I'm a heavier girl (5'3 200lbs) who's with a really good looking guy, (he rates 9.4 on HOTorNOT, I rate 5.5) I've usually kept with strictly average looking guys and can't see how he's attracted to me, what do I do?
2007-09-28 04:29:22 · 29 answers · asked by keeper_of_souls13 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've to give you guy photos to help.
http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=NQELHEH
http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=OYKYNYB
2007-09-28 04:49:07 · update #1
Soul Keeper remain faithful to yourself and to who you are. There are many ladies who are bigger framed and have very attractive and what others would consider good catches. My step daughter just married in July and she sounds like she is about 45 lbs. heavier then you. She has a great personality and is very smart girl though and I know for a fact that this is what he finds most appealing in her. There is nothing wrong with being an average looking individual, whether male or female, providing that you have morals and values that are strong and people sense that you are real and not attempting to be someone or something that you are not. Consider yourself fortunate and be grateful that you have found a good male to respect you and accept you for who you are, and be proud of who you are also.
2007-09-28 04:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do- you have to have confidence. So what you are a little big- Beauty is in the eye of the beholder- what may not be cute to some may be gorgeous to others. Just have fun while it last.
I'm sure you are are very nice and attractive girl. Don't start overcompensating in your relationship just because you think he's better looking than you. It's not always about looks. If you think he really like you for you- leave it at that and don't become insecure.
If you found out that he doesn't.. well- Sh$t happens. Try to have fun while you can!
2007-09-28 04:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by smiley10036 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are a little different than guys. I mean they certainly love to date attractive men, but they are so much more in need of an emotional closeness than an attractive man. However, when a girl sees her friend with a really hot guy she can be a little jealous. Wallet size is fairly unimportant, especially in comparison to personality.
2016-05-20 23:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy that you have found a great guy who really likes you for you and take another look in your mirror. Obviously he is seeing something that you won't let yourself see. Being big doesn't make you unattractive or any less than anyone else. And being thin doesn't make life perfect. I am sure you aren't with him just because of his looks or rating so understand that not all guys are caught up with looks and what hollywood considers beautiful and be happy that you are with someone you like who likes ya back.. Good Luck !!!
2007-09-28 04:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Julie J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take HOT or NOT seriously, you shouldn't be judging your attractiveness on one picture that a bunch of strangers have rated...be happy that your guy finds you attractive. Your guy may like heavier girls or he may see past your weight, maybe you have a personality that he loves.
2007-09-28 04:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all u needs to handle your self esteem problems. just because u are heavy does not mean you are restricted to any type of guys. it should be based on the persons. you should rate yourself at a 10 regardless of what any one else thinks. if you feels this way about yourself then that's when others will start rating u this way. there is nothing wrong with be heavy, its how u carry yourself. feel pretty, act pretty, and u will be pretty to u and others.
2007-09-28 04:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by peachestommyleasia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beleive it or not. Not everyone is in this game for the look, honey.
I can testify for that personaly. This guy is either attracted to bigger girls or just straight up loves who you are. Don't doubt yourself now. If you should be doubting anyone it is every person that answers this question with a "Damn I have no clue why he would do that."
You got it, Sister!
2007-09-28 04:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to anyone who says he might be using you.
Some people (and sadly these days they are less common) don't rate themselves on how they look, and don't rate others on how they look. Perhaps this guy has been out with girls who have only cared about how they look and got bored with it, and now wants to go out with a real woman.
And you are probably a really nice person, so he is probably attracted to your personality.
Besides, I am around your weight and height, and I don't consider myself any less worthy of male attention - I have been out with plenty of attractive men, and not one of them used me, as I haven't let them.
If you are worried, don't treat him like he is some sort of GOD for chosing to go out with you, just enjoy your time together.
Good luck, I hope you are happy.
2007-09-28 04:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by fire_woman_1978 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because your heavy don't mean you're not attractive looking. Maybe he like the way you look and your personality. You probably ain't' like those other bimbos running around. Just keep being nice, keep hair done, some nice smelly perfume on not to much though, keep dressing nice.
2007-09-28 04:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to understand but just be careful. I know a guy who talks only to big girls and he's super hot too. As it turns out he talks to big girls because he knows that they have low self-esteem and give in to what he wants. He always goes after big women because then he can sleep with them and leave them alone. He says it's pretty common between him and his friends because they are easy bait.
I'm not saying that this is the case for you. This guy might truly be geniune and like you. Just be careful.
2007-09-28 04:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by celestial316 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋