I have seen several posts on here relating to christians answering questions on sex, most of the answers seem to be "I pray for you" and "you need jesus", I find this truly insulting and judgemental although surely the bible teaches that only God should judge. Why do christians feel the need to look at the questionnes relating to sex and give such a pointless answer. Surely it dosent really matter if a person decides to have sex outside of marriage. I don't wish to offend but would like to know why this is so important to the religion.
2007-09-28 00:59:38 · 24 answers · asked by Miss T Rious 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's been instilled in them by their parents and their parents before that, and you are right a Christian should never judge someone else that is God's place but they can express their opinion like anyone else.
2007-09-28 01:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Zenkai 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
With all the unwanted children in the world born to teenage women, all the STD's out there, all the Marriages out there that didnt work because one of the couple (or both) was sleeping around. I find it extremely remarkable that you would say that having sex outside of marriage doesnt matter. Even though the use of condoms is rising and the spread of these things is slowing. It still spreads, only by accepting Gods word can an indivdual be safe from these things. This is not a judgement by me on anyone.We christians say that we will pray for you so that these things will not happen to you. and that you come to God. That is not judgemental, but an act of love
2007-09-28 01:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible teaches us right from wrong. We as humans are not perfect and God knows this. We as Christians should not judge, but as human nature we do. Christians are looked at and judged every day by how they act and who they associate themselves with. To be told "you need Jesus" by someone who is supposed to be a Christian is being judgmental. Saying "I pray for you" isn't being judgmental, but informative. They aren't saying that your wrong they are saying that they will pray the Lord will help you find your way. Me personally being a new found Christian still have the urge to judge, but I know it's not right. No one can judge you but you and God. The subject of sex before marriage is a very touchy one. I personally wish I had waited to have sex till I was married, but I also wouldn't change a thing about my past. My past is what helped me become the person I am today.
2007-09-28 01:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Trishalyn H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all Christians do that. We are in no position to judge people. We are not perfect, and sex before marriage is no worse than telling a white lie according to our beliefs. People like that are being judgemental and they lack compassion. To say things like, "You need Jesus" indicates that they are on a higher moral plane that others, which is absolutely false. I do encourage people to wait to have sex because I think God had the plan right, and both I and my family have suffered from my having had sex before marriage.
I am a Christian, and a single parent, and I did not catch prenancy off a toilet seat. I think that it is important to address because a lot of young people are not prepared for the consequences, namely STDs and pregnancy. I didn't catch an STD, but I wasn't ready to be a mother, and I wish I had chosen a different course because I think I would have been a better mother had I waited. I also think my son would have benefitted by having a father in his life. Most importantly, I think we need to protect our hearts. I really wish that I had saved myself for my fiance (soon to be husband) because I love him more than life, and I want him to have all of me without the emotional baggage that comes from failed relationships. Sex is so much more than a physical thing. That is the message that needs to go out, not one of judgement. If judgement were the order of the day, then we could sit around and accuse each other all day...serving what purpose????
2007-09-28 01:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand where sex is such a sin, if it was a God given pleasure, then why make it a dirty no-no?
And just exactly who decided that sexual relations of any kind other than marital was included in adultery? If you make a commitment to another human being, and marry that person, then you have no business having sex with anyone else!That is the ultimate betrayal of intimacy!
Why do religious zealots have to try to ruin sex for everyone else? Sex is a wonderful thing between two people,and it certainly is not evil! Evil is when an adult has sex with a minor! Or when a man forces himself on a woman, or anyone else! Sex is good! Religious nuts making it taboo, is evil!
this is 2007, not biblical days, when everything was wrong! or sinful!
Keep your backward thinking to yourselves, and let the rest of us live in the now! What I do in my bedroom, is my business, and no one else's!
2007-09-28 02:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true christian believes the Bible to be the ultimate truth, its not a matter of opinion, even his own, its about what God says. Therefore if someone asks for help and advice, a christian wants whats best for the person and then tells them that sex before marriage is wrong, not based upon opinion, but upon the truth from Holy Scriptures.
If a christian wants to mind his own business, and not interfere with these matters with others he then is allowing evil to grow in the world and has become an enabler of evil and wickedness. God says if we close our eyes to wickedness we will be judged also. Such judgment is not to hell, but is chastisement and perhaps loss of eternal rewards.
2007-09-28 02:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The church for various reasons looks at marriage as almost "holy". It highly symbolic of Jesus' relationship to the church. Paul wrote that it's better to be celibate, and if you're going to be married you should have only one wife (at least if you are a leader in the church).
St Augustine had a large impact on this as well, he had spent quite a time "fooling around" and then when he converted did a complete 180 on sex, most of our repressive sexual behavior traces back to his anti sex writings.
The puritans, a large part of the initial population of the colonies, also were very strict about sex amongst other things.
People tend to get their morals from their parents, role models, and from social norms without examining them or thinking about them. In this light they tend to think right is right and *should* be obvious to everyone. Add to this that it is an easy target for "moral lessons" i.e. true evil is relatively hard to come by most people are not tempted to murder etc, but almost everyone has a sex drive.
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Sex needs to be approached responsibly, in that there are STDs and pregnancy is a possibility. If you are going to be sexually active, you need to be aware of these and take the appropriate precautions.
I definitely think that our society is way too repressive about sexual behavior and this leads to much more harm than the good that it does.
2007-09-28 01:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they don't understand that it is somewhat the act of intercourse that marries 2 human beings. It has not something to do with certificates, vows, ceremonies, the state, the church - not something. it incredibly is all artifical stuff. They have been think to stay as we are taught in Scripture, "Isaac took Rebekah into the tent and married her." They have been the only 2 human beings there and that they, for the time of the actual act, made a covenant with one yet another and with God. Marriage demonstates God's courting along with his human beings. If "God's human beings" (what a snicker) somewhat had a courting with Him, they be attentive to this and coach it to the international. because it is, they're in darkness and function a 50% divorce fee. This exhibits too, that the term "gay marriage" or "same intercourse marriage" is a misnomer; they're somewhat impossible. God's be conscious enters the coronary heart persistently, the covenant is enacted, the Holy Spirit comes into the believer and the tip result's a sparkling advent. that's what God grow to be getting at while invented the entire element. yet no one's understood it. Darkness covers the Earth... and diverse mayhem and suffering because of the fact of it. Boo-yah!
2016-10-20 05:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not specifically say "don't have sex before marriage' in the bible, but it does command against adultery, and having sex b-4 marriage is kind of like cheating on a future spouse, because you are giving your virginity to someone else. The laws in the Bible are meant to protect us. I think God was really looking out for us. he knows that people are hurt by pre-marital sex, so thats why he said not to do it.
2007-09-28 01:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It certainly matters to the Lord! He has judged the matter already. He has declared it to be a no,no. Does it ever strike you as factual that we will all appear before the judgment seat of the Lord? He says NO!
2007-09-28 01:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋