I am 37, seeing an 18 year old, I feel a bit of a perv to be honest, but I am young looking for my age and she is older than her years, She makes me feel good and I like her a lot. any advice would be great.
no snotty replies please.
2007-09-25 19:51:41 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I take on board what you have all said, this was as much a shock to me as some of you have made clear in your comments, I understand what she thinks now will change from month to month, year to year etc, I know I am old enough to be her father, hence the reason for looking for advice outwith my normal circle of friends etc.
thankyou all for replying so quickly, I didnt know as many people were up at this time in the morning lol
thanks folks, I have taken onboard what you ahve all said, particularly like the comment about her mum still gonna shoot me, yeah, I have met her dad an he seems happy about the whole thing to be honest, so that answers that remark.
2007-09-25 20:11:36 · update #1
thank you all for your comments, pretty much most of them possitive which was what I was hoping for, thanks again to all who took thier time to answer me and also the ones as there were very few of them unpossitive, well, maybe they are the jealous type to what I was asking, WHO KNOWS................. lol
2007-09-25 21:16:14 · update #2
life is good enjoy be happy simple as that
regards x kitti x
2007-09-25 19:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by misskitti7® 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yo man its like this she's 18 and u r 37. She's an adult now and out on her own. Do not be overbearing on her. Let her do her own things and absolutely do not trap her or make her feel this way. She hasn't hit 21 yet when the real fun starts happening. If her family is cool with it and u guys r cool with it then that's all that matters. Why care what others think they might just be jealous. Just keep in perspective that she has a lot of things she is gonna want to do as she gets older let her do them and keep a cool head about them, unless they could cause her harm. Age is but a # once a person becomes an adult. Below 18 and I would say u have issues and need help but since this is not the case have fun and enjoy time with her and just remember to give her space. Hope that helps. Later
2007-09-25 20:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by jayman31 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok well you do know she is still very young and what she wants now she most likely wont want next year or the year after..... I know from experience.
You both are at very different stages of life and I cant see how this relationship could possibly work long term but it may be great fun short term. You may be financially secure and mature than young guys but I just dont get how a teen can be attracted to someone 20yrs older... no offense but when I was her age my parents were your age
enjoy it while you have it, I guess
2007-09-25 20:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
age gaps should not effect the dynamic of a relationship that much...
say if your a 45 year old male dating a 28 year old female
this is fine, you've both completed college, have lived a little and are able to compete with each other intellectually
but I would say, as a 19yr old, that an 18 year old is probably not that mature, and she wont be bringing much to the table as far as experience and just not knowledgeable over all ( i doubt she will be remincing with you over the turbulant Regan administration) she may make u feel young now but she's going to make you feel old later (were u as excited to see the lion king as she was when it first came out? u were 24- she was 5
as women age they grow more mature, confident, and intelligent....
you may prefer a woman whos able to legally drink and pay her tax's at the same time
its up to you though
good luck on your descision!
2007-09-25 20:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm - properly i think legally she IS an person - yet that could be a marginally super agegap and what a guy of that age has in consumer-friendly with an 18 365 days previous baffles me!!! i think of this relationship may well be a situation of midsection elderly guy taking part in having a stunning youthful little bit of eye candy on his arm in my opinion - i think of the age hollow is purely too plenty - she must be out taking part in acquaintances her own age. i understand that if I arrived domicile with somebody that age whilst i replaced into 18 my 2 brothers and my father and mom could have torn stips off me and banned me from seeing him- finished quit - end of tale. of direction theres the alternative that he may well be a certainly stunning guy that does care plenty approximately her- yet with the regulation of relativities it by some potential looks not likely. She might desire to be involved on the topic of the very undeniable fact that a 37 365 days previous male might have so plenty extra in existence than adult men her own age - funds and protection are probably attracting her to this guy - 18 is an impressionable age - and relationship older adult men is now made to look so appealing via hollywood... I dont see this ending happy - desire she works that out quickly adequate! xx
2016-11-06 09:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's 18, so it's legal.I'm your age, and I don't think I'd want to got out with an 18 year old, but that doesn't matter.
If you are both happy, just enjoy being together.Most nasty comments you'd get would be down to jealousy.Life is just too short, enjoy what you have.Best of luck to you.
EDIT:I always had older boyfriends as they took care of me better and they were more sensible than boys my own age.
2007-09-25 20:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by CMH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 18, I was seeing a 38 year old - and what's wrong with that?? If you love her hun and she loves you it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks!! Age is just a number. Have a great life together - I wish you both all the happiness in the world! xxx
2007-09-26 12:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i dont think that age matters as long as it doesnt affect the relationship. My 19 year old friend is going out with someone in their late forties and she has a great relationship. If your not feeling comfortable then talk to her about and see whether she feels the same way.
2007-09-26 00:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by xx Dani xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the moment, whether it lasts for a long time or not.
What is important is how you both feel.
Perhaps she finds men her own age too immature.
My concern is why you feel like a perv, when after, you say that she makes you feel good and you like her a lot.
Respect yourself and your feelings as you should respect her.
Good luck in your future whatever.
2007-09-25 20:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by Paul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was an 18-year gap between my parents, but they remained happily married for 37 years, they met when my mother was in her early twenties.
If you feel uncomfortable with it, then end it. Otherwise enjoy the company of this intelligent young woman.
2007-09-25 20:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 23 years younger than me, and we have been married 28 years. Still soppy over each other, and the gap in ages never comes in to the equation. It was right from day one.
So go for it, hold your head up high, and have no fears.
2007-09-25 20:50:15 · answer #11 · answered by ALAN B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋