with your child molester,if it was your father?'remember the saying''honor your parents''??
2007-09-26 19:29:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
it didnt happen to me personally,but it happens often to children and i just wanted peoples opinions,and thank you all for your compassionate answers!
2007-09-28 15:39:53 · update #1
im sorry as i normally choose the answer myself but this one is just to hard for me,so i have to put to a vote,thank you all again!!
2007-09-28 15:47:37 · update #2
How would you honor someone who has commited such a crime - and thereby has forfeited his/her rights of being considered a parent?
The ONLY reason to do so, would be if:
1) He has paid the price
2) Has expressed extreme and sincere remorse
3) Has not done it to anyone else
Otherwise - no.
Regardless of the biblical saying - because that person is no longer a parent.
(Doesn`t it have a saying similar to "parents, don`t hurt your children" ?)
2007-09-26 19:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by U_S_S_Enterprise 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on what kind of person you are. I personally could not bare to look at them after that. I would not want to be around them and I would be scared to death of them being anywhere around any children I might have.
People are trustworthy only to an extent. How do you truly know if a person has over come their past? How do you know they would not hurt someone else or they are not already hurting someone else? It is just such a tough call. Nevertheless, I would much rather play it safe than sorry.
The Bible says, "Woe unto any that would hurt God's little children". I think God would understand if you did not want this person to be a part of your life. He is a God of compassion and understanding and the moment he hurt you I personally feel he gave up any right to be called a father.
If the only reason you have to stay in touch with him is your religious beliefs then you need to pray and really take some time to listen. Take a good look at the situation and make sure you are doing what God tells you to do not something out of guilt or a feeling of loyalty towards “family”.
2007-09-27 04:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Buack's Mommy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only through the courts, when they charged him. I don't mean to be blunt/harsh , but honor your parents does NOT apply to predators..,.who are not parents to begin with. They are merely not human.
I am sorry for what has happened to you. I wish you good luck, and hope you can get some help, and distance yourself from this terrible thing that happened to you.
2007-09-27 06:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by hb kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!
I wouldnt.
Parent or not, a crime is a crime.
Against a child is even WORSE.
Big hugs to you and I hope you are getting outside help to get you through this.
2007-09-27 02:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would never speak to my father again!! I can't honor someone who hurt me!! You have to give respect to get it!!:)
2007-09-27 02:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not according to Alice miller. check out her books. www.alice-miller.com but ultimately it's your choice. if he has sincerely apologize and doesn't do that anymore, it could be possible to contact, but what about your kids, if you have any, you must not leave them alone with him.
2007-09-27 04:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hullo
child abuse is a medical and legal issue, you should inform the authorities about it, it is best to stay away from the harmful source.
Dr solo
2007-09-27 03:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by baghdadcatcash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's a child molester, then there's obviously no honor involved, is there?
2007-09-27 02:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Hawkster 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Maybe after I grew up and beat the crap out of him. Guess it's time for me to get off the computer. My "crappy" side is coming out to play. lol I just don't have much sympathy for people who do this...esp . if they get away with it.
2007-09-27 02:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Deenie 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Oh yes if there was forgiveness and reconciliation.
2007-09-27 02:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by Wilson C 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋