I am a really nice person who has a huge heart but yet it always seems to get the brunt of everything. Why is it so hard for people to appreciate a good hearted person? I mean, what are women really looking for after all?
2007-09-27 10:19:53 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yall are very nice and I want to thank all of you for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate all the honest and mature answers yall posted. I strongly believe in treating everyone with honesty and respect and cant understand why people who are in relationships treat eachother unfair and badly. Everyone spends so much time and emotion in trying to get the last word or prove that their own opinoons are the right ones that they forget why they fell in love in the first place. Its always the little things that seem to matter most aswell. If we could all just practice these things on a daily basis I think relationships would be alot better and last a great deal longer. In my relationship it wasnt the case of any of these. I always did the right things and always made sure to mak esure this person knew I loved them every single second of every day. I always phoned, wrote, sent cards, ect...Every single day! The reason in my situation is I am not the right religion...YET! Thanks!
2007-09-28 15:02:39 · update #1
Good heartedness is different
from an expectant heart,
people will hurt you wheather
you are good or bad, the only
difference is in the responce,
some people will wonder
why they get hurt when they
expose there heart to some
one, and others will simply
crack another's mouth open
because thay don't take
kindly to being used . . .
as for a broken heart due to the what come's from
when we fall in love, unfortunately like the old rolling
stone song, " You Can't Always Get What You
Want " love is something that can easily out
maneuver the so called , " Exspectant Heart ".
My self i have found that when some one hurts me
the best thing to do is find some one else in pain
and do a good deed for that person, trust me you
will feel so good about it , it's like wiered cause
you suddenly for get your own pain when you see
another smilling from the good you did, but then
why not? after all they were like you and in pain
and now there smiling again because of your
good heart . . .
as for the women, what can i say if i had a dollar
for every broken heart i got 'till i met my wife,
i'd make bill gates look like a pauper, to begin
with if i knew, i was gonna meet someone like
my wife, i would have gladly forgone any of the
past relationships and saved my self a lot of
grief from those broken hearts, but we don't
know this do we? . . .
Then on the other side of the coin, look what
women put up with also, only they get it after
they not only give there hearts, but there soul
as well, you know, as in in soulmate as in
marriage, and then more often than none,
are left with the brunt as you call it, of kids who
are left behind to fend for them selves . . .
Cheer up you'll live through it, youth and all
it's conflicts including love, is nothing more
tha a rehersal 4 what's coming down the
pike of adult hood . . .
2007-09-28 08:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ben 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Could Say The Same Thing About Men... But Its Just Something That Happens... And Each Time It Does it Just Doesn't Get Eaiser !!.. Just Dont Give Up !! Theres Someone Out There... And I Know It Hurts But The Only Way It Gets Better Is To Keep Looking !!
2007-09-27 10:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rosiiiiiie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to look at the type of person you are going out with. Do you attract flighty women who only want a superficial relationship? Does it move too fast then fizzle? What age group are you dating?
There may be some common character traits that will make a person flighty and it also may be one of the things you find attractive. Aloofness? Hmmmm.
By having a really hot, fast moving relationship it is understandable that it can cool off as fast as it heated up. Take your time! Get to know the person. Really, talking is a good thing. By having casual conversations you may find the person you may think is it, isn't. Having someone who can make you laugh and challenge you intellectually may stick around a bit longer.
There are women out there that are looking for a person as you describe yourself! Keep your chin up and please don't get discouraged. She is out there somewhere.
Take it from me, when ya ain't lookin' is when ya find it. ;o)
2007-09-27 10:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ako E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i can say something not all girls are like you say im a really nice girl i have a big heart but there is some guys that just like to be switchin off and on for girls to so its about the same you just have to know the person good before you ask them out cause you never know i know alot of girls who are just gold diggers i think its really stupid because there the ones that have the looks sometimes and thats when boys get caught up with them. sometimes the good hearted people get broke hearted many times. i know from expierence
2007-09-27 10:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by my 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be brutally honest most women want a good hearted man but its the tendency to want a "bad boy" that compels them. We always want that good guy when he is gone, or when we are stuck with the "bad boy " who becomes a total loser. Women tend to be the more sensitive of the relationship and we want a stern strong shoulder to lean(or cry) on. Having someone just as sensitive as us becomes too high maintenance and we already are(most of the time). If you have a huge heart we love that, but don't stay being the push over. People will run over you, regrettably people take advantage of that type of person and YOU deserve better. Just try to not let your guard down too soon, mystery is a HUGE plus to women. We like that game of figuring you out.
2007-09-27 10:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by LeLeblue 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
David thankfully the human heart is very strong and capable of recovering from heartbreak. Throughout life sad fact is that our hearts usually get broken many times. But in return we are usually guilty of breaking others hearts along the line also. Eventually someone will come into your life and see the heart that you have to offer and want it for their own. Believe in yourself and be yourself and soon enough there will be a suitor in wait for you, but it just might take longer than you want. So be patient and good things will happen for you.
2007-09-27 10:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Their is NO way to determine when the hurt of a broken heart will cease... Only time can heal.
If you know your a good person then don't stop being who you are... There is a girl out there for you just be patient...
Good Luck...
Write back when you find her...
2007-09-27 11:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by HoTTTcarmel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think eventually you put a guard up and make it harder to fall in love. That's what I did. And maybe, just maybe, someday someone will come along and get through the wall and it'll be great. Until then, the wall is staying up!
2007-09-27 10:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the other posters got it- you only have to get it right once.
Different women want different things. You need one that wants YOU. Don't change yourself to attract someone because you will always revert back to just being you-which is the best! Love truly hurts, but every day is like taking one step closer to finding ******her******
Good luck sweetheart!
2007-09-27 10:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by colley411 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ah, the unanswered question we all ponder.......How many times will my heart break before it's found someone who won't dare break it. I guess in a way.......your heart will always be broken by someone. But it's up to us to not let it break us down enough that we can't get back up. As a women I can say that my fellow girls are just dang stupid when it comes to a good guy..........but don't worry you'll find your girl!!!!!!!
2007-09-27 10:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by aLøhå LuVeR 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋