getting married soon - what's married life like?

Answer 1

My husband and I dated for about five years before getting married. We knew each other so well that being married was not that big of an adjustment. This was surprising to friends of mine (who had a more difficult time with theirs) because we had never lived with each other and especially because after the wedding, I had to move across the country from Hawaii to Pennsylvania.

Despite all the changes, married life has been really wonderful. What really helped was going through pre-marital counseling in the months before our marriage. We talked about religion, children, how we will manage our finances, ways to deal with conflict and how to communicate effectively with one another, recognizing our differences etc. Aside from the wedding planning, it's important to do marriage preparation of some sort. Everyone prepares for the wedding but not so much for life after the party. Even after so many years of us being together (I thought I knew him so well), there were many surprises during those sessions. It's definitely worth asking those questions!

Answer 2

It depends... If you marry the right person and you love her or him you shouldn't have to many problems everything would be great, but if you marry because you can't find no one else or because you think that your not going to find the love of your life then your making a mistake. There will be "HELL"
Now if you are young like in your 20, then I will say your making another mistake,because there is so much more out there and when you start getting older you will start thinking different from your partner.
If your in love and you don't have to many problems with your partner right now and there is 50% in the relationship then everything should be wonderful..

Answer 3

We have been married since June '06. we dated for 5 years (to the day) before that. We were best friends before we got married. That helps. And there is just nothing like waking up late on a Saturday morning and just cuddling with your hubby. I find myself skipping class just to be with him a little bit longer.

I do recommend pre-marital counseling. We had to go in order to have our favorite minister. It was great. I learned things about Andy that I probably would not have thought to ask. Its not about blaming its about setting goals for life and learning what your partner thinks is important in a relationship.

Answer 4

After the honeymoon, you will face reality that marriage is not all fun and pleasure. It is a long list of obligations that husband and wife have promised to keep because they love each other. Marriage is supposed to last till death do you part, but this is sometimes interrupted by the so-called "divorce." In short, whether your marriage should turn out to be a blessed one or a hellish one depends on you and your spouse.

Answer 5

Married life is like being on a team: have common goals, rely on each others' strengths, respect individuality, and COMMUNICATE your feelings and concerns, and you'll have a good life together.

On the practical side:
- discuss finances: separate and shared accounts? IRAs? College fund?
- share chores
- plan for children: 0? 1? 2? When? Daycare or one of you stays home?

Try one of these books:
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/105-5476184-7094827?initialSearch=1&url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=questions+before+getting+married&Go.x=5&Go.y=13&Go=Go

Answer 6

i knew my husband 4 months before we got married....and we have been married for a little over a year now....its hard to go from single to married. we argue alot over little stuff but once you get used to eachother then it all falls into place....its alot of work for the first year or so ( i heard the first 7 years) but i advise you to have a week 24/7 with eachother and see how it goes.

Answer 7

really depends on the people. i have only been married for 2 years and my husband and i have already had major problems you both have to be willing to listen to each other.
and be willing to compromise if you dont your marrige will not work out. the best advice that was given to me is never stop talking to each other. when that was told to me i honestly didnt see how it could ever be a problem - but since then i found out it is in so many relationships. follow your heart and good luck!

Answer 8

1. Trust your partner.
2. Never lie to each other
3. Don't tell every thing to family members about your married life. Certain things,should be in between Husband & wife.
4. Give enough space to each other. Don't nag.

Answer 9

our lives didn't change at all after we got married..which is a good thing. you definitely don't feel any different or anything...you just become a solidified team. But life stays the same... =0)

Answer 10

Married life is GREAT!
of course yo will still have your ups and down.
but that is called life.
to go through life with some one yo love is so amazing.