the father of my daughter once said that i would never get another partner because i am used goods(because i have a child) and nobody wants somebody elses kid.
what do you think to this attitude towards mum's.
i am no longer with him but the comment hurt.
i am not ugly but would this matter.
2007-09-28 01:37:37 · 17 answers · asked by bummble bee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on many things, but there are a lot of women like you. Sounds like he just wants you to feel insecure so that he can "use you for a backup" at some future time.
It is men like that that make me ashamed to be one sometimes.
2007-09-28 01:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad, said the same thing to me when I got pregnant at 17.
I had no problem meeting someone, in fact I met the father of my second child when the first was 4 weeks old. Unfortunatly that relationship didn't work out after 5 years and I am now happily in my second relationship since that one broke down.
My daughters are 6 & 8 now and if you ask my bf, having them is a bonus not a sacrifice.
So i'm quite happy being "soiled goods."
My dad has since married a woman with four kids.
Any guy put off by you having kids is not the kind of guy you would want to be with anyway.
2007-09-28 02:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tanya M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some men who would think like that i.e. that you are used goods, but they would be in a very small minority.
The more likely scenario would be that men may not to get involved because they wouldn't want to take on the committment of bringing up someone elses kids.
However, men can and do fall in love with women who have kids, and for that they are prepared to make sacrifices.
How do I know this. Because me and my first husband split when my kids were 5 and 3 respectively. They are now 22 and 20 and I have been with my current husband 17 years.
2007-09-28 01:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Louise H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes an assh*le and you deserve better. you arent damaged goods just because you have a child, you are still living and can do whatever you want. its just that some people prefer not to get involved with partners who already have kids, they are narrow minded and they arent worth your time anyway. dont let it get you down, mr right is out there somewhere and one day you will meet him. lots of women go on to get married and have more children after being in your situation. life doesnt end because of children, they just make life more of a rewarding challenge.
2007-09-28 02:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A man who can not accept a woman for her and her children is a man who you don't need to know.
There are many men out there who will happily be with someone who has children from a previous relationship.
Don't worry about what your ex said, he's just a nasty piece of work who you neednt worry about.
2007-09-28 01:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by simondhopkins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father of your daughter is a BIG ****!!!! No, you are not used goods. Sounds that maybe he is jealous, angry, a jerk and a spiteful looser, because HE'S not with you. Thank god you are no longer with the moron. Get yourself all gorgeous and go have yourself a nice time at the local pub and enjoy yourself.
2007-09-28 04:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Oppna to tal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is playing mind games with you. Ignore him.... he doesn't know what he's talking about.
The fact that you have a child in no way stops you from finding another partner.
Believe in yourself and don't let that fool corrode your self-confidence.
2007-09-28 01:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's rubbish.
I have a child and get alot of offers when I go out to decent places. (I don't consider purely sexual come-ons as legitimate offers).
They know I have a child because she's usually with me (not out at night in bars, but just out generally).
Don't let a thicko thug bother you, ignore him and his stupidity. He's a waste.
2007-09-28 01:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Acai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk your ex is, and how dare he say such a thing to you!
No, it wouldn't matter. There are plenty of women with children out there who are in very successful and happy second relationships, and the children are also happy with their new 'Dad'.
2007-09-28 01:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my childs father (my now ex) said the same thing to me. And I am now engaged to the man of my dreams who is a great role model for my child and does everything for him and me. life is good. chin up you'll find someone who deserves a lovely woman like you
2007-09-28 01:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋