What does it mean when someone talks too much?

Question

When they do all the talking in the conversation, and interrupt and control the conversation, doesn't matter who they are talking to. I know a couple people like this. They are frustrating to be around. It seems like they do not want to hear a word that you have to say yourself. You end up just listening to them chatter until you can figure out a way to get away from them. And if you happen to see them somewhere, you hope they don't see you because you don't want to get them started. Is this some kind of a psychological problem, or are they just people with bad manners/social skills?

All good answers, but one of the people I struggle with is a man and he is by far worse than any woman I know who has this problem. And barb, that is so true that it drains your energy. Like you, I tend to also seek out people who make me feel enthused.

Answer 1

it means they have to be the center of attention, are control freaks and have poor listening skills... it could also mean that they don't care about anyone else's issues, and don't want to take the time to listen...

i know that people like this are very annoying -- there are a couple of that type in my life, who i ignore! it's not even worth paying attention to them, so when they are around, i just go about my business and dont pay attention.

talking a lot can be a symptom of anxiety or other mental illness.. but not always.

P.S. there are thousands of people walking around on this earth who are undiagnosed and have emotional problems... take a look around!

Answer 2

Those are people who always want to have the attention on them. They don't want anyone else "stealing" there spotlight so to speak.

It also means that they don't have very good communication skills. It was probably something that they [didn't] learn from there parents. From the time your a little kid, your parents always teach you to share and to not iterrupt. These kids probably just didn't listen then and obviousley never will. People like that can be very frustrating. If there good friends, you need to tell them straight up that you'd like to be included in there conversation! My mom used to be like that, she would talk and talk and talk, so I talked with her about how other people can percive her--bad manners, bad social skills.

In some cases, people who talk all the time do have bad social skills. Sometimes, they don't know what to say so they just talk! That isn't justifying the reason for doing it, its just that if people aren't around others enough, they won't know when to be quiet, what's funny, what's offensive, etc.

Answer 3

I worked with a guy like that. He never shut up. I find that there are two kinds of people in the world - those who drain the energy and life out of you, and those who make you feel refreshed and full of energy after talking with them. I avoid the first group, and seek out the second group. Life is too short.

Answer 4

People who talk all the time are usually powerless, or think of themselves as so.
Some narcissistic people talk constantly about themselves, because they have a personality disorder that limits their awareness of others.
Some middle or last children in birth order have grown up this way, needing to constantly call attention to themselves, just in order to be noticed in the family, to survive, and to feel important, because their parents might otherwise have ignored them.

But, lots of talking is also a great "power-play"---these people are successful at getting what they want and need, when silent, polite people don't.
Watch the "talky" people and see how successful they are at life--I'll bet they get what they want usually, and also dominate their marriages.

Answer 5

Control freaks usually. Or self centered to the extreme that others just don't seem real or interesting.

Or maybe the idea of silence frightens them?

Answer 6

Its called being a Woman !