and about 3 times we ending up heavy petting- no sex- but heavy petting- does this mean we are not suppose to be together?
2007-09-28 04:57:52 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No, it just means that ur really into each other. The closer you get to someone the more you want to be with them physically.
If you want to keep a pure relationship, you have to set up higher boundaries. i.e. no kissing when laying down, or alone in a house, or stuff to that effect. You guys should discuss it and decide what works best for you. Also set up consequences, so you have a reason to follow them.
My husband and I had to stop kissing completely for like a month before we were married!
2007-09-28 05:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thing about it this way, if something happened and you didnt get married, then you would be heavy petting some other ladies husband, and he would be heavy petting some other man's wife. Does it sound christian-like?
Every time you are with someone outside of marrige, it is like taking a black magic marker and writing on a white board. The white board would represent your soul.
You could just go to the justice of the peace, and in 5 minutes get a marrige certificate, have the cerimony and tell everyone later. Remember though, marrige is for for life, I think you should marry him now as soon as possible. Divorce is not permitted for Christians or anyone else, read Romans 7-1. Til death due you part.
2007-09-28 05:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rudy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says to flee youthful lusts, and stay away from all sexual immorality (including oral sex). Do not put yourself in a position like that b/c heavy petting and kissing will eventually end up in having sex. He/She who thinks they stan, take heed unless they fall. Just because you're heading towards marriage doesn't mean it's ok to have sex... Sex was creating for marriage and marriage only. Ask God to give you wisdom so that you won't get yourself into a situation like that again. Just because your body has a desire doesn't mean you have to be controlled by that desire. Keep it Holy...You're worth the wait.
2007-09-28 05:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are together for only 10 months you are not headed towards marriage- maybe you are maybe you aren't but 10 months is not a good indicator.
also you are not boyfriend and girlfriend.
if you are not having sex you are nothing but friends. let that heavy petting go somewhere and besure and make him wear a condom (most christians who try to be abstinate don't and can end up with unwanted pregnancies or diseases).
2007-09-28 05:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it means you are normal humans with natural physical urges. Sex is designed by God for marriage, yes. But we all struggle with that. If you have been together for 10 months and are heading for marriage than has he proposed? Remember also not to fall into any trap. Just try to remain strong in your faith...if you feel that what you are doing is wrong then one way to prevent it from happening is to avoid any situation where it could go further. Stay strong and faithful to God....you will be rewarded for it :-)
Good luck to you!
2007-09-28 05:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but be very careful. Satan can be very subtle in His ways, by telling you that there is nothing wrong with what you are doing.
But it is SO EASY to slip into the trap of pre-marital sex. It wll be much more worth it if you wait & back off a little.
I'm not saying stop seeing each other, just make a conscious effort, to avoid situations that might lead to something that you will regret later!
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2007-09-28 05:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it means (a) you're both normal heterosexuals and your bodies are both in healthy working order, (b) your passion for each other is still growing, which is good and (c) you need to be careful not to spend so much private time together if you want to remain chaste (celibate until marriage + faithful afterwards).
2007-09-28 05:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It means that it is good that you are getting married.
1 Corinthians 7:9
but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 Corinthians 7:36
But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry.
In other words, you are just experiencing the passionate attraction that God has created inside of you. Save it for marriage, and go crazy for each other then.
2007-09-28 05:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What? No. It means you are attracted to each other and that is an important part of a marriage... You are looking for a lover, friend, partner, and hopefully father...Not just a bet buddy. You need some sexual attraction
2007-09-28 05:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means that you are very attracted to each other. If you're attempting to wait until you're married, you might want to chill out on the make out sessions. Although you're not having sex, you're surely setting yourself up to be extremely tempted. Why torture yourselves? Keep praying and asking for help in self control.
2007-09-28 05:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by edcw0214 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋