2007-09-25 22:51:20 · 35 answers · asked by Orphelia 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Pull away and if possible leave the room if not the house. Remember that she is probably more vulnerable than you and you if you respond are putting yourself in the wrong even if you do not kill her by accident. If she is in the habit of attacking you either leave the home or go to a solicitor to have an order made for her to do so. I have been the victim of a wife beating idiot, do not let yourself be trapped into being like that. The law is there - use it - not fists. OK?
In UK info@mensadviceline.org.uk is an email address for support for men who are victims of domestic violence hope it is of some use if needed.
2007-09-25 23:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'll speak to you as if you were my son.
Not in kind-violence should not be answered with violence. Besides, she might call the cops-and with the evidence (women always seem to retain the red area longer) they'll haul you off to the hoosegow. Then you'll really have the start of trouble-trouble that will haunt you for the rest of your life, if there's ever another incident. Prior behavior, you know.
Prudence would be a better choice, walk out and stay out until things cool down. Then a very frank talk about the unacceptability of violence and what's going to happen if there's ever a repeat--for me, it's a deal-breaker.
If she's a girlfriend, the thing would be over.
If she's a wife, then counseling is in order.
If she refuses, then, you have to decide if you want to stay married. And don't give me, "she's not always like that... she IS like that. The same rules that women apply to men, should be applied to them. What would she say if you were the one who slapped her?
Nip it in the bud, now. It will only get worse if this is not addressed. Is a violent marriage what you really want?
Yell? Fine. It's only noise. Only, don't curse. It's not nice. Yell, about what you don't like.
Then, if the love is good, you'll kiss and make up. If not, then stop wasting your time and get a nicer girl.
2007-09-25 23:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbabe 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you can't hit her back as things would just get out of control, no matter how angry you are .
So to make up for my feelings of anger , despair and any loss of face and masculinity I would have to take the joint-name credit card , go to a "gentleman's club" , buy all my mates drinks (and dances), followed by the most expensive restuarant in town with all my mates via a limo and contemplate the indignity of the whole scenario from the Bahamas. A night - out and a few days holiday at half price ! Hey , I'm a bloke and naturally immature- when life gives you lemons , make lemonade.
2007-09-25 23:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by e257rage 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should make it very clear that she is to never hit him, and that if she ever hits him again, the relationship is over, no questions asked. That means if she is a girlfriend, he would break-up with her and if she is his wife he would immediately leave her and get a divorce.
Domestic violence is domestic violence, whether perpetrated by a man OR a woman. If you let it slide once, it will only escalate. Physical abuse should never be tolerated in any relationship and if it happens more than that one time, then that tells you that this person is likely to become a repeat offender. No matter how much you may love them, they are not worthy of you and are very likely a danger to your emotion and physical well being and everybody deserves to feel and be safe.
2007-09-25 23:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tea 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Call the police and have her arrested for domestic violence. I am sick of hearing how it is ok for a woman to hit a man but a man that hits a woman is a Bast***. If you are in relationship both parties are suppose to be mature and hitting is something that little kids do.
2007-09-26 01:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Angela F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the room --- or the house --- for a fair bit of time. If it happens again I think the correct response would be to leave for good rather than to hang around and wait for another episode of abuse.
2007-09-26 03:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap back - otherwise you will continue to do it and get away with it. What makes her so special that she can slap you and get nothing in return.
The first time my wife slapped me, I warned her if she did it again she'd get one back. A few months later it happened again and I slapped her back. It didn't happen again, that was a few years ago now.
2007-09-25 23:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's funny the prejudice. If a man slaps a woman, everybody hates him, if a woman slaps a man, everybody assumes he deserves it.
Obviously, men hit harder than woman, and you should never do it, but then neither should a woman ever hit a man.
It shouldn't be taken lightly as many men actually suffer domestic abuse from their wives as they are too scared to hit back and can often get seriously hurt.
2007-09-25 22:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by Marky 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I'm as much of a feminist as they come, but I do NOT condone a female using the fact she is a woman as an excuse for hitting a man expecting that they won't hit her back.
2007-09-26 00:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Expert8675309 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the ***** but tell her you have been having sex behind her back with several of her friends (even if you have not)
It will make one heck of a cat fight and you can laugh all the way into the arms of some more obedient ***** you can own.
2007-09-27 10:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by elfeste2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋