2007-09-28 04:55:43 · 28 answers · asked by M v 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow, I didnt realize I would have so many comments. He gave me the ring, but he said that everytime he wanted to ask me I ruioned the surprise, he claimes he tried 2 times to suprise me, in his frustration, he just gave me the ring. He introduces me as his fiance, but I introduce him as my boyfriend and he get's mad. I dont think im engaged, but he does even though he hasnt asked me yet.
2007-09-28 10:20:07 · update #1
Without asking you, how is it an engagement and not just giving you a really cool ring?
2007-09-28 04:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
If you think it's an engagement ring, maybe you should ask him if that means you're engaged.
A similar thing happened to my fiance and I. I pretty much figured I'd be the one asking and was talking to him about my looking up appropriate gifts to give. turns out traditionally the woman gets a ring the man gets a clock. So I bought him a nice watch and engraved his initials on it but then figured it wasn't nice enough to be an engagement present so I gave it to him. He took it and turned out he pretty much figured that was my proposal and we were engaged. When we talked about it, and I found out that's how we decided we'd just go ahead and be engaged being as we both wanted it.
A good reason why it's important to talk about and clarify things.
2007-09-28 05:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by Manny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, IMO. The question and the answer are 2/3 of what makes it official (the ring being the 3rd part, of course). When a friend of mine got engaged, her now-hubby didn't ask. He simply put the ring on her finger one night while they were watching TV and she was on the phone with his brother. Everyone we worked with just stared at her in disbelief when she excitedly told us about it the next day. One very blunt co-worker said, "You're joking, right? You know you're not engaged until he asks and you say 'yes'?".
Personally, if a man "proposed" to me by slipping the ring on my finger, I'd be pretty insulted that he would assume I'd say "yes".
2007-09-28 05:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he gives you a diamond ring w/o a proposal, it's just another ring, NOT an engagement ring. Being an engagement ring requires clearly stated intentions to be married, which are recipocated by the woman. In fact, to be an engagement ring, the ring doesn't have to have a diamond, but it DOES have to have clearly stated intentions of marriage that come with it.
2007-09-28 05:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did he give it? Say "here this is for you" or something?
How do you know its not just an ordinary ring?
Just because it looks like an engagement ring does not mean it is.
IMO it isn't an engagement unless he asks you to marry him.
2007-09-28 08:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know it's an engagement ring if he didn't ask you to marry him? If someone just hands you a ring without popping the question, you can just assume it's just a gift without any intentions.
2007-09-28 05:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by smoofus70 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. You both know it's an engagement ring and he refers to you as his fiance and you accept that name? Yes, you're engaged. Why would you take a ring like that without it being clear what it is?
2007-09-28 07:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how do you know it's an engagment ring, and not a really nice gift or promise ring?
2007-09-28 05:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ypu guys need to have a talk about what that means. What finger do you wear it on? Does he introduce you as his fiance? Why would he give you a ring and not ask?
2007-09-28 05:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the proposal that makes the ring an engagement ring.
2007-09-28 05:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋