okay. well im 14 years old and a sophomore in high school. i have a flu right now and my mom is being really unreasonable to put it in a nice way. i haven't been at school for the past two days but i had come home from school after first period. so yesterday i stayed home sick just eating soup and stuff while my mom is at the casino. shes addicted to gambling. I hate it. So i thought she was at work last night and come 11:30PM she wasn't home. I was starting to get worried and called her work because she gets off at 10PM. She wasn't there. I was so worried and she showed up at 11:45, I thought she was at work and it was a casino instead. Anyway, so this morning she wakes up and trys to get me out of bed and such, I said I'm sick I'm not going to school. we got into this huge argument and I really am sick! So now she says if I dont go to school shes going to sell my dog. I've had this dog for about 6 months now and she doesn't want him because hes too much of a pet when she shows dogs.
2007-09-28 04:13:46 · 18 answers · asked by JustAnotherGirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
so basically if i dont go to school today I'm screwed because she wants to sell the dog to my dads friends who offered. my mom doesn't look at dogs as a pet, she looks at them as a investment, i absolutely hate it. so she doesn't like the "Size" or "look" of him, and shes selling him if I dont go. I know shes just looking for a excuse to sell him, so what do I do. If I go to school, I have a really miserable day today and if I dont my dogs gone. She left for a meeting and is gonna be back in a hour and a half, help?
2007-09-28 04:15:44 · update #1
oh btw, my dad said i could stay home because he knows how sick i really am. they fought and fought about it and it makes me feel really bad...
2007-09-28 04:17:09 · update #2
i went on about the gambleing because my mom used the excuse to say "well you were up late last night!"
and honestly, i am in NO condition to be at school. right now im in the living room on my laptop eating soup [hehe] and i have been vomiting, falling [dizzy], and a few other normal flu symtoms like runny nose, uncontrabale cough [like when it feels like you have a needle in your throat or a tickle.]
2007-09-28 04:23:15 · update #3
one more thing lol, i would have to WALK a mile to school in the rain [i love oregon, dont you?] and if they call my parents back, my mom wont pick me up from school so i would just have to walk back. in pouring rain, while i still have the flu.
2007-09-28 04:24:35 · update #4
Go to school and if you feel bad they will send you home. Not all parents are stupid most of us do try hard you know!
Maybe you should talk to someone at school about your mom, I think she needs some help with her gambling problem.
I hope you don't have to lose your dog that would be really sad.
2007-09-28 04:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by DH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father about your concerns regarding your mother. Not only is her gambling affecting you (her lack of parenting) but it could very well be affecting your family's financial situation. Tell your father that your mother needs to get counseling. If he will not listen (or you do not feel comfortable talking to him about this)-once you are feeling better, talk to your school counselor about what is going on and I am sure they will intervene on your behalf. I am really sorry this is happening. I am a stay at home mother-and even though things are not perfect in our home either-we make ends meet and we love and care for our children together. My thoughts and prayers are with you! I hope things get better for you SOON!!
2007-09-28 13:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to figure out what is most important to you, one day of laying on the couch wathching tv, with no dog, or going to school for 6 hours and coming home to your dog.... it wont be so bad i dont think. Maybe your mom is just threatening you, but do u wanna take the chance..... Not sure why you went on about her gambling, but maybe that is another post....
2007-09-28 04:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by louie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a few choices...
1. Report your mother to Child Protective Services, be removed from your home, put into a foster home, and brave the Foster -care system until you trun 18.
2. Find a relative you can move in with. The upheaval of your life will be painful with choices 1 or 2, but it removes you from your mother and her addiction.
3. Find a counselor at school who will help you.
4. Join or call your youth group at church, find a counselor through your church who is licensed to help teens, and discuss your options. Find out ways to deal with this while you are still in your home.
5. See if your mother will join you for family counseling. She clearly needs help. Automatically hating her is not the answer.
Go to counseling for yourself, there are groups out there like "Ala-teen" that help children of addicts deal with their situation, and they offer free counseling. Talk to someone and unload your problems for a while. Together you may find a solution to living better with your mom (or maybe, if this worsens, without)
Good luck and we will pray for you.
2007-09-28 05:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by enn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is serious about selling your dog, i would go to school. they will just send you home. have them call your mom to give you a ride or something. you could talk to a counselor at school, too. does you mom want to sell the dog to have money to gamble? if you think this is the case, tell your dad or the counselor. feel better!
2007-09-28 04:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you miss a lot of school, she might think you're faking it. I think I'd be most concerned she's selling the dog for gambling money.
Go to school. If you throw up, they'll send you home.
2007-09-28 04:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no all parents are stupid. im sorry to say your mom is a stupid *****. anyway when u get old enough move out and start a new life. just try to live there until u are old enough to move out. i guess some parents get that way from there childhood and became really angry at everything.
anyway good luck and be smart what u say to your parens and hang in there until u move out
2007-09-28 05:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad, when i was 8yrs old my dad made me go to school with food poisoning and when i was 14yrs old he told everyone at my school that i had just started my period and just before high school started he gave me a brush cut cause he said all girls are like that, i know he just wanted me to look ugly to all the boys. Just get your butt to school as sick as you feel. Your mom needs therapy.
2007-09-28 04:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not have a choice but to decide which you value more, your dog or taking another day off from school. You're more likely to be happier tomorrow if you go to school today.
2007-09-28 04:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that really sucks :( I feel so bad for you your mum needs help for her addiction and shes being completely unfair :( Hope you get to keep the dog though
2007-09-28 04:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Perfectwings 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋