Well first off we have been living with eachother for over a year and living with each other. She moved here from several states away and dosn't have many friends. We live with my dad which makes it ackward. She first mentioned taking a break a few weeks ago but we decided agaisnt it. Last week she said she needed this break(on her birthday). She said she feels stressed out with the realtionship and needs to hang out with friends and not have to worry(since im the jealous type)She said im a great guy and we have been through alot and she dosn't want to experience that with anyone else and she really wants "us" to work out. we still sleep in the same bed, we woke up in the middle of the night the other day to find ourselfs doing things to one another, we have went on dates, kissed, and so fourth. im not to sure what to do. I can provide more info if anyone wants but im limited in space on here. She said that she isn't ready to come back yet(its only been a week). what should i do?
2007-09-28 02:26:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well i know she not seeing anyone else. She dosn't have a care or really hang out with anyone. She has had a rough live and no one has ever been there for her. I think she is scared that someone is actually there for her. She cried the other night because i was still there for her so much and cared for her because even though were taking a break i still care. She also has thanked me for giving her the space she is asking for. She also has been noticing changes in me. I have hid a lot of emotions because we live with my dad. I use to not like to get intimate a lot for fear of being caught. My dad use to make fun of me because i wasn't always good with the girls. I know she still feels a lot for me but i think she needs time to see what she has been waiting to see in me, even though she knows who i really am when i am away from home. It also isn't good for her because she has no car and can't really do to much on her own. I have asked her if she wants usto workoutandshesaidyesbutneedstim
2007-09-28 02:39:51 · update #1
Also, we went to a movie and shared ice cream on wed. Yesterday we spent time with she me and her. And tonight we are going on a double date, which we have never done before.
2007-09-28 02:47:43 · update #2
Im not to sure what to think. I have asked her several time to tell me if there is anyone else. And she agreed with out question. She told me shes not ready to be in any relationship right now and is not "looking
" for anyone. Three days ago i was a bit upset and she was leaving for a bit and she came over and hugged me and i wispered i love you to her. she put her hand under my chin and raised my eyes up to her eye level and looked me straight in the eyes and said very softly and sincerely "i lve you too"..Then two days ago we both got home from college and i asked if i could hug her and she said yes and i have her a hug and she nuzzeled her nose agaisnt mine and i gave her a slight peck on the lips and she leaned in and kissed me like when we were together.
2007-09-28 02:59:46 · update #3
A lot of peope said it seems like were not really on a break but i know we are. What are some signs that she still loves me and wants to get back together and how long would you say before she might feel this way. I know she hasn't been happy and is still stressed out from a lot of things but i have been there for her when she needs it. Im trying to give her the space she asked for and i have been trying not to over crowd her.
2007-09-28 03:09:08 · update #4
n other words -- she wants out of the relationship -- dump her now b/4 u take the big one in the wallet
2007-09-28 02:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by de viking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone says they want to "take a break" in a relationship, that's code for wanting to "break up" but with the other's life on hold in case they feel like coming back. But they never do. Every time I've seen that happen, the couple has broken up. She is not fully invested in your relationship, and being so unsure, should not still be called your fiance. You should not be engaged or even in a relationship with someone who is taking a break.
You should:
1. Break the engagement and try to get your ring back. Break up entirely.
2. Move to separate quarters.
3. Move on.
Do not put your life on hold for her. She's either in or she's out. There's no halfway here, so she's out.
2007-09-28 09:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jim, im so sory to hear that. but honestly dear, she's trying to say something like 'i had enough, i need to move on etc' i know u'll be sad and maybe u probably already figured what she meant but ur still denying it cos of ur love for her.
but whats the point of getting on in the relation when she's having a blast out there while ur stuck here, waiting for answers. or u know, maybe u should go ask her. ask her what she really meant when she said all that.
wish u the best jim.
2007-09-28 09:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Heaven Hill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife left me once. First I begged her not to, she still wanted to leave. Within two months she was begging me to take her back. I love her alot and we are happily together today.
There is a saying if you love something let it go, If it comes back its yours. You two can work things out but let her have a bit of space.
One final thing, MOVE OUT OF YOUR DADS PLACE. In-laws are stressful enough without living with them and you definitely need your privacy.
2007-10-06 09:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Spooky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her cause this is her way of saying I am seeing someone else and cheating on you . be glad you found out now instead of when you are already married . good luck to you .
2007-09-28 09:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your done dude get over it. look for someone else
2007-09-28 09:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋