so i finally got the nerve to tell this guy i liked him today (3 yr crush).
we seem to be "good friends" but i get the feeling that he is into me as well, he calls me for the silliest reasons (which I predicted he would call) we were on the phone for 2 hours yesterday and 4 hours today, i dont many guys who talk to chicks this long with out "liking" her.
when i told him he "giggled" like nervously, then he said he didnt know WHY i liked him, then followed it up with telling me he wasnt laughing at me, just thought it was funny cause i got all nervous (n he used twitterpatted).
we continued the convo, sorta, nerves where way in play with me by this point then he asks me if my new job is hiring. he wants to work at the same place as me and gives this weird reason why....
so my intuition says he does but if so 1) why is he hiding it if he knows i feel the same and 2) am i reading WAY too much into this???
guys help me on this, please!!!
2007-09-25 18:49:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well! thanks a mill on the response!! ill take that chance! :o)
2007-09-25 19:11:44 · update #1
It's pretty obvious he's into you, but it seems like he's just as nervous as you are about this whole thing. He might not be very experienced with women. Sounds like a potential real-life Andy Stitzer (come on now, twitterpatted... did he really say that?). But if you really like the guy then keep talking to him, spend some quality time and maybe the two of you will get over the nerves. Good luck.
2007-09-25 19:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow - thats messed up.....unfortunately, i cant begin to surmise what would make a fellow guy act the way he does. you've probably already gone over the facts in your mind, and are no closer to figuring this out than i am. honestly, it sounds like something i would have done, wheather i was into you or not.......most men seem to rate looks pretty high on the list of factors that determine attraction. this being said, maybe he's just not attracted to you. maybe he's really into a friend of yours, or a sister, or your mom. we can be real jerks sometimes - i know.
and while im loathe to go here, because its almost cliche' at this point, maybe he's not into women. maybe you have a rep that preceeds you.......it could be anything. sounds to me like he has some issues, and i say that because i know i do. maybe he's just a genuinely good guy that values your friendship, and is responsible enough to realize that he doesnt want to jeopardize it by attempting to make it more than it already is.
whatever "the problem" is, i hope you dont drive yourself mad over it all. there is someone for everyone, and maybe he's just not the one for you. id try talking seriously about it to him once more, in person this time, and try to get a real answer out of him. if he's hesitant to reply, or you get the sense he's not being completely straight-forward with you again, id look elsewhere........
2007-09-25 19:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by staceysmom321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is nervous. Theres a fine line between confused and just stupid. Youre dancing all over it there. A guy has to play it cool and the other thing is guys cannot handle rejection in any form from girls. If you didn't know that maybe you need to take the crash course on dating. Now that the whole liking each other thing is "real" thats going to be a big issue for him.
I dont know why guys are just like that.
2007-09-25 18:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by davemustang262001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really know how you feel? Most guys don't like leaving things like this to chance or signals, they need clear cut words. Some guys feel that if they spend A LOT of time with a girl whether on the phone or elsewhere, that eventually they will just start to date this way avoiding the conversation if you like him or not. You like him? Tell him. You just want to be friends?Tell him.
2007-09-25 18:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by OpenAndy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may be a little on the shy side. Either way, life's to short. Come right out and ask him directly. From there at least you'll know where you stand and can move forward.
2007-09-25 19:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Marko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of me wanting somebody. back on earth I never did. Oh, there have been women. somewhat some women. somewhat some love-making yet no love. you notice, that became the form of international we would made. So I left, because of the fact there became no person to hold me there. Edit: I even have been right here for 5 months and your avatar continues to be BSing an identical ****. are not you or are you unlikely to take that bikini off?
2016-10-05 09:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by wilfrid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we're SO afraid of rejection that we (guys) almost seem like we WANT to be rejected. Looking back on my own life, I was often so caught up with not being liked, that I didn't realize when a girl actually liked me back.
I think he likes you. Just make the move. Life is short.
2007-09-25 19:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by billybudd1313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try asking him out but dont push it and its not a big deal if he says no. its no sure sign hes into you. maybe he sees you as a good friend and thats why he likes talking for so long. remember there is no sure thing he might say yes or he might say no but either way keep it casual and just go for it... you'll never know otherwise
2007-09-25 18:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by avalon552 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you and wants to spend more time with you. Working with you is a way to be with you without intense 1on1 conversations that make him nervous.
2007-09-25 18:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Keith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhh he likes you and is too shy or afraid of spoiling what you have already --- keep seeing him and maybe go out together --- its not a "date" its just going out with a friend --- maybe check out the workplace and then go and have a coffee leave time and maybe you can have a meal together if you get caught up ---- best wishes
2007-09-25 18:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋