Tell me why....Religion question?

Question

I am 26 years old, and I can't seem to figure out what I want from life. Some days I feel like I want to be very religious. Other days, I feel like religion is too restrictive and I just want to have fun. I believe in God, and I always will. I have to believe, too many miracles have happened in my life. I converted to a different religion about a year ago, so now sometimes I feel like I live 3 lives. I never told my family I converted, so I live my "family" life. I have my friends that like to party, so I have my "old friend" life. I also have friends in my "new" religion, so I have a life with them as well. I just feel so confused and alone sometimes. I wish there was a way that I new the absolute truth about religion, so that I wouldn't float around not committing to anything. I want to get married and start a family, but I don't feel that I can do this until I figure out what I want out of life. Does anyone have any suggestions as to why I feel this way?

I was a Christian from the age of 8 until 25, so I know all about the beliefs of Christianity.

Answer 1

Well..i wish you would have said what religion you did convert to. As for why you feel the way you are, is just as you have stated...you're still floating from one to the next.

You wouldn't be the first. Did you know even Peter went through this? And this was even after watching Jesus talk to him after the resurrection. it was something that Paul had to talk to him about.

so..you wish you was a way of knowing with absolute certainty which religion was the truth? there is. but it takes time, it takes thinking things through, and seeking the answers even when not in front of you. There are some great writers, Lee Strobel, and Ravi Zacharia. Even online.

Would like to know more about the road you are travelling, and would be willing to do what I can to encourage you to find the truth you are looking for. Email stamps are free!

† Traveling Prayer Warrior †

Answer 2

Seems like you've already chosen what you want in life. You converted to a different religion, you chose to hide this from your family, you sometimes want to party, you want to marry and start a family. What then makes you confused and feel alone? Do you really think it's a question of religion? Maybe you just want to make the "3 lives" you are living right now into 1. Look back into your past where you started living "3 different lives" and find a solution from there. God bless you.

Answer 3

There is one true religion out there, and if you find it, you will be SO happy and not be confused any more. I'm not going to tell you what that religion is, you have to find out for yourself. But I will give you some hints.

True religion will follow five things:

1. Use, respect and obey God's Word - the Bible. Not just parts of it that fit what they want to hear, but all of it. (2 Tim. 3:16)
2. They would see that God's kingdom is the only solution to the problems that mankind faces. Realize that God's government does NOT rule through the earthly governments now in place. (Dan. 2:44)
3. They would be no part of this world as Jesus commanded them to be. The people of this religion would not allow themselves to be squeezed into the world's mold. (Romans 12:2)
4. They would be known by God's name - Jehovah, who is most high over all the earth. God's name was originally in the Bible over 7,000 times until a man decided to take it out. (Ps. 83:18)
5. They (the adherents to this true religion) would have love among themselves. Love bonds true Christians. They would love each other regardless of race or ethnic backgrounds. It would be a true world-wide brotherhood.(John 13:34, 35)

When you have found the religion that goes by these five things, and not just some of them, but ALL of them, then you have found the one true religion, and you will be happy.

Answer 4

Hi Frenchy,
That is soooo good that you want this figured out before you have a family.....and sure will save you a lot of problems! That is a problem of the battle of the mind...to go one way one day and another way a different day. That is called the "flesh warring with the spirit." No man can serve two masters is what the Bible says...so if you are trying to go both ways that would be confusing. I will pray for you to have peace of mind and that God will give you wisdom in figuring this out.


On-call Prayer Warrior

Answer 5

You are 26 y.o.!
That is one reason you feel the way you do. We go through a 'stage' around the age of 25. Our lives are made of 'stages' and each one comes with its own set of feelings and decisions that we need to make. It is all part of finding our way on the paths of life.
I am in my 50's now, but I so well remember how terrible it was when I was 25. I was as confused as you are now. It will pass, just do the things that you feel are right for you. Do not do anything that can not be undone.
good luck hon.

Answer 6

WOW. Deep question. If you read the Holy Bible you will see that Jesus says I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. We are currently walking our youth group through the bible to all the places where Jesus claims to be God. Just today I read in Corinthians that all things were created though Him and for Him - God. There is no reason you can't have fun with your old friends as a Christian. Read your bible, follow the 10 commandments, get involved at church. Through Him (GOD) you will find wisdom, peace, hope, love and true joy. There is only one true God.

Answer 7

Don't search for a religion. Accept a relationship. That's what we can have with God through His Son, Jesus Christ. Once you have a relationship with Him, you'll see that it's not restrictive. In fact, it allows you freedom to grow in spirit and in truth, and you'll not be ashamed or afraid to share your new found freedom and relationship. If you have a Bible, I encourage your to read these verses. John 3:16; Romans 3:23; 6:23; 5:8; 10:9,10,13; Romans 1:16. I'll pray for you to find the peace that you're seeking.

Answer 8

Sounds like to me you need to stand up for yourself and not be afraid of who you are. Don't rush things like marriage and babies right now, they will only complicate things further for you. You are only 26 and have plenty of time to figure what you want out of life. Just live and experience life. Maybe you could go back to school and take some classes? Talking with your family may also help you feel better or talking about things with your new church officials.

Answer 9

Yep, I do.

It's called being human!

We all go through that stage - especially in our twenties; of having one foot planted firmly in our faith, the other planted firmly in the world.

We believe in GOD because not to believe is idiotic, illogical, doesn't make sense - but yet we want to "have fun" - drink, smoke, party, do drugs, premarital sex, the works! And yet we know instinctively that these things are "wrong", they will displease GOD but we do them anyway.

Read Romans Chapters 7 and 8 - Paul talks about this struggle too, and concludes by falling down on HIS knees thanking GOD that we are no longer condemned through our faith in JESUS CHRIST.

For me at least finally - I had to leave GOD, the hypocrisy of living that double-life was too much to bear. But then about ten years later - after I had done all the drugs, had all the sex, partied all I ever wanted - and realized how empty, shallow, unfulfilling, and meaningless that kind of life was; I came back to GOD like the Prodigal Son.

And HE saw me afar ways off - and came running toward me. And we embraced, hugged and laughed.

I was back home.

Answer 10

I also believe you should figure out your beliefs. No one wants to live contradictory to what they believe. Do some research on each. Think of what good is coming out of each area......having "fun" vs. your religious lifestyle or whatever else. If you have questions about Christianity RZIM.org is a great apologetics site with smart guy. A lot of myspace groups are good too.....theres a little bit of everything on there.