Dreams of killling husband's "friend"?

Question

My husband had a "friend" (female employee from work) who he can't stay away from and has continously lied about not talking to her, etc. He is seeking her out or she is seeking him out. This has been going on for a year. I don't believe their relationship status is "just friends". I have since kicked him out of the house. I feel a little better not having to see him. Anyway one night I had a cycle of dreams of killling her over and over again. One instance I tied her down to a board and gutted her and shoved her guts down her throat telling her to die b*tch die! When she started choking on her stomach. I looked her in the eyes and I sarcastically said, "Aww-are you choking and can't breathe? Let me help you." I then slit her throat, blood sprayed everywhere, and I pulled her guts through the wound in her throat. I don't see it as having nightmares because I did enjoy it and felt better when I woke up. Anger issues or just a dream. Thoughts?

Like the mob answer. It's funny you should say that. Most say I look italian and act italian. LOL

I have let my anger out on my husband. I become very vocal and verbally scare him with how I feel about the whole situation and the fact he thinks it was okay to keep her a hidden secret. I'm not one to clam up if I don't like something. I made him move out because I was done fighting, pleading, arguing, etc because it was to the point it was going to become physical. I haven't had anymore dreams of this nature since this one night. I think it was cheaper than therapy to act out in my dreams. Thank God I don't sleep drive. LOL I was a great wife for 12 years. I helped him through college, would get up at 2 am when he came home from work and make sure his dinner was hot and fresh, make sure he had beer on Friday nights after work in a cooler iced down. And sex-I wanted it as much as he did. Never headaches here. Maybe I should have been a nagging ***** like all the other wives I know. I told him he broke me and I don't think I'll ever be like I was. I'm hateful now.

Answer 1

If you start your interpretation with the idea that all elements in the dream represent you in some way, then I think you may develop some more interesting meanings than the more classical but simplistic repressed wish fulfillment scenario. In that interpretation schema, your surpressed anger has an outlet and a successful mastery resolution. Perhaps that's all this dream represented to you.

However, it may have more information and meanings for you as well. For example, think instead about you killing off a part of yourself. What part did you kill? What are your associations to this friend and how might this friend represent you in some way?

Or, consider your guts being pulled out then shoved down your throat? What might that mean about your gut instincts for example and your ability to talk? It would appear that you acted on your gut instinct in real life and had your husband move out, and is there some other message for you in your dream? Is there a wound in you involving speaking or your throat? If you broaden your interpretation scenario, you may get some interesting ideas about you in relationship that a cycle of dreams may be trying to impart. Trust your own wisdom and try the dream interpretation work in this way.

Answer 2

If you don't normally feel like killing people that you are very angry at (like your husband) this is probably your mind's way of dealing with the anger. You have a good reason to be angry. Perhaps you are not dealing well with the anger while you are awake, so your mind is taking care of it in a dream. Try expressing the anger while awake and see if that takes care of the dream. You can do this by buying an inexpensive dartboard, getting a picture of her and putting it on the dart board and then throwing darts at it (although I would probably put the husband's pic there instead)...you can get some aluminum soda cans and stomp as many as you can...you can throw something soft at a wall over and over again....you can write a letter to the person stating why you are angry (don't mail it...you could burn it after if you like). In any case, you need a healthy way to express anger. If this doesn't make the dream go away, or the anger does not seem to get better, or if you start considering acting like you did in the dream--seek out a good counselor or therapist. If you were sick you would go to a doctor. If your mind is sick, you see a therapist. Good luck!

Answer 3

you dream this because
you have't let go of your husband and you are still mad at the woman whom you think he is having an afair with.

and the fact that you have not set down with you husband and try to sort this matter is not giving you peace.

even if you feel like you don't want anything to do with him you need to confront him and let him know how you feel about the situation. so that you can move on and release them from your heart.
you just need to close the chapter so that you can see your destiny.
and yes you are still angry and have not taken it out.

Answer 4

It seems to me like this just shows that you have a lot of hostility towards this woman.

Maybe actually seeking her out and communicating with her would be something that would rid your conscience of the killings in your dream.

Answer 5

Be careful with your anger. It is only a dream, thank heaven. You must have a real hatred for this woman, this "friend " of your husband's. While its understandable to be violently angry for a while, this should stop soon. If it doesn't, seek professional help.

Answer 6

I think that your subconscious is really working overtime. Sometimes you do in your dreams what you want to do in real life. I know that I have. Don't act upon it. Don't throw away your life on a 29 cent tramp.

Answer 7

Totally normal. This is your way of expressing rage that you can't adequately express otherwise. That's what dreams are for: helping us deal with emotions and categorize feelings and experiences in such a way that we can't or won't do while conscious. If you felt better after the dream, good for you. You're just a normal angry woman.

Answer 8

anger issues and a dream. Don't take action to hurt anyone though, That would harm YOU not the woman or your husband.

Answer 9

THAT IS SOOOOO HARDCORE. wow are you from like jersey or something or like...wow. words fail me. but ummm ya dont tell her your dreams they might lock you up. but you might look into joining the mob.

Answer 10

Your sub-conscious is telling you to what it wants to do, but for heaven's sake please don't do it. It's normal to be angry at a wh0re, but don't start fantasizing about it.