A year or so ago I cheated on my b/f with my 10 month old ex of 10 years. My b/f has treated me like crap and has called me names every since, saying its because I cheated a year ago. He wants to get his "even" for me cheating by he going out and doing the same. I realize my HUGE mistake, and I have tried to ease his fears that I would ever do it again, but its never enough. I'm am now at a point, from all the emotional abuse because of it that I told him to do it if it would make him quit calling me whore and treating me like sh*t all the time. What now? Should I really let him do it?
2007-09-28 04:59:52 · 11 answers · asked by SHERRY S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
End the relationship. If he feels that cheating would make him feel better, he is only fooling himself and you if you let him. He will continue to call you the names and if you try to tell him that he did it too he will only say that you were they cause (because you did it first). He is verbally abusing you and nobody should have to deal with that.
2007-09-28 05:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by Monica M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sherry you obviously made a mistake that you are regretting now. However, just because you cheated does not give him any right to go out and do the same. This is only going to damage your relationship further and in my opinion destroy any trust that exists between the two of you. It sounds to this old fool like you are in an abusive relationship and would be wise to close this chapter of your life and move on. Go out and find yourself someone who will treat you with the respect and love that we all deserve and crave in our relationship, after kicking this fella to the curb. If he thinks of you as a whore or a makes you feel like crap then you would be wise to admit that this relationship has no chance of survival. Do what is best for yourself and your ego. Allow yourself some time to grieve the loss of this relationship and then get your dating shoes on and get out there and find someone new. Best of luck.
2007-09-28 12:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, two wrongs never make a right. the only thing he would accomplish by cheating on you is him lowering himself to your level. not offense or anything. he just wants you to feel the hurt that he is feeling. even though you have done wrong, there is no reason that you should be putting up with verbal abuse from him. i could see during a fight that he might say some bad things, but not all the time for a year. my hubby cheated on me this past summer and i did my fair share on name calling. name calling doesn't help anyone. especially if you are really wanting to get past everything. sit down and talk to him about all of it. if it helps, my hubby and i got this book. it's more for married people, but if you plan on staying together, you might want to check it out.
2007-09-28 12:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not condone his behaviour. He is using your cheating to treat you like total dirt, and make you feel like you deserve it.
Do you really think that if he cheated he would stop this behaviour? No he wouldn't because he has been doing it for so long.
You regret your cheating, and he clearly wanted to still be with you. You need to sit him down and say if he wants to be with you then he needs to stop going on about the cheating. You are very sorry for what you did, but if he cannot forgive you and trust you then it has got to be over. He may decide it is over, but I think it will make him wake up.
You see the difference is, you are sorry for what you did, and he is seeking REVENGE against his OWN girlfriend. There is no excuse for premeditated cheating, which is what he wants. I really think you need to stand up for yourself and tell him what is what.
2007-09-28 12:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by fire_woman_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there was a family guy episode like this......lois slept with bill clinton so peter said he wanted to hump her mom but then realized he didnt care and only wanted to be wiht lois...of course he ended up in bed with clinton....but you should just dump him cheating to even the score wont help anything..and he will never let you live it down
2007-09-28 12:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by solar_flight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is do you want him to do it? we know for a fact that you made a mistake and you regret it, sorry seems not working up for him. one more thing is that he has no rights to call you names. maybe the best thing to do is for both of you to have space from each other for awhile for him to realize the things he did for you. i said space not break up with him.
2007-09-28 12:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by mykee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, anyone who treats you like that doesn't really love you. If someone loves you, they'll forgive you for your mistakes. Making mistakes is part of being human, and those who love us are supposed to forgive us and help us learn from those mistakes. I would break up with him. Anyone who treats you that way doesn't deserve you. Seriously, BREAK UP WITH HIM!! Good luck.
2007-09-28 12:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lacey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What gave you the right? And why cant he do the same, for the same reasons? Should it be "do as I say, and not as I do"? or "Whats good for the goose is good for the gander"? You opened the door to this problem. Deal.
2007-09-28 12:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by bloodshotcyclops 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So then end it. Apparently neither of you have respect for one another.
2007-09-28 12:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
dump him and move on it's not worth th BS your going to go through!!!!
2007-09-28 12:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋