Ive known this amazing girl for about a half a year now and she is the first girl Ive ever had deep feelings for. The other night she got into a minor car accident and was really upset she says she "ruins everything" and everyone is mad at her. I asked her if she just didn't want to be with me and she said she doesnt want me wanting to be with her and that there are plenty of other girls better than her. I was crying my eyes out (I dont normally do it that often) trying to convince her she was good enough for me and she meant everything to me but that only made it worse because that made her feel guilty about making me upset. Even though she is an honor student she thinks shes stupid and selfish and her self esteem is just so low. What should I do, I really do love her shes helped me out in so many ways and I just can't let her go.
2007-09-28 05:16:15 · 10 answers · asked by BKelly237 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm....let it stay that way. Once she thinks she is good enough she will stop trying to please you and start to try to run your life. She may also tell you no when you ask her to do something. Just don't get to the point of treating her like a total doormat. Let her buy diner and pay for the date. And complain about something once in awhile so she doesn't get complacent. But do compliment her every once in awhile also ans tell she is improving.
2007-10-06 04:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of two things.
1) Very low self esteem. She needs counseling and fast. All you can do is wait it out. DO NOT make a big deal about these comments because, believe it or not, it makes it worse.
2) Passive-Aggressive personality. If this is the case, run fast, run hard, and do not look back. Again, counseling or a simple profile test will show these traits.
Be careful with you heart on this one.
2007-09-28 05:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl means as much to you as you say, show her. Make sure she knows just how much she means to you-despite her faults. I am a little insecure, too (I don't think as much as your girlfriend), but I can relate where she is coming from. It is not easy to change the way you view yourself, but help her out. Show her that she is so smart, and not selfish and everything like that. Point out her good qualities- nobody's perfect but she shouldn't dwell on the bad. Try to be pacient with her and understanding. If she sees that you will stick by her no matter what, she'll come around. Good luck!
2007-10-06 04:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs a lot of reassurance that you love her... the fact that you cried in front of her, should show her how much you care. I think she just wants you to tell her how often you care about her, pretty often. A lot of girls need reassurance like that. Just help her out during her low self-esteem phase... we all go through it! Sounds like you are a great boyfriend already!
2007-09-28 05:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by nanerpud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be two answers to this.
1. She has major self esteem problems and needs some counselling or......................
2. She doesnt really want to be with you and is only saying that she isnt good enough for you so that she can break it off with you without "hurting" your feelings and making it your fault.
2007-09-28 05:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of these things are your fault but reminding her she's beautiful every chance you get would help boost her confidence. And when she gets dolled up for you make sure she knows you appreciate it. Another thing dont for get to tell her you love her if she feels loved she's not going to dwell on what she can't change
2016-04-06 05:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her everyday that you love her, call her baby, cutie, sexy, whatever you want but positive things that will get her confidence up. Maybe buy her a little something nice, even if its just a rose, and on the card write to my baby because she means the world to me, or something cute like that =]
2007-09-28 05:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww this is sad makes me teary
well reminder that you love her as much as u can
compliment her
cuddle with her
just show her
all the love u have
and that she is important to u
2007-09-28 05:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find it out, let me know b/c im...just like your g/f.
2007-09-28 05:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep fighting for her
2007-09-28 05:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋