My friend wants to kill himself over a girl he's been dating for a year. I've tried to talk him out of it.

Question

What do I do? He won't listen to a word I say and all he says is that his decision of life and death depends on his girlfriend

What do I do? He won't listen to a word I say and all he says is that his decision of life and death depends on his girlfriend. I met while playing an MMORPG (RuneScape) and I've grown rather fond of him. He's helped me through things and I'd like to return the favor, but nothing helps.

I've already said that he'd only lose me, his friends, family, everyone he ever cared about and everyone who ever cared about him. I tried joking, anything funny, I tried to get him to remember when he first started helping me with problems. I used to be like him myself and he helped me. But now he absolutely refuses my help. He says that I'm his only best friend which makes me feel even more responisble for him and his life.

Answer 1

Tell a parent dude. Or call 911. This is a serious matter and you won't find any "real" help online.

Answer 2

Call the suicide hot line (1-800-Suicide) and talk to a responsibly adult (school counselors, your parents, his parents) ASAP. Suicidal threats cannot be ignored. People who are severely depressed often do not see reason; therefore you telling him it's stupid to kill himself over something like this does not register as stupid in his mind. To him, his life if over. There's nothing left living for. The woman he loves has broken his heart. You should be there for him, and listen. Try to help understand where he's coming from, show your support! Often a depressed person feels alone and helpless; which is why suicide seems like such a great idea; they think, "No body cares anyways, whose gonna miss me?" Even if some of the stuff he's sprouting is completely out of your mind crazy, listen. Most importantly tell someones; especially a counselor or parents; someone who can help! This is the most helpful thing you can do right now. Your friend needs professional help!

For more information about suicide go here:

http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/suicide.html

Answer 3

Hi. I have to let you know that this is a serious issue. It is a fact that more men attempt suicde then women.
I have worked at a state hospital, and in correctional facilities. This is not a joke.
Perhap he won't do, maybe he just wants or needs attention, but look at it this way what if he is for real? Do you want to live with the fact that you might have done something to help him if he really did do this? Report it to someone who can help him- you have nothing to lose. At the worst he might get mad that you told, but should understand that you cared enough to help him. At best, you could prevent a tragic loss. Either way, you won't end up feeling guilty that you didn't try to help him. Good luck, and follow your heart

Answer 4

First of all....you are NOT responsible for the actions of another person. Second of all....statiscally people who actually commit suicide won't tell you they're going to do it, they will just do it. Because he is telling you though, understand that this is a cry for help and the attention that he isn't getting and needs right now. I do not agree with suicide as I believe it is a "cop out" to problems. All you can do at this point is reassure him that there are other people in his life that love and care about him and by committing suicide, he will only leave those people sufferring for the rest of their lives and thinking...."I should've done this, I could've done that, I wish I'd have done this." Say a little prayer for him and hope that God will see him through this. It is not up to you to save him.
You may want to do some research on the signs of suicide...withdrawl from family and friends, tidying everything up as people that commit suicide don't typically want to leave their belongings in disarray, and talk with his family about what he has told you so that they can be looking out for him and talking with him. Lastly, remember that if he really wants to do it, nothing will stop him.
Hang in there.

Answer 5

Well if you can't talk any sense into him, then you need to tell his parents. Yes, he'll be pissed but people who talk about suicide usually try it. He needs mental health help.

If he's that obsessed with it, my guess he'll try and lets hope he fails, but once he tries it and fails he'll become more obsessed with it.

Have you even met this person in real life?? Would you even know how to find him? Have you talked to him on the phone?

If you've never met but have talked on the phone, and not a cell phone you can do an address search at whitepages.com and get his address, hopefully. If it's only his cell phone the police can track it. Or your local suicide hot line will assist with tracking this kid down.

xxx

Answer 6

Call the nearest suicide hot line. They will be able to tell you what you should do. They are in all of the phone books. You don't say how old you are. If you are underage you need to tell an adult. It could save his life. Some people just say that but others really mean it and there is no way to tell where your friend falls. Hurry and call. Good luck.

Answer 7

Get professional help. Tell him that he needs it cause no life is worth losing over someone. Tell him that breaking off will end up being the best thing he ever did. If he loved her he will learn to let her go. If happiness is what he wants for her tell him to let her go. Go talk to someone a counselor, therapist,etc. Tell them whats going on with your friend and bring him along. Maybe he should needs to talk to someone. Good Luck and i hope he gets through it.

Answer 8

Dont do a damn thing. If someone wants to kill themselves then they are going to do it regardless of what you or anyone can say. The only way to prevent this is physical restraint and medication. So unless you are prepared to do this.... Plus your friend has been reading waay too much Shakespeare. This is not Romeo and Juliette. Tell him to get over her and deal with it

Answer 9

Most likely he won't do it, I know quite a bit about suicide due to being dumped by someone that meant the world to you. Just try to get his mind off it, spend alot of time with him doing fun stuff get his mind off his ex gf. Worst comes to worst and you actually feel like hes going to do it, call 911 and tell them you have a friend who is contemplating suicide and you fear for his life, give them his address and hope they make it there in time. Let's hope it doesn't come to that.

Answer 10

Sometimes people like that just want attention or they feel alone. Like if that one person were to walk out of there life's that they would have no one who loves or cares about them. The best thing for you to do is to let him know that your there for him and that you love him and his life isn't worth taking because his g/f is mad at him. Ask him if he would like to hang out with you just you and him and if he wants to talk about it. If he says no then tell him that girls always get mad and to let her cool down for a couple of days then try to talk to her again. Let him know if he kills himself he still isn't going to get the girl. and if he still wants to kill himself then TAKE HIM TO GET HELP...dont just sit around hoping he will be OK. Maybe he will but then again take the safe way and get him some help....

Answer 11

SHORT AND TO THE POINT ....

Anytime suicide is a serious concern, you can bet it's more than just the loss of a girlfriend under the surface.

He needs professional help and I mean that in the most respectful way. You can't "save" him alone.