only do it for themselves. People make all kinds of excuses, but basically adoption is the most selfish thing you can do, the adoptive parents are worse than the birthparents, they are the ones who want to buy babies.
Don't you agree that it's time to ban adoption?
2007-09-25 20:41:08 · 76 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
I think it's pretty hilarious that people here make these assumptions that all these adoptees' natural parents simply "didn't want them". That's ludicrous.
But then, these people are adopters, so what do you expect...they all heart adoption!
I think adoption is wrong, too, Paula, the way people coerce young women into giving away their babies is horrendous.
Being young and single is seen as just cause for giving your baby away.
You will never see an advertisement or billboard urging a woman to actually KEEP her child.
All these predatory PAP's on MySpace, begging for children, is sick. The same with these "Dear Birthmother" letters, and pre-birth matches, and any AP who fights it if a natural mother changes her mind.
Why people think that being infertile makes them entitled to another person's child is beyond me!
Most infertile people spent YEARS and YEARS and THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of dollars on fertility treatments, because you know what? BIOLOGY DOES MATTER.
Adoption ONLY becomes an option when all else fails...adoption is the consolation prize.
So yes, adopters adopt for selfish reasons, they want a kid, pure and simple.
If more women actually had SUPPORT, they could KEEP THEIR CHILDREN.
Adopters claim to be adopting because they care about these little children and improving their lives. Really? So, how about using that 30,000 dollars to improve conditions in that entire Chinese orphanage? Hmmm? Imagine what it could do for ALL those children? But they'd never EVER do that, because what's in it for them, right?
No, they don't really care about helping anyone, they only care about helping themselves to another person's child.
But they'd never admit it.
2007-09-26 01:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lillie 5 · 12⤊ 19⤋
no its not. I am an adoptee and its not stealing if you were going to be raised or abused by real parents or one parent wouldn't you rather be raised by a loving family that could take care of a child and rear them good? well i was raised better then my sisters becasue i was adopted and that is how i feel. the ones that had me didn't have the finances plus my mom ran out the day i was born with another man. my dad had two small girls and an infant he let me go to grandma and she had small kids plus fought cancer 2 or 3 time sin her life time. i had a good life with her borther. gosh, maybe you could just see a little heart these people aren't buying babies they are helping with the fainances of the people having the babies and have no insurance or stuff. its not to ban it it would hurt the millions of kids that get a good home life and better chance at things. take care.
2007-09-29 16:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that parents should adopt kids because children need a home where they are loved and will be a good place for them and some parents can't have kids so what can they do if people didn't put their kids up for adoption? I don't think that they should ban adoption and think of how kids feel and not on how many kids the parents have as long as they are getting love that should only matter
2007-09-27 13:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by bad_girlbabe 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
How can adoption be selfish? Especially when there are so many children out there without parents who wish they had a loving home to belong to and many couples who can't have biological children of their own to love.
Its not being selfish if you want to bring a child into your home and raise them as your own.
You probably think that the world is cruel and bad and you shouldn't be bringing innocent babies into this world, that sort of thing, well, the decision is not up to you, its up to those people who want to be parents.
Clearly, there are issues you have to deal with. Being a parent can be hard, tiresome, and yes, frustrating at times, but ask any parent out there if they love their children and if it was worth it and they'll probably tell you that its the toughest job you'll ever have but they wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.
Do you have kids? If you don't, then you don't know what is like to have your baby smile at you, it will melt your heart or to have tiny hands give you a hug and say " I love you".
You don't know what is like to be a parent if you don't have the experience.
2007-09-28 23:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by Indigo 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
no adoption is the other way around ... it saves kids from not having a familly
but then again i do kind of` agree that children are not items but people and should not be Sold
i like the idea but ur rite they should have different systems like not Selling the kids
but think about this if the kids couuldn't be adopted then what would happen to them if their parents dont want/cant take care of them they'd be on the friggen streets
thanks to adoption kids can live normally and not in centers
l absolutly love adoption
2007-09-28 09:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Fain 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No that's ridiculous!
I was adopted and I thank God everyday I was, Ive met my birth mother and Ive seen how she lives and I would of turned out just like her! She's hooked on drugs and lives in filth! She gave me up because she knew she couldn't raise me with all her problems she had and I was raised by my adopted paren'ts and had a fantastic life being told everyday I was loved, My parents arent rich but they made me feel so wanted and loved!
I hope you change your mind about banning adoption because it was the best thing that ever happened to me!
2007-09-28 03:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by ▒Bella▒ 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think that you are a horrible person for saying that adoption should be banned. Myself and my two sisters and brother were adopted. I was three years old and if I would not have been taken from my biological family and put up for adoption I would have probably died. I went through so much abuse when I was with my biological parents that I could not imagine what would have come of myself and my siblings. I am thankful everyday that I was adopted into a family that took very good care of us and they did not adopt for your so called selfish reasons. My adoptive parents were not able to have a child of their own so they took us in and I am so glad they did. You are cruel and wrong and you need to rethink the whole ban adoption thing.
2007-09-27 06:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by Sherri 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I don't know what caused you to feel this way but have you tried looking in the other side of the coin. I also disagree with one of those who replied to you saying that people adopt children for selfish reasons. I know someone who although they already have kids decided to adopt a newborn because her birthmother wanted to abort the already 7 mos baby in her. Is that selfishness? How can someone who wanted to have a baby be worse than someone who is willing to sell her baby? Have you asked the children in the orphanages, in the homes, in the different institutions if they don't want to be adopted? Is it selfishness to adopt a baby you found in trash when you only earn a modest income and have a family of your own? In the first place if you can't afford to have a kid or you can't take care of one then be responsible and don't have a baby.
2007-09-27 02:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by dangsky 1 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Adoption is a way to try and ensure a child has a stable, loving environment whereas they might not have. You cannot steal a person because they are not simple objects to be stolen. People cannot own people...that would be slavery. Adoption is a way for a mature and responsible people to care and look after a life that meant enough to the birth parents that they choose not to exterminate the pregnancy. The other option to adoption and termination is letting the children fend for themselves, and that has proven to be a bad idea. In the train station in Moscow Russia there are large numbers of homeless, parent less children roaming around, subject to pedophilic predators and drugs. I do not think adoption should be banned, but I do think your thinking is warped.
2007-09-27 04:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by hellnocutco 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
I think adoption is a good thing those who put there child up for adoption do it because they can't care for the child. And those who adopt it are usually homes with a lot of love and who can't have any of their own. It is not stealing because it is all done volentarily. Now a days they are being way more strict on who they make adopt the babies.
2007-09-26 17:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
You are an IDIOT !!!!!!!!
While there is a blackmarket for babies, LEGAL adoption is a very unselfish act (by the adoptive and biological parents).
What's the matter...we're you adopted? Adoption is better than throwing an unwanted child in the dumpster....
2007-09-28 05:38:32 · answer #11 · answered by Melissa 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋