What do you think of this? I attended a wedding this summer where the older bride (with three adult children) wore a traditional, princess-type, white, wedding gown with tiara. I was shocked! Did I have the correct reaction?
2007-09-28 04:46:43 · 31 answers · asked by missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't be silly, of course I didn't say anything to her, and "allowed her to have her day" I was just shocked, is all.
2007-09-28 04:53:11 · update #1
ok, I don't really need to know if I had the right reaction, I'm comfortable with the fact that I was, and still am, shocked. I just want to know if anyone else out there agrees, or has seen the same thing and their thoughts about it.
2007-09-28 05:06:07 · update #2
ps, its NOT about the white=virginal thing. It just seemed inappropriate for her age. this was a second marriage for both the bride and groom.
2007-09-28 05:07:48 · update #3
OF COURSE it's my business! I was a GUEST at the wedding. I BOUGHT a gift! Don't be silly...a wedding is not a private affair! There is something to be said for ettiqute and manners, and proper behavior at a wedding. I had to drive HOURS to get to the church...geesh.
2007-09-28 05:36:20 · update #4
Maybe she never got the wedding of her dreams the first time, and this was the chance to do it how she always wanted it. I would probably be a little shocked to, but a wedding is one of the few times as an adult that you can go over the top without getting the same reaction you would any other day.
2007-09-28 05:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I used to be a bridal consultant. I had brides come in and order a bridesmaid dress in white or ivory to wear as their gown. Not ever brides wants or needs a big dress. There are many nontraditional bridal gowns out there. Getting married on the beach or destination weddings is big right now, and the brides are opting for a more simple dress. I really would not go with a color for your wedding dress. That you may regret. Although my girlfriend had a very small wedding on Valentines Day and wore a red velvet dress, which looked great
2016-05-20 23:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You totally over reacted, times have changed and we are no longer bound by rigid traditions, weddings can and should reflect the taste and personality of the bride and groom and there is nothing wrong with a woman wearing a traditional gown, it is still a wedding after all. Personally I think you need to be a bit less judgemental of people, you may well find yourself in such a position and you would not like it if people judged you. Move with the times or you'll be left behind.
2007-09-30 22:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may not have had a big wedding the first time around and wanted to feel like a princess on her special day. I dont see anything wrong with it. I think that now days people go to all kinds of extremes and change traditions. It's just a sign of the times. Personally if I were to get married a second time, I would definately wear something more simple. I had my big day with a beautiful white wedding gown and tiarra, so I dont need it twice.
2007-09-28 05:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by lpogue2005 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Missy: I have not read all of the other answers, but by your "additional comments" I see most people said....."it's her day....she can do what she wants."
Well, I GUESS that it's true, but I do AGREE WITH YOU.....I think it was in poor taste. If I was to be married now (I'm older with 2 grown children), I certainly would want a dignified romantic ceremony, which would include knowledge of some wedding etiquette. I certainly would not march down the aisle in a cinderella dress like a blushing bride!!! For heaven's sake.
To be honest, I not only would have been shocked, but I would have probably started laughing!!! C'mon....get real. There are sooooo many beautiful dresses and gowns out there that would be appropriate. And a tiara.....too funny!!
2007-09-28 13:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There was some old unwritten traditional rule that only "virgins" could wear white, however the majority of women these days are not virgins by the time they get married the 1st time anyway, so people assume, first time bride is allowed to wear big, white dress.
This rule is obviously outdated and a women should be allowed to wear whatever she chooses at her weddding, regardless of how many times she has been married and if she has children or not.
You may want to ask yourself why this bothered you so much and why you had the reaction of shock.
Remember not everyone holds the same ideas and value system that you do, so try to respect her decision to wear a big white dress.
2007-09-28 05:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Vanessa C 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I guess we're all different. If I got married a 2nd time I would do something big like Hawaii or a cruise then come back & have an awesome casual party with no gifts. I figure some of the guests gave a present at your 1st wedding & when you you get married a 2nd time usually you are older & have everything & don't really need other people's presents or $. I guess it's a personal choice.
2007-09-28 04:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by underthemoon101 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have given it a second thought. To me, a "traditional" wedding IS about the dress, the fancy cake, all the trimmings. I really don't care how old the bride is - she's still a bride. Would I, myself, wear a princess-type dress at my wedding? Never in my life; I just don't wear such things. Do I love seeing it on someone else? Yeah; it adds to the "festive" mood. In fact, I'm usually disappointed if I come to a wedding and the bride isn't wearing a flashy dress! LOL
2007-09-28 06:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No you did not. Every bride has the right to choose the style of her wedding and her dress. Tradition no longer applies. Even some first time virginal brides are not following stereotypical weddings and are wearing other than white and veils. I think this is good as the wedding should reflect the taste of the couple and not some outdated societal norms that someone years ago decided was proper.
2007-09-28 05:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
What's so shocking about a bride wearing a traditional, princess-type, white wedding gown with a tiara? So what if it's her second wedding! It's a perfectly appropriate dress for an older, second-time bride. There's no rule that says such a gown is only limited to young, first time, virgin brides. I think the appropriate reaction is joy and congratulations, not being judgmental.
2007-09-28 04:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 8⤊ 2⤋