and only you" vs. "Hey babe, anything can happen... I'm happy where I am right now with you and you should be too." Very different comments.
The threesome should wait until you're secure in your relationship, or until your relationship has "slowed down" to the point where you're just friends with benefits. That's not the kind of relationship test you need right now, if you actually intend to be with this guy for the rest of your life.
(Or, perhaps the threesome can go, but he only gets to watch and touch you.)
2007-09-28 05:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make some things very clear about your situation:
1. Threesomes never work out, but you are looking for a way to have sex with a girl without admitting your real sexual preference.
2. He's being a horny twit who wants to do it with anyone he can get away with, even if he does love you.
3. Both you and your boyfriend admit that your relationship is extremely unstable and likely to end.
So what do I suggest? Admit to yourself that you are having homosexual feelings, and that being involved with this guy is pretty much a cover. Break off this weak relationship and evaluate your sexual feelings. There is nothing wrong with being true to who and what you are.
2007-09-28 05:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have a threesome your relationship will change. You may be able to stay friends, but i do not see your status staying the same. I think you would end up breaking up. It is very hard for things to stay friendly once sex is in the picture though, so good luck.
2007-09-28 05:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by myalteriormotive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you believe him for a second honey!!! If the guy genuinely loved you, then you would be his single sole focus of his passion, as well as a certain part of his anatomy as well. He just wants to double his pleasure, and then afterwords brag about the orgasm that sent him to the moon to his friends the next time he is out with the boys! You think he would let you have a second guy for a threesome??? Don't sell your self out for being the turkey in his sexual club sandwich!!!!
2007-09-28 05:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bad omen and it's NOT a good time to have a threesome of any kind! It will ruin your relationship for sure.
Decide if you really want to spend your life with this guy. It sounds like he's got one foot out the door.
Good luck! :)
2007-09-28 05:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he isn't sure what he wants right now and is laying the foundation to leave at a later time .
if things were to work out with the other person in the "threesome" area, you could be in trouble. IF you really want to do that, get someone he doesn't know, but you do.
2007-09-28 05:34:55 · answer #11 · answered by ♥STREAKER♥©℗† 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋