We have a brand new home and it's simply gorgeous. My husband's mother was supposed to only be here for a vacation, but it looks like she's wearing out her welcome. One day she says she wants to go to California, the next day she says she wants to move back to Texas. Now she's in the talks of staying here!!!
I'm about to lose my mind. She smells up the house with her smelly cooking, she makes my cats uncomfortable and I can't even enjoy unpacking my things or watching TV without her nagging me. It's like "Everybody Loves Raymond" but worse because she's actually IN the house.
She's old, she has no money and when I saw the guest room she's staying in, it looks like she's all settled in. I talked with my husband about taking her away, but he's so busy with work and other things.
What should I do? How do I get her out? (I already thought of threatening my husband of moving out until she leave but that's not fair --it's my house too and I don't feel I should leave 'cuz of her.)
2007-09-28 04:59:28 · 4 answers · asked by Jeannie B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She has a home in Texas, so I don't see why it's so hard for her to go back!!! It's paid off, but it's a very tiny modest house. One minute she says she wants to go there, the next she says she doesn't. Thanks guys!
2007-09-28 08:58:47 · update #1
Yes it is your house, and you need to have a serious talk with your husband... and make a decision about what to do.
Your mother in law needs to get her own place. If she doesn't have a lot of money, i'm sure there is help available. Lots of retirement communities out there and also subsidized housing for the elderly.
You and/or your husband need to let her know that while you didn't mind having her there on "vacation" for a while, it's time to find her own place... whether it's in California, Texas or on the moon, you need to make it clear that she needs her independence and her own place to live.
take care. dont leave.. assert yourself in a kind, respectful manner...
2007-09-28 05:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question would be where is her permanent residence? Is she paying rent or own a home somewhere? Over staying a visit is different from living with you. I would not threaten your husband as you are only adding more problems to the issue. Apparently it doesn't bother him she is there as being busy is a pathetic excuse as to why he is avoiding talking to his mother. If it was me I would pack her things and ship her off to another family member or send her home.
If she is living in the lap of luxury free why would she want to leave?
2007-09-28 14:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I recommend that you watch "Monster in Law " it's a movie with Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda to get some ideas but be careful of what you do because that was a movies and this is real life. Ask yourself, does your mother in law like you? Does she approve of your marriage with her son? Find out her agenda. From what I learn from the movie if you make her life a living hell she will move out without you telling her to move but whatever you do you must do without making it seem intentional. Just be annoying or do something you know she doesn't like and always be polite and remain calm as she accuse you of doing something to annoy her.
By the way your husband should find time for what's important like talking to his mom about moving out. By his action I think he is afraid of asking her to move so if you love him drive her crazy and make her move but if you don't love him that much push the issue and make him tell her to move.
2007-09-28 13:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by nemaus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband she needs to go ASAP and if he gives you any lip about it, you'll put them both out.
2007-09-28 13:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋