me and my brother grew up very close. all we had was each other. our dad was very strict, I went to drugs and alcohol, my brother stayed and kissed ***. later on we stayed close with our wives and kids, but a lot of crappy times happened along the way. there were a lot of fights, and flirting, and partying. now all of a sudden my brother and his kids want nothing to do with me. I know I've done a lot of dumb things in my drunken past, that I deeply regret, but I want to know from my brother what exactly, and why he won't talk to me anymore, he's the only brother I got, any suggestions??????????????
2007-09-28 01:53:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just talk to him and ask with an open mind. i cut half my family off because they did and are still doing things to me that really hurt me. the thing is i was willing to work it out when they don't even care. Now i don't care and i don't think we'll ever be close again.
try and talk to him otherwise let it go.
2007-09-28 02:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hopethishelps! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call, if you just can't seem to get yourself to face him. Write if you cannot get yourself to call. If you can get yourself to make a call, suggest a face to face meeting. Let him decide. Let him know you will let him do all the talking, listen intently- then go from there.
If you guys live too far apart- just keep calling, but don't be obsessive about it. Once a week... or so, just to let him know that you have not given up, you really want to work things out. Even if it is just a message...1 a week or so. Better yet, if you do live too far apart, go the extra mile, tell him you are ready, willing and able to meet, just to talk. Even if it means flying in for a day/weekend. (if you can afford it). No bars!
Be honest and 100% true- sometimes it is harder for guys to open up to one another, but if this is what it may take? Especially if you were close at one time. If you truly want him back in your life, you are the one who may have to go the extra mile, maybe even grovel.
I wonder what it is that you had possible done or said that was so hurtful or wrong to have your bro put distance between the two of you. If he truly wants you back in his life, you will know soon enough. but time may be all he needs to lick his wounds. Bare with him. Hang in there. There is nothing on this planet worth more than family! Good luck!
2007-09-28 09:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by tbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
G'day mate, look sometime's we need some time to sort stuff out but do think it might be his missus doin the dirty on you, set up atime with ya bro and try to talk i think your lucky to still have a brother and he should have that pointed out i would do anything to bring back my brother!!!!
2007-09-28 11:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's so suddenly, something must have happened recently for him to do this. If he won't talk to you, then make him listen. At least you'll have your say and give him the chance to see things from your point of view.
2007-09-28 11:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some things cant be overcome most of the time its the alcohol and drugs thats the root cause just ask him its hard but your better of talking than not
2007-09-28 09:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person can only take so much before they say adios. give him some space. he's obviously had enough of your stunts.
2007-09-28 09:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. prove that you are different. tell him what you told us. try to mend this because fun is for a while, family is forever.
2007-09-28 09:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by macho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him & talk to him
let him know that you changed
2007-09-28 09:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋