how can you handle 'certain' people that don't accept you for who you are & want to impose themselves on you?

Question

i reside in britain since 7, from france, ive had a traumatic life here, i aim to emigrate eventually im 30 now. but i feel certain brits do this to me, not all, i'm not tarring all brits, but certain ones i feel want to intimidate me, dont accept me for who iam or my personality and principles, i feel they infringe on this and want to impose themselves on me.

it really does make me angry and frustrated as i never know how to deal with them. i dont want to react wrongly or get into trouble.
i have anxiety and struggle with anger problems.....im waiting for therapy right now......im also going to try and get some anti anxiety meds.

i was wondering if someone can tell me how i should handle people like this, that don't accept me for who iam and try to impose upon me?

Answer 1

Feel flattered, that people are so intimidated by you, that they think that you should change, and be a mope like they are. Many people want to change others, to feel more comfortable, to come down to their 'level'...when someone don't accept you for you, be thankful, that you found out that they are the phoney kind of person with a bad attitude. No one can change who you are, and no one should ever change one's self, unless it is for the better. If people are giving you GOOD advice, listen carefully, be kind, and tell them thank you and that you will think about their suggestions, and thanks for thinking about you. Sometimes, people really do mean well...but there are so many nasty people in the world nowadays, that you just have to kind of let it roll off of your back,...don't let them get to you, that is exactly their purpose, and then they've won. I know who I am, and I laff at them these days. What nerve, I say to myself..but then I forgive them.

Answer 2

Hey, Sand-Doom, for someone who's supposed to be shrivelling up in the gloom of lonliness, you've got an awful lot of intricate problems with people.

Listen, I can't rant back at you this morning, I have to get out of here, right now, to find someone to 'talk me down' ('This won't take five minutes, sir...'). If you want a way out of people-hell, try praying for someone else. Say something out loud in my name, Sandy, because today could be the day for me, the day I've been waiting for. I'm glad you write so often. Thank-you for doing that. I feel like we've been corresponding, after a fashion. Alors, ça y est, mon compte est bon. Au revoir, mon petit spectre essoufflé, et qui sait! adieu.

Answer 3

sounds like you don't fit in where you are. a different country sounds like it might be your thing, but that's a big move if you don't feel up to it. people in big cities tend to be more tolerant, more cosmopolitan, more with it, it is easier to fit in and go unnoticed, and perhaps to find others who are like you too. you are in the uk, maybe London would be your thing for a while, Manchester, Birmingham. the pace of life is different, mind, in large cities.

the web is a great place to communicate with SO many people, local or not, and the good thing is it's not face to face unless you take it to that level so you can move on easier.

Answer 4

in my 50 years of life, i have noticed there are a lot of control freaks on this planet, and others who are not accepting and try to change us.

well, i dont' want to change, and i figure if someone doesnt' like who i am, they can move on.

take care of YOU....!!!

Answer 5

Me thinks you know what it is you need to do . Just need the strengh to do it hey. Take your time and go for it