i told my boyfriend about how i feel, and that we shouldnt be togther, he got really upset and was crying, he was shaking and couldnt breath. if anything happened to him, then it would have been my fault. so i told him i dont im not going to leave him. im scared i dont know what to do? i did the wrong thing again. what shall i do now?
2007-09-28 04:18:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cant stay with the guy out of pitty. Its gonna hurt 20 times worse when u guys do eventually brake up. It may just be best to end it now. stay friends wioth him.
2007-09-28 04:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by Guroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... You should have helped him through it rather then give in and renew his hope. But now that you have told him once he won't be as surprised if you tell him again. Mentally in his mind his body is trying to figure out to to deal with the situation if it happens again. It won't be as hard for him the next time. Also you may want to evaluate whether he has a healthy mind before making anymore moves like that. I don't want to say I think he is crazy because I don't but for your own safety it is a good idea to consider every angle. Circumspect.
2007-09-28 04:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate that situation.. ive been there. In some ways its mainpulative of him to be doing this to you, but on the other hand, he might genuinely not be able to help it. when it comes to emotional problems, ive found the best way to address it is with firmness and openness. if you really dont want to be with him in a relationship, then dont, but that doesnt mean you should just drop him off on the street corner to rot. just say that the relationship is too emotionally taxing on you, and that youd like to be there as a friend. that will smooth the transition, as long as you stay supportive.. and you might look into getting some counceling for him.. just dont let them put those psyke drugs in him, cause that doesnt solve any real issues.
goodluck!
2007-09-28 04:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by nacsez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that wasn't just an act he put on? Sounds pretty drastic for him to react that way unless he has health problems. You don't state the reasons you want to leave him, but if he is scaring you by his actions one way or the other, all the more reason for leaving him. He could be a danger to you. His dramatic reaction would not be your fault, just a causal effect.
2007-09-28 04:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stay with someone out of pity! He needs to let go and stop trying to guilt you into continuing the relationship. He is not being fair to you or himself. Of course it's going to hurt for a little while but you have one life to live and you don't want to continue living a lie.
2007-09-28 04:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just prolonging his suffering and inadvertantly stringing him along. Cut your ties and allow him to go on with his life. Do not let him emotionally manipulate you. Yes, he will be hurt, but he'll survive.
2007-09-28 04:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to be with him then leave. You cant stay together and be happy if you dont want to be there.I think its a act to keep you around.
2007-09-28 04:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Gemini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run you did the right thing. To not tell him would've caused more pain in the future. He deserves the truth and don't give him anything less.
2007-09-28 04:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by lisha1351 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that is really scary. if that was me, i don't know what would i do. well, since you really don't like him, i don't think it will work out. maybe if he sees another girl, he'll get infatuated with her. or why don't you start to detach yourself slowly but not breaking up because something might happen.
just my opinion though i hope it helps:) good luck
2007-09-28 04:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by lel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to be with him you wouldent be that worred about him but you were so you must still have hugg amount of feelings for him so whats the prob?
2007-09-28 04:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋