The son is 3 years old. He is our neighbor. The father always competes with the son, teases him, does not allow the child to do what he wants, does not allow the grandparents to take the son out, is always possessive. All the time the son is crying and the father is doing the same thing again and again. Is this healthy? The mother is always fighting with the kid but does not do anything else. But she scolds her husband but at times she cannot control him. I am curious to know what can be the outcome for this kid. Thanks.
2007-09-28 04:13:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This sounds like my house to some extent. My neighbors might think the same thing about us. My husband teases (jokingly) our son, they play basketball or baseball and my husband doesn't let my son win, so my son cries sometimes. We don't always let him do what he wants (for instance throwing sticks or rocks into the road) and he gets mad and cries. My son also gets upset when he can't go to his aunts house (she might have to work or we might have plans) so yet again he cries. I sometimes tell my husband to cut it out when I can see our son is tired of his dads joking with him. We all love each other, we just like to play around with each other. I could see my neighbors thinking something was up.
What I am trying to say is that you are the neighbor, you might see a tiny part of these peoples lives. How do you know what is really going on. Kids cry and get upset when they don't get what they want. Unless you see something that disturbs you, I think you should never mind.
2007-09-28 06:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jesse 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Both my boys are circumcised, so I don't think there is anything wrong with it. At 22 months though, probably not a good idea. He will feel a lot of pain, he will be tugging at him, and it will just be a bad experience for all. I would wait until he's a teen and then let him decide. I did end up getting my second son done when he was 8 months old. He had a lot of problems at birth so i didn't want to add to it. Then when he was 2 months old I called to get it done. They said i had to wait until 6 months old because he was over 10 pounds. When I called back at 6 months, the next available appointment wasn't until 2 months. He had to go to the hospital to get done, got a little gown on and an iv. They had to put him to sleep for it and use a scapel. Let's just say that if my husband wasn't so for getting it done, I wouldn't have done it. It took a lot longer to heal than my first son who got it done at 3 days old. It was a bad experience. Anyway, I would just let him make the decision.
2016-03-19 01:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad. No, that's not healthy. You should never compete with a three year old or tease them mercilessly. There's no reason to fight with a three year old.
Some people just are really, really terrible parents.
2007-09-28 04:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What doesnt kill you only makes you stronger.
But a 3 year old? Thats still a kid... Let kids be kids.
I dont think it will be good for the boy at all! Hes too young to know what is right and wrong... hes just learning all the wrong things at a young age. He might get scared phychologically until ge grows up and he an abusive man himself.
Wait... Do you mean physical or just teasing him like fatherly love? Lol... theres a big difference.
2007-09-28 04:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's good to tease kids occasionally, but not to the extent that this father seems to. It's also good to compete, but on things like Chutes and Ladders and stuff like that. Nothing major, but some teasing is perfectly healthy--it can help develop the child's sense of humor and actually help them develop past the stage of self involvement because they're beginning to understand that they're not perfect and that it's ok not to be.
2007-09-28 04:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The teasing is destroying trust and credibility. Raising a child is a struggle for control of behavior: the kids wanna control the parents and vice versa. While teasing, the father is in a weird form of control.
The father is essentially "crying wolf" and when he needs to seize control (e.g. the child is in physical danger) his long-term teasing will reduce his authority and effectiveness.
2007-09-28 04:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound healthy to me. Sounds like both parents need some counseling. As far as the boy, he could grow up very insecure and timid or he could become very sickly and whiny, or he could turn into the bully that his father apparently is or worse. No way of telling at this stage but regardless, I'm betting he'll be just as unhealthy as his parents.
2007-09-28 04:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by yeoldebroad 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are degrees of teasing.. some is fine (toughens them up for the school years, etc.) while some is just out of order, especialyl for a parent.
Sadly though, I don't know what to say of it - but I can't believe it is someway healthy for any involved... the child being the recipient of the brunt though.
2007-09-28 05:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's sad, some people thinks if he teas his son he will work harder to become better on everything, and that s a big mistake specially for a 3yrs. This people are not your family so is on the mother to decide what is better for them.
2007-09-28 04:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Juan o 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no its definetly not healthy,its clearly abusive,and will most likely leave the child with a decided lack of self esteem!
2007-09-28 05:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋