Well, about a week and a half ago this girl that I didnt really know to well ask me on a date. We went on this date and since then we spent every minute that we could together. It was really all her doing at first but then i started to open up a bit and really started to like where this was going. She was telling me how lucky was to find me and how I have made her the happiest she has ever been. Kinda intense for only a week or so I know, but it felt right. Well a couple of days ago she send me this e-mail saying that she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend and that she dosent know if she can pursue anything more with me. This was a shock, she never seemed distant or like she was thinking of someone else. Im supposed to talk to her tonight about the whole thing. How could she let me get that close to her while she is thinking of some one else? Is there anything i can do to snap her out of it or should i just let her go and hope she comes back?
2007-09-28 02:53:53 · 7 answers · asked by Big Volk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shes not necessarily using you, she may not know what she wants . I think that if you take the time to give it space, she will figure out what she wants.
I'm not saying for you to wait on her to make up her mind, but let her know that you have other things to do... AND GO!!
Just get out there and live a little.
Do things you have been putting off, or things you have wanted to do.
When she doesnt have you for a crutch she will have to make her OWN decisions. Meanwhile you will not be standing by the wayside.
The best investment you can make in this life is to appreciate yourself, when you are spending more time on yourself and YOUR happiness, others notice and RESPOND.
I believe in love at first sight, that connection of feeling like you have known someone your whole life after just a little while... BUT things you have to work for, spend time on, and be patient with are ALWAYS well worth the effort...
2007-09-28 03:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not you that needs help, it's her. Unfortunately, I'm sorry to say she was probably using you to fill that void she was missing because she didn't have her ex. People tend to do this all the time. She wasn't thinking of someone else or showing you she was thinking of him because you helped her forget about him(out of sight out of mind) at the time you were the luckiest thing that happened in probably still is because you comforted her at the time of need with out knowing. She should have been more open about her past in expressed how she felt. she probably wishes to explain to you the situation in apologize for not allowing you to decide if you wanted to be a part of her healing process. Good luck in express to her How you feel as well. Still help her by giving her good advice. A good friend is the best way to win someones heart
2007-09-28 10:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by heyjojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really nothing you can do about it.I mean if she still likes him and if there was a way you could snap her out of how long do you think its going to be before she starting wanting to go back him and them comes the cheating on you etc etc I would just give so real deep thought about this if you really like her that much I would just let her go for the time being
2007-09-28 10:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have discover girls tend to lie, specially when they don't want to lose someone or want to get rid of someone, the best thing to do as you said it's talk to her and see if she needs the space to think, since it's her ex there must be a reason of why they aren't anymore together and try to help her in anyway you can and tell her everything is going to be fine, it's never easy to let go, so give her time cause it sounds like you have something special, just make sure she's not using you just forget him or give he jelous.
2007-09-28 10:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jarb2104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is on the rebound, and trying to use you to get over her feelings for him. Just let her go. She needs time to get over him before she can enter in a relationship with you with no baggage. Let her know you feel like this is the case and if she is still interested in a few months you'd like to try again.
2007-09-28 09:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go . if she comes back you will need to talk then.
2007-09-28 09:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's using you to try and get his attention.
2007-09-28 09:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋