I recently started a new job at a beautiful vacation resort. Although the job is great & my co-workers are friendly. I feel as if I'm being left out. The women all sport Louie Vuitton, Channel this, Jimmy Choo that. The men talk about the speeds of their boats and their weekend golf matches. The other day when I was asked for id & could not find my drivers license, HR told me to just show my passport. When I replied I didn't have one she seemed shocked, "you've never been out of the states?" was her reply. One of my "twenty something" co-workers has just left on a two week trip to London. Look...I've got four kids and bills that give birth to more bills! I shop at Wal-Mart and I make cuisine meals out of Raman noodles. I hate to seem anti-social, but I'm so out of place around them. A luxury trip to me is going to Disney once every three years. Does anyone understand?
2007-09-25 19:05:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think lots of people have walked a little ways in those Choos ---- I mean shoes.
I know exactly where you're coming from. I just try to remember that under the Prada or Chanel they are human just like me and no more or less susceptible to love, hate, insecurity, illness, happiness, whatever.
Sometimes it's hard to feel that everyone else has all the goodies and in an environment like that it can seem that way because the view is so skewed toward the privileged. When this happens to me I look around my 2-bedroom house and remind myself that I have a more comfortable home than 80% of the people on the planet and I am really lucky. I just need to change the perspective around a little.
Just be your sweet self. The lady who asked the passport question was sort of clueless but I am sure she didn't mean to make you feel bad. Sometimes we put our foot in our mouth --- even if its got a Jimmy Choo on it.
Hug your kids and have a great day!
2007-09-26 03:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? In this day and age, with this world's "Charge now, pay later" attitude, it's refreshing to see someone who's doing their best to care for their family without being a slave to material things. Sure, it'd be fun to go out and see the world and I'm sure that Vuitton purses are nice but you've gotta make ends meet.
Don't let anyone look down on you because you can't have the "finer" things in life. You're taking care of your business to the best of your ability.
When the conversations around the office gravitate that way, try to steer it towards something that everyone can agree on like family matters, traffic, the weather, sports, etc. If someone's going on a trip somewhere for the weekend, mention that you're going to spend some extra time with the kids.
Hope that helps!
2007-09-26 02:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by ♥☺ bratiskim∞! ☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to being the true you, these people may make you feel uncomfortable right now, but wait til they get there heads out of the clouds! Who knows if they can really afford what they have, I know tons of people w/ cool cars, big houses, and dressed to the nines. I can guarantee none of there stuff is paid in full, it's on credit! We always think the grass is greener on the other side, it's not! Every one of these people have a hidden problem, that you don't know about. Just sit back and watch, as tempting as it is to want to be like them, they are just like everyone else. They have worries too!!! If you like the job and you need the money stick w/ it until something better comes along, but if you feel it could lead you into some financial troubles, because you have to shop, to keep up with them......then get out fast!!!!! Goodluck!!!!
2007-09-27 09:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by Peng-you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes unfortunately many people try and outdo each other. Especially in workplace and business. I feel in my heart you would be more suited to community work where you can help and understand people more.
These people obviously do not understand how the other normal people live, and think they are lesser class than them.
Most people are not like this, you only hear of the rich people more cause they have more money to burn and tend to get out more.
Normal people are at home struggling watching their pennies.
You sound like you have a kind heart and understand more than they ever will.
Like the old adage says money cannot buy happiness, if they feel the need to prove themselves they are not happy.
2007-09-26 03:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Spanking Santa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold your head up high-you are living within your means and earning your own living. I can't imagine the twenty something is paying for that trip-Mommy and Daddy perhaps? Or Sugardaddy?
All their designer clothes and expensive possessions will never match the joy you receive from your kids.
2007-09-26 03:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that, I have friends that go out every weekend and party at the lake all weekend long.
with kids and a wife, that just don't happen.
my kids are older now and they almost support themselves it is like a whole new life is opening up to me.
hold out and don't be discouraged.
enjoy your children while they are willing to let you be a part of their lives.
take lots of pictures, that is the one thing that I missed out on that I am really sorry I didn't do.
Parents Unite. lol
2007-09-26 02:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do. i am married to a military man, we live pay check to paycheck, and cant afford $1000 purses and shoes. i am glad that walmart has those kids clothes for $2.88. maybe one or 2 of your coworkers arent like that, or they will still be nice to you anyway. somebody at the company must think you are good enough because you got the job.
2007-09-26 02:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by nightbutterfly69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way, then you are in the wrong place. Get a job with co-workers similar to you.
2007-09-26 04:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some working atmospheres are tougher than others.
So,
How good is the pay/benefits?
Is it worth the pressure?
2007-09-26 06:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by mahawi61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋