I know I shouldn't be upset, and it's his birthday and he should do whatever he wants. But, I can't help but feel a bit of a heartbreak over the fact that he'd rather go out with his friends. I wish he would have wanted to go out with me instead, but I guess he would rather not. Any words to me make me feel better about the situation?
2007-09-25 19:01:41 · 13 answers · asked by Blessed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really want to go with his friends let him go but before that tell him to promise that he will take u out next day or whenever it is ok for both of u for celebration of his b'day.that day only both of u would be celebrating & no bodyelse would come with u.
2007-09-25 19:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by vahi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but its just 3 years. I know for some that is alot of time. But still this is still a pretty new relationship. And regardless how long you date someone its still "their" birthday they are entitled to do whatever they wish on that day. I mean he sees you probably alot of the time during the week and he rarely sees his friends. I say when he gets home just sing him happy birthday, something really sweet. Or if you have a key to his place go over there in some sexy lingere and as he comes in say its time for some more fun or birthday spankings, lol. I mean that would make you both feel good.
P.S. Guys love a girl that doesn't take every bit of time he is away from her so personally. Everyone needs their space. So don't be the crabby and clingy gf that won't let her man, spend one bday with his friends. And if you want to do something special for his bday, tell him that in advance. So he doesn't make plans, cause he knows he will be with you on that day.
2007-09-25 19:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all like to feel we should spend the birthdays of our boys all to ourselves forever... but no can do. Have you spend the last birthdays with him? Be truthful!
Just reassure yourself that you're being a very very fair person and that there is no need to feel sad. Emotions are selfish things, afterall. But if you feel he's excluded you out for some shady reason, I would question his reason for doing so. In any case, the invite was probably because all his friends might have planned it, not him. I suppose in the male world, it would have been bad sportsmanship to decline such a plan, no?
How about throwing him with your own surprise party and treats, so you two could spend time together? That way, he gets 2 more birthday parties, spends time with his friends and you, and you spend time with him, we all win!
2007-09-25 19:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's telling you about the depth of his relationship with you. Were you invited? Or was it clear that you were not invited? If he expected you to come along with his friends, then that's different - not so bad. You have to ask him to give you some private time on that day too. Don;t force him to choose one or the other.
If onthe other hand he has not invited you, and doesn;t expect you to come, you have to wonder why he doesn't want you there. We all need time away from our loved ones but that shouldn't be on a special day - there are 364 other days that are not his birthday for him to spend with his friends. His feelings are not the same for you, as yours are for him. If he had a special place in his heart for you, he would find a special part of the day to be with you. I would ask him directly, and tell him how you feel. Try saying "When you exclude me from your special day, it makes me feel that I'm not a special person in your life. That makes me feel sad"
Good luck. It's not a good omen for the future, but ask the question and give him a chance to explain.
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you voluntarily, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was.
2007-09-25 19:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Punty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him that you feel a lil bad because you'd rather him spend such a special day with the person that truely and deeply cares and loves him but you understand that he does have friends to celebrate and stuff.........come to an agreement where he can spend part of the day with you and part of the day with the fellas which would probaly be at night and remind him that he has something even better waiting for him (wink*wink*) give him a lil sample so he can come back for more not all of it though
2007-09-25 19:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by C.H. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he wants to just have fun with his friends all together at once, it shouldnt be too bad if it just happened this one time, but if it continues to happen than he may be taking you for granted. You should just let it go and do something afterwards for him, guys friendships are hard to have we rarely get together because most guys are in relationships and the girl is always planning things, but thats only the case for some of us. If its his birthday let him enjoy it instead of regret it.
2016-05-18 23:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 3 years, he should want to spend his birthday with you. (and maybe do a thing with his friends a different day)
It doesnt sound to me like he is really in love with you. He is with you because he is used to you and what you offer him.
You didnt mention how old you guys are...
If you guys are over 25 and you had been with him for 3 years, then I would expect he would have wanted to make time with you for a birthday thing.
If he was younger, then I would expect that he is still playing and his committment isnt that mature for you yet.
2007-09-25 19:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it is his birthday.most guys are nowhere near as emotional and clingy as women. of course on your birthday you want to spend the whole day with him and have a romatic dinner and such, but guys are wayyy different. Just talk with him he could make time for all of you to see him...like have dinner with you and then go with his friends... Just talk to him, but b careful not to come off as being to clingy or angry...that can really turn a guy away from a girl. Just remember guys are different sometimes we just have to suck it up and go along with them. trust me i've been with my boyfriend three years now...just give him a little space and it will all work out for both of u.
2007-09-25 19:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by *.: HiS WiFeY :.* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry.. i'd be totally upset and pissed off. Yeah its his bday...but that doesn't mean he should cut you out of it.. your his girlfriend...I bet on your birthday you never get to go out with the girls without him. In my opinion and the guys I know...if he doesn't want you to be there chances are their is probably a reason he doesn't want you there other then he just wants to hang with the guys. Again I dont know for sure..but it doesn't sound promising to me. Good luck!
2007-09-25 19:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by KittieKatten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, can't think of anything to make you feel better.
You have every right to be upset.i would be hell pissed!he should have at least spent half his day with you.if you were in the early part of your relationship, you could be more understanding.but 3 years?not good!
2007-09-25 19:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by Veronika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋