I was just wondering because obviously you have already sent out invitations plus forked out for meals, drinks and cake/buffet etc for all your guests. To me it just seems an added expense and most people take one look at them and bin them!
Would you be offended if you didnt receive one?
2007-09-25 21:17:29 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i was told it was!! so i made my own on the Internet... went on http://office.microsoft.com/en-gb/clipart/default.aspx?lc=en-us for free download, then i printed pics on A3 paper I was surprised how good they looked with a little glitter and I'm not a arty person... did 170 for less then £10
and you can send them to fit the person... for example, for older aunts i send traditional pics etc...
hope it helps
2007-09-25 21:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by tink 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you threw a party that you wanted to throw, and you invited people you wanted to have there, who you are probably expecting have spent money on a) dressing up, b) traveling, and c) buying you a gift.
Oh, and you don't want to spent the 45 cents to answer them? Get a few less flowers and do the right thing. Darn straight I'd be offended! Birthday cards might be looked at and binned as well, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't send them.
So YES, it would be rude NOT to send them.
2007-09-28 00:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is rude not to acknowledge a gift in some way.
If you feel that you have "forked out" then perhaps you invited the wrong people.
I thought that you invited people you wanted to be with you when you got married. Otherwise you may have done better to either go off on your own, or abroad.
Don't forget your guests too have "forked out". New outfits, hair-do, probably a hotel room, and of course - the present.
I think honours are probably even on the amount spent by the hosts per guest for food etc, and by the guest to attend.
2007-09-25 21:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by jaymac318 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I know; but that is part and parcel of organising a wedding. I really think you should thank, individually, everyone who gave presents. It IS a fair bit of trouble all right- but it is also the done thing. It can be a nice way of keeping lines of communication open between families who may not see each other very often.
Where I live, it is also customary to send a tiny piece of wedding cake to those who gave gifts but were unable to attend!
Get stuck into the thank-you cards; you won't be sorry.
2007-09-26 03:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is rude not to send thank yous to people who have forked out their money to buy you a gift, not matter what it is. They have put money and effort into getting you something for your wedding so it is nice to show them that it was appreciated and you can also thank them for attending as well.
When my fiance's brother got married they did very well out of presents and we didn't get a thank you and we spent $100 which is a lot for us because we are students so it would have been nice and good manners just to receive a little note. But they did give give us a verbal thank you so that was something. On the other hand, we did travel to get their so anyone who travelled a long way to go to your wedding should definitely get a thank you if you can't be bothered to do them for everyone else.
However, everyone should get a thankyou!
2007-09-25 23:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The last wedding I went to I did not receive one and yes, I was very offended. Your guests are taking a) time out of their schedule, b) money out of their pockets for gifts, travel, etc and c) money sometimes for a babysitter or pet sitter.
It is one of the main etiquette things.
My big lecture being done, I went to a couple sites to confirm this, and time you have to send them out, etc:
1 - Thank you Do's and Don'ts - http://ourmarriage.com/html/thank_you_cards.html
1. Never, Never, Never, send a preprinted thank you card. When you send a preprinted card, you are telling the person receiving the thank you that their gift didn't mean enough to you to even receive a mention in your note. A warm personalized, handwritten note, regardless how brief, tells the guest how much you appreciated the gift and how it will be cherished for years to come. Handwritten notes express sincerity.
2. Be sure to send thank you notes to friends and relatives who arrange showers and parties for you. It is appropriate to thank them for the party or shower in the same card you send thanking them for their gift.
3. When you receive more than one gift from someone, each gift must be recognized with its own thank you card. If you receive a shower gift from a friend or relative and then, three weeks later, receive a wedding gift from the same person, it is not appropriate to thank them in one card. Shower gifts should be acknowledged within ten days of the party and wedding gifts within two weeks after returning from the honeymoon. Wedding gifts arriving in advance of the wedding, should be responded to immediately, so that an extended period of time does not pass between receiving the gift and it's thank you.
4. Be sure to put your new return address on all thank you cards. Your guests will appreciate having your current and correct address.
5. Although colored ink is readily available in your favorite stationery store today, it is still more appropriate to write your notes in dark blue or black. It is more easily readable.
6. When writing thank you notes, never start the note with "I." Always use "you" more than "I" or "me" in the note.
Theknot.com:
Q. I am giving silver picture frames as favors, and I would like to include a personalized thank-you card inside each to save on postage. Is this okay, or should I wait and send them after the honeymoon?
A. The problem is that some of the guests at the wedding may not have given a gift by the wedding date (they have a year after your wedding day to send one), and it might make them feel awkward or uncomfortable if you give guests thank-you notes when they haven't given you a gift. It's a nice thought, but you should really send thank-you notes to all your guests through the mail. It's the most courteous way, and it will also help you avoid confusion later.
Most people, especially your older guests, will not bin them but keep them around for awhile. Heck, I am offended if I don't receive them after any gift, birthday, Christmas, whatever.
2007-09-25 21:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
NO!
I do not give gifts to get a thank you card.
It is opened, read, and thrown away in the same movement.
IMO the thank you is in the wedding reception. Throwing a party, giving out food, having a dance floor and entertainment, as well as (for some weddings) an open bar. Its a celebration for the bride and groom as well as a "thank you for coming to the ceremony".
I DO think you should send a thank you note, whether they gave a gift or not (as gifts are never required). Thank them for attending and, if they gave a gift, thank them for the gift.
2007-09-27 07:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't seem to think very much of the people you've invited to your wedding!! You should maybe consider that they are attending because they want to see you get married, not for the cake you've forked out for!!
It is polite to send a thank you card, not only for the gift but because they came to share your special day with you!!
A thank you note doesn't need to be expensive, you can use cheap paper and envelopes!!
2007-09-25 21:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by libbyft 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is EXTREMELY RUDE not to send one. A bride and groom don't go around at the reception thanking everyone for the gift. It is simple etiquette to send a note thanking your guests for the gift.
It don't buy the excuse of an added expense. You can buy simple thank you cards at dollar stores (8 cards for $1) and
a stamp cost 41 cents.
PLEASE SEND them!!! Yes, I would be offended.
2007-09-26 03:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be a dying art to send thank you letters of any kind, but I think it is important to after a wedding - after all, you probably didn't see the person when they gave you the gift, let alone open it in front of them (most weddings, the Best Man puts all the gifts on one side and they are opened later). I find it also helps you to remember who gave you what if you actually write and thank the givers - I can still remember who gave me individual pieces of crockery etc. 23 years after my wedding!
Personally, I am a little offended if I don't receive thank you letters, as it appears the gift is taken for granted by the recipient.
2007-09-25 21:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mumknowsbest 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Well people are also spending money going to your wedding (gift, clothes, hair, makeup) and taking an entire day out to be with you on your big day (and weddings are usually an ALL day event) so the least you could do is send them a Thank you note.
2007-09-26 01:58:19 · answer #11 · answered by Mimi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋