Why when some one dislike Islam and say it is unfair Muslim say he or she is liar?

Question

All my problems are from Islam. I really hate it. Girls don't have right to marry with some one they feel in love in and they only have right to marry with permission of their father and they should obey their husband like a slave.
What if the father be bad person who can protect this girl , even in your country you don't have law against father who abuse his child.
I am really honest when I say that I hate Islam.

Answer 1

cause they are indoctrinated so deep they cant see the problems

you can i can they cant

Answer 2

Yes, it's right, the Prophit said that those who love each other should marry, but it doesn't mean that they should have sex before marriage, love in Islam should be pure, clean, and full of respect.....Also, women should not be forced to marry any man, it should be their own choice if they believe in that man.........As I said before, if you are treated really bad, it's not because u are muslim...it's just because these people are bad people.....and they will be punished by God......and what u have to do is to become a stronger woman....Even if u were in another country and your father were bad, u would be abused, if not physically then mentally, and there are no laws against that.....
If u would like to contact me, I would be willing to listen to u and help u, I am interested to hear your story...
Good Luck

Answer 3

All the Holy Publications where written by Powerful Men. That is why the Woman is to submit to the Man's will.
It is not just Islam.
We do have laws against a father abusing his child, but it usually does not come out until the child has become an adult.
If you truly hate Islam - leave it.

Answer 4

I got to know a muslim girl 6 months ago and my,you will not believe it!!
Muslim's have a ''hadith'' which is a sayin said by their prophet that says:let the ones who love each other marry.
It's not that they are forced to marry ppl they don't love no.
If a man proposes to a girl,they meet several times to get to know each other and if the girl gets to like that person they get married after quite a while from the engagement .
If she doesn't like the man she can say no and so the whole thing is called off.
In islam a valid marriage is one where both ends (boy and girl)agree on getting married.Even if the girl nods in the marriage process it's not allowed she has to say yes.
Those who force their daughters to get married are not only a certain group of ppl as even here in america there's a town where gals r forced into marrying older men and so on.Didn't you see dat episode in oprah winfreys show?!
anyway,this gal is a very good friend of mine now and it's not bcuz of that that i'm defending her religion ppl i kno that whateva she tells me is based on facts.
They don't hate christians them muslims they also believe in Jesus.
And by the way they are really good natured ppl.Those who we're used to hearing about are not followin their religion well and so we have this habit of generalising and sayin that all of 'em muslims are so & so..................

Answer 5

"All my problems are from Islam" ?

what sort of troubles? marrying with father's permission a problem?
Dont you need blessings of your parents, they have raised you, they have given all sorts of comfort to you. But still you wish to go against them & play the love game(ewwww).

Probably you dont know the basics of Islam & simply hate it for no reason. The reason you are quoting is a very broad. Be specific & get the right for them.

Answer 6

Am a Muslim and believe me when i say "you hating Islam is not gonna change a single significant thing" but as a Muslim am required to understand the situation and deal with it accordingly.So some question's for you 1.When and where do you think this hatred began?.2.if so do you know enough Muslims to base your opinion on facts?.3.do you know any Muslim sisters? and last but most seriously what do you know about Islam? not what your told or heard(i mean as in research).

Take care and May Allah guide those who hate what they have no knowledge of.Amen

Answer 7

The problem is yourself and not Islam. There are many different Muslim people from all over the world and so many of them practice according to their culture. Sounds like you are a victim of your weak eman! This isnot coz of Al Islam. You have to step in and seek a change within yourself.

Answer 8

You hating islam is fine its between you and your Lord but what you say isn't 100% truth.
1. a girl and boy who is looking to get married SHOULD get the approval of thier parents. if the father is not a practicing muslim then she does not have to wait for his approal and the imam will get involved.

2. i am not a slae of my husband i am a slave of my creator and i do not worshipp my husband but i listen to him and he does to me. someone has to be the head of the house hold and that position is with him.

3. whatever happend in countries where muslims live has nothing to do with islam, none of them are an islamic state.

just something you should think about in islam if a woman is raped and kills her attacker trying to fight him off there is no sin or punishment upon her in west countries she would go to prison for man slaughter. so do not tell me i have no rights

Answer 9

u r right u hav prob wid islam & u will hav dis prob. 4ever untill u didn't get exact info. abt islam.
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1-Girls hav the totall right 2 marry a boy whoever she wants.

2-Yes she has 2 obey her husband but also husband must take care of her & also obey her rights.

3-What if the father be bad person who can protect this girl , even in your country you don't have law against father who abuse his child
(i wish 2 ans. also ur this quest. but i didnn't get it exactly.

im also really honest in saying dat 2 u that u can email me & discuss all ur prob. which u hav wid islam.Now if after knowing all abt islam if u then reject it its ur wish .
goodbye

Answer 10

Islam wants permission of fathers for girls to get married in her first marriage only. There is no need of permission from father or guardian for divorced woman to get married again.

Some times young teen age girls fall in love with charming, slick but bad boys also. Father wants what is best for his daughter. She knows father will not allow her to marry with that boy. So she runs away and gets married. Such boys later abuse the girl and she doesn't get help from any one because she rejects her family, runs away causing lot of shame to family in the community they live in. The permission of father in Islam is only to protect the girl's future and not to abuse her.

If the boy she wants to marry is educated, decent and comes from good family but her father disallows her to marry this boy for unislamic reasons like, he is poor, he belongs to lower class family or father hates his family for personal reasons then in that case she can go to the Judge or the Islamic scholar. He after hearing the girl and her father, if finds that father is wrong to deny her the marriage with the boy who is good, then he himself becomes girl's guardian and marry's her with the same boy. Islam has all kinds of laws to protect the best interest of females. Girls have to know how to exercise her rights.

You don't know Islmaic rules enough. That is not good reason to hate Islam.

Let me explain why a wife should obey her husband. In every household, an organization, a corportion or at position of head of state, there has to be one boss and not several to make the final decision on any matter. Islam give the right to husband being the head of household and he must consult his wife and even older children in making decisions that affect entire family. Therefore for the unity of family wife should obey his final decision and not fight to have her own decision if she doesn't agree on his decision. It doesn't mean no matter how stupid a husband is, only his decision will always be the final. In lots of families if a wife is wiser than husband, she makes all the decisions and husband gives her powers to make the final decision without any problem. My grand mother made all decisions in family like whom her daughtrers and sons marry, which house to buy etc. Grand father handed his entire salary to wife and let her manage the household. If husband makes good decisions and wife just wants power in her hand just to be the boss and fight with him. It can affect the atomosphere of home adversley. To keep harmony in household Islam says husband should be the boss if he is capable and supports the family financially. It does work very well in Muslim household. We have lowest divorce rate as compared to western household.

Hindus and Asians have same family set up. We all know they have least household problems and few divorces and most of their children graduate from colleges and do good in their lives. In USA you will not find very many Muslims, Indians or Asians (born and raised in USA) are working in factories being drop out of high schools.

Answer 11

I hate Islam too but for an entirely different reason.

I am very disappointed in the moderate, peaceful Muslims who have refused to denounce their radical jihadist brothers.

Their silence has been deafening.