How soon is to soon?

Question

Ok so me and this guy have been bf/gf for 2 weeks now but we have been like dating/haning out since july I don't mean to sound dumb or childish I just don't really know were both 16 but he is turning 17 in 3 mounths and I turned 16 in june. and I was wondering how soon is to soon to move things up a notch. I really like him and I'm not a prude so I wouldn't mind doing stuff for him but I don't want to seem sluty.what do you guys think personal excperinces may help me out more. lol
really I know I don't want to be preached to about how I'll know when or I should wait stuff because Like I said I'm no prude but I Just was wondering what you all thought was a good resonable time frame. thanks

Answer 1

10 years, or a ring.

Rev Danny.

Answer 2

I think you need to use your energy more on schooling cause your math sucks.

Your both 16 but you don't turn 16 till next June and he will be 17 next year too??
That is 15 and 16 right NOW.

You are too young to go any farther than kissing and you know it.

If your really think you are all grown up then post this question to your parents.

Oh and for you to say you want to do "stuff" for your BF, well that is not what its all about, it should always be for the both of the couples, not one sided.

And yes, you WILL get a horrible reputation, don't do it.

Answer 3

I don't think its a prude to wait for the right time to get into sexual behaviours. I mean once you open that door you can't close it back. And usually with sex you hurdle so far forward into it that if you do feel a ounce of insecurity, yo can't really go back to the way things were. Not only that feeling obligated to do something for the guy isn't so good either. If he can't trully wait until you are "seriously" ready to try things then its not cool and he isn't worth dating. But that is my opinion as well.

And as you said you wanted experiences, well I'll tell ya one, my friend that is 20 years old (same age as myself), met this guy online, and in a space of 3 holidays, halloween through christmas, they met, became bf&gf and they met each other's families and even she gave up her virginity to this guy. But the thing she didn't tell me until after the fact was that the dude had pressured her into having sex with him. She just froze up and let it happened. But before then she was giving him bjs and he was going down on her, but still he was pushing and rushing things along, so that they ended up having sex when he wanted to and she really didn't but she went along with it.

So to me that wasn't about being a prude, that is about letting someone else guide what happens to your body. I seriously think you should stop and think about if you really want to do this. I mean I know for alot of young kids today they are doing it regardless. But if you aren't doing this stuff for yourself or for your own right reasons. It will massively come back and bite you in the azz. And don't think the dude will be above calling you a name after he has gotten what he wants. So be safe, use your head, and then do the right thing that is best for you and not anyone else.

Answer 4

It's time when you feel you're ready. Don't be pressured into going early; on the other hand, don't let people try to guilt trip you into delaying once you do decide you are ready.

Some say that they wish they had waited. I don't know what the answer is, all I can say is that you must do what you think is right, not what other people tell you they think is right. Most of whom either don't know what they're talking about (because they've probably never had sex) or they're hypocrites by telling you to wait when they did it at the same or even earlier ages.

Answer 5

Doing stuff for him? It should be a reciprocal event! You want to give him a BJ and so he becomes attached to you? Thinks you are special? Uh uh. It goes both ways or it's the highway! And if you aren't old enough to handle a physical relationship, which is just fine!!!!!!, then lay off of the "doing stuff for him" way of thinking!
When you are both ready to share the commitment and pleasure a physical relationship brings is when it is the right time. Sex makes you feel great! But it also makes babies and spreads STD's! Please, know what you are doing and it's consequences before you make the next step up!

Answer 6

Have sex when you feel you can handle having a baby and fully understand the weight of your actions. Try a couple of months at least anything sooner and you'll be labled as easy and slutty. It's not being a prude to wait it's being smart, it's just a highschool romance, chances are it will be over in a couple of months anyway.

Answer 7

Well, the "time frame" varies from girl to girl, and I never thought more or less of a girl because of how long it took for us to start doing it.
If you feel ready, and you think the guy is worth it, then go ahead, but its completely up to you. Don't let anyone influence you, not even him.

Answer 8

I wouldn't say just yet. I'd wait at least a month before you start that kind of stuff. He'll probably respect you more for it. 2 weeks is really soon, you'll seem easy, and he may not take your relationship as seriously.

Answer 9

you're the best judge to say when you're ready...the right time is not the same for all people...to some it comes early, to others at a later time...if you really feel confident that you are ready...it is bound to happen no matter what...just make sure you use protection to prevent unwanted pregnancies and diseases...

Answer 10

there isn't really a time frame. It's when a person is ready but for your age i say too young

Answer 11

hey well that is up to you, but don't let him think that you is easy ok because if that happen then he wouldn't have no respect for you, let him wait if its worth it he'll be there when both of you are ready (don't rush its not all that important)